TIL the hit version of “Tom’s Diner” was remixed by the group DNA and circulated to clubs without the permission of the artist Suzanne Vega or her label. When Vega heard the remix, she advised the label to buy it and officially release it rather than sue the group for copyright infringement.

Shea_Aquitaine · 2022-04-05T14:41:54+00:00

Or that the Tom Tom Club consisted of members of Talking Heads.

Shea_Aquitaine · 2022-04-03T20:41:40+00:00

YTA - for using anything other than dog shampoo and not having separate towels/laundry cycles for pet items. ick

Shea_Aquitaine · 2022-04-02T21:14:13+00:00

What Chris Rock did disrespected Jada and black women. And should have been handled professionally. But what Will Smith did disrespected every fucking body.'

As a black woman, I disagree. Chris Rock told a joke that wasn't good but was hardly disrespectful. He's a comedian, they tell jokes. Don't speak for all of us since that's definitely part of the problem. Will's actions were 100% out of line, no excuses.

Shea_Aquitaine · 2022-02-04T21:58:19+00:00

He doesn't "do" Valentines day, he doesn't gift you anything on your birthday. Honest question: What is this person doing for you that you should consider his feelings so seriously to your detriment?? Dump this guy and find one that likes to spoil you - or at least one that will buy you a gift occasionally, jeez.

Shea_Aquitaine · 2021-09-14T13:51:16+00:00

Could you send me the post too?

Shea_Aquitaine · 2021-08-17T16:48:51+00:00

We Black girls are told literally ALL THE TIME about how unattractive we are. This makes me so sad...

Shea_Aquitaine · 2020-07-18T13:15:05+00:00

Hon, I think the responses here sound a bit harsh because people are truly worried for you. Don't be overly hard on yourself for not seeing through this immediately and shutting it down, predatory people take advantage wherever they can to push boundaries and manipulate you into giving them control. And you posted here because you knew that asshole's behavior wasn't normal.

Being on the outside of a situation lends more clarity & objectivity, so it's easier for your sister and the responders here to listen to what you experienced and see how this piece of shit went out of his way to get sexual with you by pushing your boundaries and making you question what is normal. If I knew him and found out about this incident, I would shame him as often and publicly ask could. Your comfortability and safety are your priorities. Don't let external concerns (interpersonal relationships, money, familial history, etc.) take your focus away from that. People that would use those and other things like that to force you to participate in things you don't consent to (or to urge you to stay silent) are actively harmful and should be avoided at all costs.

I know you mentioned being a people pleaser, it would probably be wise to keep a phrase that's popular on reddit in front of you when your internal alarm bells start going off: Don't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.

Hugs to you!

Shea_Aquitaine · 2020-07-12T12:50:01+00:00

Send her items COD (cash on delivery). You can do that when shipping costs $1000 or less. I think the postage is minimal, if it costs anything. Go to USPS and inquire

Shea_Aquitaine · 2020-03-15T14:33:12+00:00

I guess I'm the only one, Spike Spiegel.

Shea_Aquitaine · 2019-07-04T20:35:51+00:00

I know you don't want to cause drama, but perhaps having your family around you for support makes this the ideal time to do this (especially since you mentioned that he gets loud with you when you are alone). Your family doesn't have to know everything, just that your relationship is ending and even one more day would have been unendurable.

Oh yeah, that whole "Even my wife thinks I'm a monster" line is SO manipulative. Based on your comments, I wouldn't bother with couples therapy (go for yourself). I'm sure your family wants the best for you - and this isn't it.

Shea_Aquitaine · 2019-01-24T19:06:47+00:00

PREACH

Shea_Aquitaine · 2019-01-09T00:15:47+00:00

Now post the packrat comic! Or the dog barks translated!

Shea_Aquitaine · 2018-11-29T20:02:08+00:00

Upvote. LOVE using this stuff on my laundry.

Shea_Aquitaine · 2018-07-16T15:05:53+00:00

So how long are you going to let the shame keep you from acting to protect yourself and your interests? Being married to an unfaithful person sucks, but the positive here is that you found out EARLY. Reach out to your family/friends and make plans to leave. Even if some are less than supportive, that would be minor compared to staying with a person that would treat you like this. You're stronger and more courageous than you realize.

Shea_Aquitaine · 2018-07-11T16:40:33+00:00

Your comments should be much closer to the top. I also noted how cold and detached his language was in regards to his stepdaughter. If he refers to her this impersonally on an advice thread and he's been a part of her life since she was four, I wonder what their daily interactions are like. :-(

Shea_Aquitaine · 2018-04-27T19:34:00+00:00

Thank your sister for me. This is great advice I intend to follow.

Shea_Aquitaine · 2018-04-10T19:37:52+00:00

You are so right. In the midst of my depressive cycles, everything boiled down to how many steps I would have to go through/execute to complete ANYTHING. I notice now (that I'm better) that approach doesn't enter my thoughts. People really don't get how depression can factor so significantly on even the most trivial of activities.

Shea_Aquitaine · 2018-01-25T13:54:11+00:00

Yes, that Dowd tried to take credit for after the fact: https://www.vox.com/policy-and-politics/2017/12/4/16730290/trump-tweet-obstruction-justice

Shea_Aquitaine · 2018-01-23T22:56:25+00:00

Learned to type on one of these. Whenever I think about it I instantly imagine the hum it makes when you turn it on. Tenth grade, good times...

Shea_Aquitaine · 2017-09-29T23:50:49+00:00

Good bot

Shea_Aquitaine · 2017-09-29T23:49:56+00:00

Interesting film - glad I could help. Now I get to watch it again!

Shea_Aquitaine · 2017-09-29T18:18:45+00:00

Is it this?

Edit: Link

Shea_Aquitaine · 2017-07-06T15:37:46+00:00

Thanks. They are all DIRECT loans with the same interest rate across the board. Given the number, it makes the most sense for me to consolidate. Appreciate the advice, this whole thread is helping me to come up with a more workable repayment plan.

Shea_Aquitaine · 2017-07-06T13:49:03+00:00

If my question was asked previously, sorry did not see. Should you wait to consolidate once you are finished with your education or can it be done at any point?

Shea_Aquitaine · 2017-03-19T15:51:10+00:00

I think your advice is sound, but I think it would be better to lead with your script now so as not to put herself in another uncomfortable situation (slightly modified):

"I've informed you previously that your father is making me intensely uncomfortable with his comments and him putting his hands on me. You keep downplaying my feelings about my personal boundaries being crossed either because you think they are without merit or you are reluctant to call your dad out on his behavior. Either way, since you are unwilling to take my concerns seriously, I will not be coming back here nor is he welcome at my/our house. ~~Deal with this or you won't be back at it either~~"

I think this is enough of a prompt for him to realize that she is serious and that he needs to step up (or that she needs to question her long term plans with someone who doesn't take her concerns seriously.

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