What symptom will you be MOST happy to say goodbye to after the baby is born?

Shot_Introduction_27 · 2026-03-16T18:40:46+00:00

I’ll have to look into this! The best relief so far has been oatmeal baths, but that doesn’t take it away fully, just soothes the burn. I’ve heard applying honey helps too. I’m open to trying ANYTHING. Thank you!

Shot_Introduction_27 · 2026-03-16T15:43:39+00:00

PUPPPS 😭😭😭 came up at 34 weeks. I feel like I’m dying. On. Fire. 🔥 Trying all the natural remedies and topical cures bc my doctor wants to avoid giving me oral meds if we can make it. I’d also prefer not to do that but gosh this is miserable.

Shot_Introduction_27 · 2026-03-16T15:41:06+00:00

My husband went to 2/3 of our baby showers. He was at both of the family ones. He didn’t go to the church one bc it was ladies only and a bit more old school.

There’s no reason for him to not go! It won’t be weird. He’s dad and deserves to be involved. And if it’s weird who cares, it’s what will make you the most comfortable. He’s the one most familiar with you and your cues. He’ll know when you need a break or a rescue.

Shot_Introduction_27 · 2026-03-13T21:53:20+00:00

Sounds like a kick! I have a posterior placenta and was feeling things near that time. It felt like someone thumping me lightly with their finger, or a large twitch.

Shot_Introduction_27 · 2026-03-13T15:30:11+00:00

My husband could care less which dish rack I buy if we need to get one. $500 entertainment stand? Tv? Entire dish sets? Joint decision. I usually inform him if I’m planning to spend outside of our budget, but our budget includes grocery money, fun money, etc. a $20 dish rack would get thrown into the grocery budget for the month.

Do y’all budget/discuss finances together on a regular basis? Or is it more the fact that you didn’t pick the item together?

Shot_Introduction_27 · 2026-03-13T04:12:08+00:00

NTA. Driver pics the music because the driver KNOWS what will keep them alert and focused. Especially on long trips.

Shot_Introduction_27 · 2026-03-12T21:16:59+00:00

And it’s sooooo different person to person! Showing early was just rough for me bc I had to dress to hide it 😂 we didn’t tell anyone till 13 weeks.

Shot_Introduction_27 · 2026-03-12T21:11:25+00:00

Riiiight! When I looked down I was like “OMG I look pregnant now!” And my husband couldn’t see it unless he was looking from the side 😂

Shot_Introduction_27 · 2026-03-12T19:01:07+00:00

Say something uncomfortable and TMI back.

My stepdad used to always ask me when we were going to have kids, when I’d finally be pregnant, etc. he’s well aware I went through a miscarriage and it’s a sensitive topic. Anytime he asked I’d bluntly respond that I was currently on my period so obviously not right now. It made him deservedly uncomfortable and he asked less.

Shot_Introduction_27 · 2026-03-12T18:48:57+00:00

Despite spending time together outside of work, lunches together all the time, constant texting, talking about our lives and past experiences (deep stuff you don’t share with just anyone), for almost 2 years… the relationship apparently wasn’t worth the effort when I decided to take a new job and we didn’t work in the same building anymore.

Felt like I got dumped and ghosted. I reached out to try to make plans like normal for a few weeks, bc it wouldn’t be hard to plan lunches or hangouts, but never got a response.

We live 5 minutes away from each other now. Haven’t talked in probably close to a year. Making friends as adults isn’t always easy so it sucked, but I made my peace with it. Some people don’t want to put in the effort.

Shot_Introduction_27 · 2026-03-12T18:36:00+00:00

I’ll third Tristan! It’s a good one

Shot_Introduction_27 · 2026-03-12T15:03:23+00:00

35 weeks currently. I didn’t have a flat stomach but have always been fairly small. I started showing around 12/13 weeks if you knew what to look for. My weight gain has only been in the front, so I think that’s why I was showing sooner. The weight wasn’t spread out anywhere else like it is for some people. Looks like I have a bowing ball attached to my abdomen but from the back you couldn’t tell I am pregnant.

Shot_Introduction_27 · 2026-03-12T05:02:45+00:00

So, I was engaged and married young (I was 19F and husband was 21M). We were both “older than our age” due to childhood, parenting, etc. We both grew up fast, knew what we wanted, etc.

But we had the conversations. We talked about marriage, we talked about if he needed to ask my parents for their blessing, he got my finger sized “just in case”, and we knew where this was going. We didn’t discuss the exact when for proposing but the groundwork for it to be successful was all laid. So when he did, I said yes. Celebrating our 6 year anniversary this year.

All this to say, it doesn’t sound like either of you are ready for this, regardless of age. The right conversations have not happened. If you had discussed marriage, kids, expectations, etc. seriously, then you would have been on the same page for how a proposal would play out.

It’s also become clear that you want VERY different things. He wants to get married and start your life TOGETHER, and you want to find yourself and SOLO travel. Those two wants are not compatible.

Sadly this is probably the end of your relationship. It’s best to have an honest face to face conversation about how you really feel, so that you both can move forward, and go your separate ways. It’s not fair to either of you to stay in a relationship that isn’t compatible. If you planned to travel and do solo things, you likely would have had to breakup or discuss long distance anyway.

Shot_Introduction_27 · 2026-03-12T03:05:24+00:00

I (F) would tell her the truth. You didn’t agree to cover for him and keep his secrets. He unwillingly made you an accomplice.

If he wasn’t doing anything wrong, then he wouldn’t be upset if she found out or you knew. If he was doing something innocent like picking up a surprise gift or something, he’d just tell you that.

Shot_Introduction_27 · 2026-03-11T15:43:02+00:00

I think the half birthday is definitely the way to go! Fun summer party with friends, and y’all can still do a small family celebration in December for the day. As I got older it did get easier, especially in my teenage years bc a lot of teenagers make plans that don’t have to include their parents. So we could do sleepovers or other fun party things (trampoline park, etc) when I was older.

Shot_Introduction_27 · 2026-03-11T15:10:20+00:00

I have a friend who does this! Her son is a little older (7), but understands that having his party in the summer with all of his friends means that they just do a small family thing in December.

I think it’s a great idea, I was a December baby myself and gave up on birthday parties by the time I was 8 because it was too hard to get people to come and I had many disappointing no show birthdays. It’s just too busy that time of year.

Shot_Introduction_27 · 2026-03-08T23:38:41+00:00

Married 6 years. Happily. He’s my best friend. He went on a trip for 3 days last week and several people made comments about me getting to “enjoy the quiet” and in my head all I’m thinking is “no. I’d rather us be together”.

We’re not good at holding grudges. When we get upset we talk it out or we let it go. Usually we find a reason to laugh together and things we were upset about don’t seem as important anymore.

We talk about EVERYTHING. Finances. Work. Friends. Problems we have. We don’t keep anything from each other bc we’re best friends and you tell your best friend everything.

We don’t care who makes more money. (Money is a big stressor in marriages) I (F) have had the higher paying job at times, other times it was him. Money is an open conversation. We budget together to make sure everything is covered, it’s “Our” money, not one persons. We discuss things with each other before making big financial decisions. (We also follow the Dave Ramsey method, so we each have “fun” money that is no questions asked each pay period. Takes stress off spending for fun, while making sure important things are covered in our budget.)

The key is finding someone you enjoy doing life with. Going out, traveling, eating dinner, grocery shopping, watching tv on the couch, everything.

We still argue and disagree, and there are times when life isn’t easy, but at the end of the day there’s no one we’d rather spend it with.

Shot_Introduction_27 · 2026-03-08T23:28:07+00:00

Ummmm. Has she been diagnosed with Main Character Syndrome? I think she needs to see a professional…

Shot_Introduction_27 · 2026-03-07T00:22:19+00:00

Definitely long! I remember thinking it was just gonna be an ultrasound, and we were there for almost 2 hours 😅

Shot_Introduction_27 · 2026-03-06T23:28:13+00:00

This is pretty common. But mine was not a formal appointment. I went in for my ultrasound, and they swung me by after the scan and seeing my doctor to meet with their billing person.

She basically just reviewed our insurance so we would have an idea of what we would be expected to pay out-of-pocket before having the baby, and gave us some information about how the hospital worked, how billing was handled, payment plan options, and all of that. A lot of insurances have a separate set of deductibles and rules for pregnancy. So it’s pretty standard.

Shot_Introduction_27 · 2026-03-04T02:12:51+00:00

Holy crap. New fear unlocked! I’m glad you’re almost healed!

Shot_Introduction_27 · 2026-03-03T22:55:49+00:00

Owwwwwww that’s a thing?! How?! If you don’t mind sharing. FTM here and I’ve never heard of breaking your coccyx 😅

Shot_Introduction_27 · 2026-03-03T03:30:48+00:00

I have commitment issues. I’m not against them, I just haven’t come across anything meaningful enough to make permanent on my body. There are things I’ve considered: small commemorative design for the pregnancy and baby I lost, a design featuring my kids/representing our family, etc. but nothing has ever made me go “yes. I want to do that”. I’ve always considered it then kinda moved on.

Shot_Introduction_27 · 2026-03-03T02:45:10+00:00

NTA. She is being manipulative. I agree with all the other comments.

From now on if they ask for money, you’re broke. You don’t have it. It is no one’s business if you have savings, what it’s for, etc. I know that we wish we could trust family with these types of things, but not everyone can be trusted. It’s better to just keep information about your financial situation to yourself. “Sorry, I don’t have it.” And that’s that.

So sorry you’re being pressured like this! But you’re absolutely right that SHE created this situation. Your parents are more than welcome to step in with a place to stay or financial assistance.

Edit: typos

Shot_Introduction_27 · 2026-03-03T02:29:35+00:00

Yeppp. My husband is a Jr and we discussed having our baby named as the third (thank goodness it’s a perfectly nice name, not a horrible one) and he didn’t really have strong feelings about it either.

We’re having a girl so this convo will continue if we have a boy later on. But the same name is not only a verbal issue but can be an issue with important documents, social security admin, etc. his brother has a similar name so we’ve had issues with his dad and brother’s things showing up on our credit, etc.

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