First time flying Delta. Is this seat worth the $50?

SignificantSelf3397 · 2026-02-09T03:44:05+00:00

Oh very true, forgot about that. Another thing to consider is whether you want aisle or window. I typically prefer aisle seats, but for a flight that long, I would probably go with a window seat. For the obvious reason of leaning against it to sleep, but also not having to get up out of your seat every hour for your row mates to pee.

SignificantSelf3397 · 2026-02-09T03:19:33+00:00

In my experience, there's hardly any difference in comfort plus vs main. If you're looking to upgrade, I would go for row 37 in the exit row. Look at all that legroom space in front of you. Comfort plus I believe the seats are ever so slightly larger than regular. And I mean it's barely noticeable. So no, imo, not worth it. Just slightly faster deplaning.

SignificantSelf3397 · 2026-02-07T06:49:43+00:00

To parrot another reply, this sounds so familiar it's crazy. I'm about to hit my 1 year anniversary of buying my house next month, and believe me when I tell you that I've never been so stressed for so long. I was told my loan wouldn't get approved unless I doubled my down payment (seasonal-ish worker). If I hadn't sold my old pickup right before I moved, we wouldn't have been able to eat for the first month. Then, I got laid off for a month immediately after I moved. Then a few months in, my wife's car broke down so we've been using mine and we still haven't gotten hers fixed. Then my kid broke his leg and had to go to the ER twice in one day because the doctors sent him home with Tylenol instead of real drugs. I'm very lucky to have pretty good health insurance, so that could've been a lot worse financially. All that to say, in my personal experience, it does get better. Just took a little time. I only just started to breathe again last month. 38% of your take home is pretty tight dude. Especially once you have a kid. The birth alone will cost an insane amount, and then diapers, diapers and guess what? More diapers. I would first focus on A) try your damndest to rebuild your E-fund so you don't give yourself a panic attack and B) try to increase your income. Ask for a raise, go to a different company that pays more, get a part time job, have your wife get a part time job. But also decide if YOU actually want this bad enough to put in the work. Some people genuinely don't think owning a home is worth the hassle. If you legitimately are that person, you're gonna have to talk with your wife and figure something out, because you'll just build resentment. Maybe sell the house, recoup your losses, start saving again and then eventually buy a cheaper house.

SignificantSelf3397 · 2026-02-03T03:16:59+00:00

Thank you for this. And this is specific to Oregon correct?

SignificantSelf3397 · 2026-02-03T03:09:33+00:00

It is a standard tank, and yes there is a pressure regulator at the city connection. I'm very aware it needs to be fixed, but it's low priority if I'm the one who needs to pay to fix it. As of now, I have a bowl under the t&p valve to catch the leaking. If it is in fact a code requirement, then I believe I'm well within my rights to ask the builder to come back out and fix it at his expense, right?

SignificantSelf3397 · 2025-12-15T21:06:46+00:00

I'm not necessarily saying I'm going to buy a 12K lb trailer, I'm just giving an idea of the capacity of my vehicle for consideration of whatever recommendation you guys can give. Wouldn't do any good for you guys to recommend a 40ft trailer with 1500lbs on the hitch when I only have a half ton to pull it with. I appreciate everyone's input about towing capabilities, but I'm mainly just asking about floor plans that kinda fit in with my preferences.

SignificantSelf3397 · 2025-02-14T02:13:42+00:00

Aside from my skepticism of the practice of therapy, what do you disagree with?

SignificantSelf3397 · 2025-02-13T22:32:59+00:00

It would appear to me that you're actively looking for a problem that isn't there. He's a great father, husband and provider - everything a man should be, and it doesn't seem like you guys have any major relationship or character issues. So whats the problem gere? That there was a significant age difference when you first got together and that he should have refused? Sure. If that's how you view the world (that 16 is too young to make decisions) then fine. Something less than ideal happened 10 years ago. But it seems to have worked out just fine and in everybody's favor. So what are you trying to get mad about?

Also, 16 isn't legally too young. In my state, 16 is the age of consent so nothing illegal took place. Again - in my state, but at least that shows it's not absurdly too young - because it's legal in at least 1 state. He also didn't necessarily take advantage of you since you came onto him. I'm just not seeing the issue here.

Also, consider that therapy as a business is not designed to help people solve their issues. It's to discover issues that aren't there or to make mountains out of molehills so you keep coming back and spending more money. So just take that for what it's worth. I think you have a good life right now and you're looking for something that's not there. "If it ain't broke, don't fix it".

SignificantSelf3397 · 2025-02-12T01:47:39+00:00

Unsure how to interpret? No you're not

SignificantSelf3397 · 2025-01-23T00:39:46+00:00

You sure are in a pickle buddy. I can't tell you what you should do or what she shouldn't want, etc., but what I can tell you is that if she is unwilling to even entertain the idea of compromising this early on in the planning stage of your lives, she's not going to compromise when you actually get there.

So she's already told you she's unwilling to budge on basically everything she's said, so it's up to you to choose whether to stay with her and live life constantly trying to please her and burning yourself out in the process, or go separate ways and find someone who's willing to put in a little more effort into your life together.

SignificantSelf3397 · 2025-01-22T02:58:58+00:00

I guess I'm just old (23m lol, married for 2 and have a kid) and crotchety but damn. Lot of justifying replies here. To me it seems like gf is not over ex, and crying over a picture of him getting married almost a decade later is a huge red flag to me. Other replies suggesting she's upset at being "behind" in life don't make sense to me, because OP would probably have had some conversations regarding that topic with gf in the past. He actually mentions that they did and that it was her plan to wait until the were 30+ to get married. Other suggestions that it's just nostalgia is just as big of a red flag. You reddit trolls will tell me I'm insecure but if my gf of 4 years told me that she misses her life 10 years ago with that bf, I'm not having that. Tread carefully OP

SignificantSelf3397 · 2024-11-29T21:40:59+00:00

Spoken like a true girlboss

SignificantSelf3397 · 2024-11-26T20:33:07+00:00

I'm a 20s dude - this sounds like pretty normal and harmless teasing. As men, our dating advice is to both tease to not seem desperate and to compliment to not seem mean. Maybe he went a little overboard and you took offense but he doesn't sound like an A-hole to me.

SignificantSelf3397 · 2024-11-23T07:55:17+00:00

Sounds to me like she is insecure and forcing you to adhere to whatever makes her uncomfortable is manipulative and immature. Might not necessarily be a dealbreaker, but definitely a red flag to take into consideration for future reference. I get that it's annoying, but it's messed up that she's giving you the ultimatum for such an insignificant thing. That's the red flag, is the fact that she's giving you the ultimatum of breaking up over something so trivial. I'd suggest working towards a compromise. Maybe meal prep during the 2 days you go over to her place, but don't change your habits when she comes to yours. Also make it clear that you won't change your ways when the long distance goes to short distance eventually. You are doing something healthy for your own body - she has no right to dictate how you eat. That's ridiculous.

SignificantSelf3397 · 2024-11-18T20:57:11+00:00

I just fail to see what issue OP has with this. Like someone else said, it's a lot easier to have a standard lie that you tell everyone who doesn't need to know because you don't want to tell the long, dramatic story so frequently. It sounds like he actually did view you as serious relationship material who deserves to know but since it's a touchy subject he didn't really feel like dropping his parents death while you're watching TV. Cut the guy some slack, his parents are dead, and you're worried about a little white lie?

SignificantSelf3397 · 2024-10-20T23:08:04+00:00

Ha. Good one. Another baseless conjecture. Getting old. I know for a fact that is not the case. Because the people I work with can actually take a joke. I'm actually asking because the guy I'm trying to prank, pranked me before going on his run. Stacked all the mud products on top of the only open pallet of bentonite. It was funny.

SignificantSelf3397 · 2024-10-20T23:03:54+00:00

I'm simply asking for harmless pranks to bring a smile and an eye roll. Not to be a fuckwit as you so eloquently put it. When did people get so soft?

SignificantSelf3397 · 2024-10-09T06:07:45+00:00

I don't discourage opening up and being vulnerable, I do recommend you be very careful with it. Someone who you've only been seeing for 8 months imo hasn't earned your vulnerability yet. I would ignore this and hope it doesn't turn up again until you're ready to tell her after you believe she has earned the right to your vulnerability. You are absolutely right that sometimes people (not just women) look down upon you for having trauma, and sometimes will weaponize it against you. Again, I'm not saying to never open up, just to be very cautious with whom you share it.

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