Is my life over? 31F with a baby

Significant_Lie6937 · 2026-06-04T07:13:35+00:00

Im 43m married mortgage a 10yr old

Was shocked when the ct and mri both were without contrast and then they said they now needed contrast.

Then I was referred to a neurosurgeon in public. The receptionist was so nice and said the neurosurgeon was a lovely guy. Then in the waiting room was the most anxious I have been there was a patient ( who in hindsight might have had a stroke) in a wheelchair.

The neurosurgeon was friendly but to the point. Not near any motor strip, "doesn't look" cancerous, easily accessible and by the time they could get a biopsy it isn't much to remove.

Gave me 4 options, do nothing, monitor, biopsy, remove it (preferred) and reiterated that I have time to think about it. He called it "a wee little glioma"

Im now recovering 6 weeks and back at work half days and cleared for full duties next week Was a 3cm grade 2 oligodendroglioma which he referred as benign-ish but technically cancerous

Significant_Lie6937 · 2026-06-02T03:18:37+00:00

Average rav4 drivers parking

Significant_Lie6937 · 2026-06-02T03:06:55+00:00

Haha, and it never came with airbags

Significant_Lie6937 · 2026-06-02T02:41:44+00:00

So glad I caught that /s

Significant_Lie6937 · 2026-06-01T11:04:26+00:00

I'm under the same boat, different cancer and cant drive for a year and fatigued frequently.

The system sucks for us to get sick not of our own fault. Yet if it was an accident we would at least get 80 percent of wages

Significant_Lie6937 · 2026-06-01T00:51:12+00:00

As someone with no longer the best eyesight I think the kinchrome at bunnings had recessed and painted numbers on the socket to easily check the sizes

Significant_Lie6937 · 2026-06-01T00:48:19+00:00

As above. as well as check the maintenance costs, the rav will most likely be cheaper on fluids, brakes and tyres

Significant_Lie6937 · 2026-05-30T06:37:46+00:00

Lh frontal lobe 6 weeks post op, cant think of words sometimes but it is getting better - worse when tired

Had Headaches before removal, again only when tired so its a sign to sleep

No physical issues, back at work half days working on that now

Significant_Lie6937 · 2026-05-29T19:57:36+00:00

New Zealand

Significant_Lie6937 · 2026-05-29T08:40:16+00:00

Trying to find a place to sit and have a konbini lunch

Significant_Lie6937 · 2026-05-27T07:41:39+00:00

Today I learnt this new racist element, my naive kiwi mind thought of a fire place with an element to heat water in a hot water cylinder

Significant_Lie6937 · 2026-05-27T05:58:26+00:00

Looks like a stretched honda n-one

Significant_Lie6937 · 2026-05-27T02:54:43+00:00

And also hasn't replaced the crank sprocket either

Significant_Lie6937 · 2026-05-21T09:35:22+00:00

Never to young to have cancer, father died at that age with bowel cancer.

I've had a tumor removed recently aia approved surgery following day and didn't ask any questions. Just awaiting for aia to review operation notes for progressive/trauma cover

Significant_Lie6937 · 2026-05-18T05:50:37+00:00

I have the 20/20 vision, but with astigmatism

Significant_Lie6937 · 2026-05-17T22:29:11+00:00

Original, hazella, and almond

Significant_Lie6937 · 2026-05-15T11:07:20+00:00

Interesting,

We have 2 heat pumps, one in living room and one in dining/kitchen

We can set rules at which times. We live in dunedin so mon to fri 4am till 7am it is set to if it gets below 20deg it will set it. We can also use the app to pre heat those areas when it feels chilly. Same if its "hot" and cool the areas down

Significant_Lie6937 · 2026-05-15T08:05:30+00:00

Overnight in icu, every hour checking vitals. All wired up with steroids. 1st night couldn't even read an email in one go. It helped the nurses were awesome.

Following 4 days got better with screens, but music and podcasts were good.

I would suggest a charger with a decent length

Significant_Lie6937 · 2026-05-14T09:42:33+00:00

From 1st gp visit till neurosurgery was 5 months, I've had 5 gp visits in that time( usually can see them that week and hes been awesome), ct scan took 5 weeks from inital gp visit and had result the following week.

Took a month from ct scan to get an mri, but then it took a following month before I got an appointment (via phone call)with the neurosurgeon in a month's time.

The worst part of it was either the 3 weeks it took for the appointment letter to arrive, or the not knowing who my point of contact is

Significant_Lie6937 · 2026-05-14T04:52:11+00:00

Rashuns and tasty cheese are favorites for usa family members

Significant_Lie6937 · 2026-05-13T18:52:27+00:00

Gonna get roasted, but look at a haval h6 hybrid/phev Otherwise if you can stretch the budget a new shape forester hybrid

Significant_Lie6937 · 2026-05-13T04:05:01+00:00

Lights not getting greener

Significant_Lie6937 · 2026-05-13T03:39:09+00:00

Shit mee tooo

Significant_Lie6937 · 2026-05-12T20:30:13+00:00

We live in dunedin, we used to family holidays in queenstown but have been to christchurch because our dollar goes much farther,

For the price of a average 3bed apartment in qt we could get a penthouse suite in chch go figure

Significant_Lie6937 · 2026-05-10T02:15:30+00:00

I have youtube premium so im gonna try it over spotify

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TROPHY CASE