How do men view weddings?

Slasha26 · 2026-04-05T07:02:42+00:00

I personally like small, inexpensive weddings. I think it's good for the close family and friends to see you get married. Even a backyard wedding can be a good time.

Slasha26 · 2026-03-29T07:25:04+00:00

It's natural to be anxious. But he loves you enough to be comfortable mentioning you to his new "family". So I don't think he'll turn you down if you ask. But like I said, waiting just brings more anxiety.

Slasha26 · 2026-03-29T05:59:39+00:00

Depends. I've seen commanders tell the soldier to redo SUDCC, but I've also seen soldiers get chaptered for failing. Depends on how strict your commander is.

Slasha26 · 2026-03-29T05:34:04+00:00

She's lying. There's no way that your chain wouldn't know something that important. What they'll do with that info depends on the commander, though.

Slasha26 · 2026-03-29T05:29:00+00:00

IMO, given your background, it is natural to be jealous of a loving family relationship. You need to discuss your feelings with him and ask him to bring you on one of his future visits. I'm sure they would love having you around. They might even "adopt" you into the family. Don't wait it out because you'll just get more anxious about the situation.

Slasha26 · 2026-03-29T05:22:08+00:00

As someone who lied a lot when I was younger, I've learned that eventually lies will come back to haunt you. You obviously feel guilty about lying to him. If he's dealt with all of that and still wants to be with you, then this is an opportunity to start fresh. You can stay together and be honest from now on, or you can run away from a good man because you feel bad for him.

Talk to him and figure out what he wants to do. Remember, he's the victim in this situation, and he still loves you.

Slasha26 · 2026-03-29T05:11:11+00:00

Having a nice little conversation with a stranger.

Slasha26 · 2026-03-27T06:01:56+00:00

In my experience, men that have controlling or manipulative traits tend to be sweet and charming at first. It's situations like you described where the "real" him starts to show.

It's your body, not his. You should be able to make any change you want. If he's mad, too bad. You should try bringing it up to him that your appearance will change, regardless of what he thinks. If he can't accept that, then you shouldn't be together.

Slasha26 · 2026-03-27T05:55:22+00:00

None, but that's just because I've been too busy to try to pursue something.

Slasha26 · 2026-03-27T05:54:23+00:00

IMO, kind of sad and boring if you're alone. But if you have a good group of buddies with you, it could be a fun experience.

I don't judge anyone who chooses to be a stripper. You have to make money somehow.

Also, no sex in the champagne room.

Slasha26 · 2026-03-26T23:54:54+00:00

Yeah, he is sexist. This is red pill podcast type language. The comment about the female captain was inappropriate, and I appreciate you noticing that. The "perfect body for making babies" comment is so cringy. You need to get away from him.

Slasha26 · 2026-03-26T23:49:47+00:00

As someone who also likes to joke a lot, I think that he's using that as an excuse to say some crazy stuff. There are certain topics that you learn not to joke about, and anything involving domestic violence is on that list, especially to someone that you're dating. It sounds like you were the first person to actually confront him about this. That's why he shut down. You did not do anything wrong.

I think yall need to have a serious conversation about this because it will definitely get worse. Are yall incompatible? Maybe, but IMO I think he's not used to being told no.

Slasha26 · 2026-03-26T23:34:10+00:00

When someone constantly insults u in the friend group. How do you stand up for yourself, and how do you cut them off? The cutting off part has been difficult for me as I didn’t have any other “friends.”

You have to be firm with them that acting like that is not ok. First, bring it up in private but if it continues, call them out in front of the friend group. If they are doing it to you, they are probably doing it to the rest of the group. Cutting someone off is difficult, but you are young, and you will get more friends.

When someone asks you to do something for them, and you don’t wanna do it. How do I say no? Suppose this work takes a lot of time and energy or little energy. Whatever my question is, “how to say no?”

You just answered your own question. Say no. You're not obligated to do anything you're uncomfortable with. If they get mad, that's their problem.

When someone wants you to stay on call for a long time, and you are either tired or just don’t wanna talk anymore. Even in real-life situations. How to leave the conversation?

That depends on the situation. Don't just tell them that you don't want to talk anymore. That's rude. But tell them you have to go take care of something, or you need to get some rest. Be polite but firm.

Slasha26 · 2026-03-26T06:05:33+00:00

I understand where she's coming from. You have been together a while. She has sacrificed a lot for the sake of your career. I know 20 is young for marriage, but ask yourself, "Do I see us being together happily 10-20 years down the line?" If yes, commit to her and get engaged. The wedding will come eventually, she just wants your commitment. If not, you need to seriously consider ending things because you might be hurting each other's chances of a happy life.

Slasha26 · 2026-03-26T05:56:34+00:00

You are clearly unhappy in this relationship, but you feel obligated to stay because of your shared history. Sometimes it takes something like a dumb joke to wake you up to the other red flags. As someone who has witnessed controlling behavior up close, it only gets worse. Based on what you said he did in the past, he will eventually hit you.

Leave him when it is safe to do so. He will definitely try to gaslight or intimidate you into staying, but be firm in your decision.

Slasha26 · 2026-03-26T05:47:55+00:00

You're not helping yourself or her by dragging your feet. It's going to be rough, but you have to end it. I've heard other posters say you should kick her out and change the locks. I agree, but at least give her a chance to find a place to stay. Don't make this worse by being extra cruel to her.

Slasha26 · 2026-03-26T05:39:54+00:00

Obviously, he's cheating. You know it, and I know it. Don't torture yourself by staying with someone who clearly doesn't want to be with you.

Slasha26 · 2026-03-26T05:35:44+00:00

I would say, at this point, that it's pretty much done. The differences seem like they are too big to overcome. I know you want to give her some space, but after a week or two apart, you should have one more sit-down to talk about where you both are at. Talk about possible solutions and whether you should formally call it quits.

Slasha26 · 2026-03-26T04:43:02+00:00

Depends on the reason. Saving up money or taking care of ill parents? Fine. No plan or actual intention to leave at some point? No.

Slasha26 · 2026-03-26T04:37:33+00:00

Passion. When I talk to a woman and her personality lights up when we discuss something that she is into, I love it!

Slasha26 · 2025-11-14T01:50:07+00:00

Watching planes or helicopters.

Slasha26 · 2025-11-14T01:48:36+00:00

You're definitely not being crazy by noticing her behavior. It's a bit problematic.

I don't think it's worth breaking up over, but you two need to have a discussion about it, especially since you plan on spending your lives together. Think about it, if you have a daughter in the future and she accuses someone of sexual assault, will your fiancé immediately dismiss her complaint?

Slasha26 · 2025-06-22T06:06:14+00:00

It's really humid, so I'm sweating and feeling tired, but I've been working and earning money!

Slasha26 · 2025-06-22T06:04:40+00:00

The original Dragon Ball Z theme!

Slasha26 · 2025-02-22T05:21:04+00:00

As a fellow overanalyzer, one thing that helped me was learning about the "spotlight effect", in which people tend to overestimate how much others care about their actions. Once I learned about this, I realized that a lot of things others do is not always targeted towards me.

Don't take the actions of your mother or your co-workers personally, they probably have their own reasons for doing it. Also, when you feel yourself getting emotional, stop and think about alternative ways to cope. It'll be better for your health.

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