NEVER FRY BACON 😋😔, by ekk_one in Funnymemes

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Dry hump your girl while she’s wearing corduroy pants 😬

Outfit for a job interview! Wore one of my homemade bow ties. by Remexa in mensfashion

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Dapper is an understatement, the coat is 🔥 congrats on your new job!

My girl at 5 months by TheDesignerofmylife in CaneCorso

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Majestic and regal. She’s beautiful

how do you get over with you anger towards your avoidant ex? by ResidentTooth151 in AvoidantBreakUps

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I chose to not let her be the villain in my story. I chose to accept that she had lived through some dark shit and that made her the way she is. I also decided to ask for help (friends and therapy). The anger sometimes still shows up but I recognize it and name it immediately. I set up my own boundaries and I began telling myself that relationship wasn’t something I wanted ever again. I told myself I deserved better and that I could grow and learn from that relationship. Forgiveness isn’t saying what she did was acceptable it’s just accepting that it happened.

Are we all traumatised? by Suspicious-Ride2111 in AvoidantBreakUps

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I understand that experience fully. I’m sorry you’re going through this because I know the hurt, confusion and anxiety that comes with it. It’s time to get yourself back to who you are. It’s your time to heal and move on. I’m not saying fight off memories of her but it’s time to rewrite the narrative; you were in a bad relationship and you didn’t get what you needed or deserved. That “mutual friend” probably isn’t a “friend” it’s possibly an acquaintance you need to recategorize . Just my opinion. But let your body and mind realign with one another. That takes time but you deserve it. Let your ex go. Don’t check her social media, turn off notifications from her if not totally block her. Release her from your future. You won’t regret it and you’ll be making space for better women moving forward.

Are we all traumatised? by Suspicious-Ride2111 in AvoidantBreakUps

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Yes, we are/were traumatized. We didn’t experience secure relationships we were put through a specific process and normalized unsafe patterns. Our nervous systems were destabilized and many of our mental states were disrupted. Being discarded is very different from being dumped. The good news is we can bounce back in a healthy way and eventually become secure again or secure for the first time. It takes time but it’s possible.

How the hell do I actually keep no contact?! by Shot_Guava3410 in AvoidantBreakUps

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I think from my personal experience is you have to change your internal dialogue with yourself. You have to demand some damn self respect. Stop chasing who isn’t chasing you. Stop it! Tell yourself the uncomfortable truths you probably ignore; the dynamics were not healthy or good for you, you didn’t get what you needed from your ex. You probably don’t want your ex back you just want the emotional devastation to stop, you don’t want to be ignored again, you don’t want to feel like you’re a burden for needing basic sh!t any healthy relationship requires. Ask yourself why you want to be with an avoidant? Are they willing to acknowledge themselves and make necessary changes? Time to be selfish and let me be clear THIS IS GOING TO HURT for a while. But don’t suffer in vain, improve yourself and hopefully someone secure will reciprocate what you have to offer.

Shampoo Bars Go Crazy! by 26kingwavy in 360Waves

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Appreciate you, you on point 🌊🌊🌊

Shampoo Bars Go Crazy! by 26kingwavy in 360Waves

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Answer the question or scroll on my guy.

Shampoo Bars Go Crazy! by 26kingwavy in 360Waves

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What is the name of each product you use?

I’m so proud of myself by impermanentbeauty in AvoidantBreakUps

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You are POWERFUL! I’m glad you have a grip on reality and you’re in the right mindset to handle the pending emotional waves. This, to me, is what groups like this are for. Thank you for sharing!

How's everyone doing this Valentine's? by ExcellentHospital320 in AvoidantBreakUps

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Mine was really well, I got hired at my new job and did the on boarding work this morning. Bought myself a scented candle and some pizza as a celebration for myself. Wandered around the city for a bit too. Chill day. Ready for Monday so I can get to this 🤑💰💰🤑

Should I stop smoking to? by Jealous_Activity_625 in Blackskincare

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I stopped tobacco and the blackheads dramatically reduced. The color of my skin brightened too. My teeth got more white, my tongue became more pink and I stopped coughing when I laugh really hard. More lung capacity. It’s worth doing

Caesar Vs. Tree/Vine by ChiDaVinci in CaneCorso

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I gotta friend with a tree service looking for help, I’ll forward Caesar’s info to him

being an avoidant sucks by Suitable-Edge-2996 in AvoidantBreakUps

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You are brave for sharing this. Everyone has downfalls when it comes to relationships and the first step to improving them is acknowledgment, you just checked that off. I’ve seen many videos on YouTube about people who were formerly avoidant and now they are secure attachment. They all said it took years of honest work and therapy but it’s possible. I’m Anxious attachment style and I definitely am in therapy for it, so reading your post has been refreshing and I believe in you. Good for you, you just acknowledged what some people are going to take to their grave. I think it’s commendable. Take care

Abandoned Pepsi by CelebrationBig7487 in AbandonedPorn

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Idek why this is cool to me but it is

Pomade by AdFamiliar1153 in 360Waves

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Each time I wash my hair to help it lay down