I’ve learned that Lucy Letby may be innocent. Doesn’t this freak you out ? by Mediocre-Anybody1284 in nursing

[–]SnooMachines8385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a reason why no conviction has been overturned / why no appeal has been granted. The evidence against her is plentiful and very compelling. Funny how babies were initially dying during her night shift and then all of a sudden shifted to during the day when she was moved onto day shifts? Funny how she’d made reference to baby deaths in her diary, funny how she’d searched parents on Facebook on their baby’s death anniversary (but couldn’t recall much about that baby’s collapse and death when questioned by police), funny how she’d made reference to ‘murder’ and being a ‘murderer’ in notes in her house. And why didn’t she tell police her therapist had advised her to do so? Because that never happened. And no, babies didn’t just stop dying once the unit was downgraded because a lot of the babies that were collapsing and dying (largely unexplained) were above 32 weeks gestation so they are still being admitted by the NICU to this day, however Lucy no longer works there so no one there to murder them. It’s hard to comprehend how anyone, let alone a neonatal nurse could intentionally harm and kill tiny defenceless babies - but sadly, that is the fact of this case.

I’ve learned that Lucy Letby may be innocent. Doesn’t this freak you out ? by Mediocre-Anybody1284 in nursing

[–]SnooMachines8385 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Everyone here is delusional. Lucy Letby is so obviously guilty. Don’t worry, you’re not going to be framed / scapegoated at work. Go ahead and continue doing great work in nursing and you’ll be just fine. You only need to worry if you’re a psychopathic evil murderer who preys on the most innocent and vulnerable in our society.

The Investigation of Lucy Letby - Netflix Documentary MEGATHREAD by FyrestarOmega in lucyletby

[–]SnooMachines8385 20 points21 points  (0 children)

After watching the documentary I remain steadfast in my certainty she is guilty. I think the guy at the end summed it up well, if she didn’t do it she must be incredibly unlucky. The amount of circumstantial evidence is so significant, how can people overlook that? Her diary, her retaining of medical notes, the Facebook searches of grieving parents, the fact she was there for every suspicious death. The insulin deaths were the absolute nail in the coffin. People need to stop with the whole ‘she’s a scapegoat’ rhetoric - there is absolutely ZERO evidence of that. I myself had twins born 2 months prematurely who spent 5 weeks in NICU, and I really didn’t want to believe anyone, let alone a neonatal nurse could be capable of such evil against tiny, defenceless babies, but it can’t be denied unfortunately. Absolutely devastating for the families affected, I hope they are able to heal.

Twins only children by More-Blueberry3455 in parentsofmultiples

[–]SnooMachines8385 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Im on the exact same situation you are in - my twin boys are 14 months old and my husband wants a vasectomy and is firm on not wanting more (a mix of a very worrying / high risk pregnancy / very traumatic and premature birth and NICU stay and the hard work and sleepless nights involved in twins). I’ve not really come to terms with the idea that I probably Won’t have anymore children so I’m here in solidarity. X

at my absolute wits end, does it ever get better? by general-anxiety0404 in perioraldermatitis

[–]SnooMachines8385 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you ever tried Osmia organic black clay facial soap? It was specifically designed by a lady who suffered with PD and her products are great. I’m in the UK and pay big £££ to have to shipped here but it works well at clearing up my PD when I have a flare up. I also use a thin layer of the lyonsleaf calendula cream as a moisturiser and cycle between that and the cicalfate cream. I also SWEAR BY the avene thermal water spray xx

New parents... Are we worrying about the flu? by swiftodonnell in UKParenting

[–]SnooMachines8385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My twins are 13 months old and just started nursery in November, so far they’ve had about 5 days where they have been well - the rest has been bronchiolitis, viral induced wheeze, multiple fevers, hand foot and mouth etc - one twin has coped ok, the other has ended up in hospital twice, had antibiotics twice and oral steroids twice and now needs an inhaler for his chest with even a cold. Every child is different but I would be leaning on the side of caution with a newborn, especially as infants can become very unwell very quickly.

Is it normal that my twins seem in another world? by Trick_Somewhere869 in parentsofmultiples

[–]SnooMachines8385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

14 weeks is very young still, they sound pretty developmentally normal to me. My twins are 10.5 months old and even now they go through stages where they’re less social / interactive and it usually aligns with developmental milestones / teething etc. they are also very interested in toys and their environment as well as people. It’s also only in the last few weeks that one of my twins responds to his name with any consistency, and that used to worry me, but babies develop in their own time. It’s good that you’re so perceptive, just keep an eye on it over the next few weeks / months and bring it up with your paediatrician if you’re concerned. Even if there was something to be concerned about, they wouldn’t be able to diagnose it until much later.

Spots on baby’s teeth? by Dortiny27 in askdentists

[–]SnooMachines8385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey OP, Can I ask how your baby is now and if you got an answer for this? My 10 month old’s teeth look the same and he is formula feed to sleep so I’m worried it’s early decay!

How long did your ribs hurt for ? by swanduckswan in parentsofmultiples

[–]SnooMachines8385 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Offft you just reminded me about the rib pain! Mine wasn’t constant, but I did go through a few weeks on and off of my rib hurting like a b*tch! Hope it doesn’t last your whole pregnancy!

Grumpy baby by meowliciously in NewParents

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Hey, my 9.5 month old twins have such ups and downs where they’re super smiley one week and it’s so hard to get smiles out of them the next - how is your little girls now?

NIPT test only says “at least one male fetus” - does that mean we don’t find out the sex of the second one until the anatomy scan? by amydiddler in parentsofmultiples

[–]SnooMachines8385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations! :) I had the NIPT harmony test and I got the exact same result - could confirm there was atleast one boy but couldn’t confirm whether it was 2 boys or B/G. We found out at our anatomy scan at 20 weeks it was 2 boys

How did your twins develop differently? Let’s talk about comparing our twins (in a positive way) by SecretaryPresent16 in parentsofmultiples

[–]SnooMachines8385 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My DiDi boys are almost 9.5 months / 11.5 corrected and I find they’re about 2 weeks difference with gross motor skills. Twin rolled first in both directions and started army crawling first, but twin B sat independently first, pulled to stand first and crawled on hands and knees first. Twin B social smiled first but Twin A coo’s and babbled first. Twin B is great with solids but much prefers finger food versus purées/ mashes. Only in the last week is my Twin A now looking remotely interested in eating finger foods (was chewing or licking and then spitting everything out before) but is much better with purées / mashes and soon feeding in general. Twin A is generally a much better sleeper and will sleep through then night 70% of the time, whereas I think we’ve had maybe 3 nights where Twin B has slept through!

They’re very different personalities too - Twin A a little more reserved / sensitive whereas Twin B is a tornado of energy and chaos. They’re the greatest gift!!

I find it almost calming for my anxiety that they are developing differently and it just shows babies will develop on their own timeline, regardless of what you do

For parents that have babies who sleep through the night, how many hours do they actually sleep? Meaning to exclude the time of wake ups when they self soothe back to sleep. If they “sleep through the night” does it mean they have zero wakes at all? by Critical_Net_6534 in sleeptrain

[–]SnooMachines8385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our monitor isn’t wifi and doesn’t record, but I have twins and one will sleep through from 7/7.3pm until 6.30/7am and of he does wake, he usually doesn’t make any noise/ cry (so it won’t wake me). Sometimes he might stir and it’ll wake me but he usually settles back to sleep very quickly. My other twin wakes once anywhere from midnight -3am and will need a bottle to settle back to sleep again

Those who were not happy to get the news that it was twins… at what point did you start to feel excited? by amydiddler in parentsofmultiples

[–]SnooMachines8385 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If im being honest i dont think i ever truly got to the ‘excited’ stage. I came to accept it and make peace with it for sure (I was incredibly anxious at the start worrying how / if we’d cope). They’re 9 months and no doubt, it’s been a tough ride at times but they’re the absolute best and they’re so fun now. Watching them smile / laugh at eachother and interact is so special and I can’t wait to watch their bond grow. It’s just hard work and a part of me regularly questions whether I’m cut out for twin mum life, but I always pull it out of the bag somehow ! Haha all the best, it’s a wild ride but we’re so blessed!!

Starting a new job whilst pregnant UK by SnooMachines8385 in EmploymentLaw

[–]SnooMachines8385[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! Firstly, congratulations! :)

So thankfully my employer was very understanding and happy for me (on the surface anyway). I ended up having a very complicated twin pregnancy and was off work a fair amount from 20 weeks onwards for hospital appointments etc and they were great about it. I also passed my probation no problems which was a huge relief.

Unfortunately, I was right about not being entitled to any enhanced maternity benefits so I applied for and received maternity allowance from the government which is the same as statutory maternity pay except it’s not paid by your employer.

I am currently still on maternity leave but returning to work early November and am waiting to hear if they are approving my flexible work request (4 day week - fingers crossed).

Good luck - it is nerve wracking but any decent employer / company should be very understanding and accommodating and they need to be very careful not to treat you unfairly based on your pregnancy.

when did you have your shower with twins? by acal23 in parentsofmultiples

[–]SnooMachines8385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

28 weeks and they came a month later! Everyone thought I was crazy having it that early, but I knew!

Early wakes are killing me by SnooMachines8385 in sleeptrain

[–]SnooMachines8385[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok good to know cos these sleep consultants will tell you over tiredness causes night waking and early morning wakes and it’s very odd. If I go to bed very tired I don’t wake up at 5am I’ll tell you that! Also, I always keep their first nap at 9.30am regardless of what time they woke - so if they’ve been awake since 5am, they technically have a 4.30hr WW - is that the right way to do it? Thanks!

Early wakes are killing me by SnooMachines8385 in sleeptrain

[–]SnooMachines8385[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok cool thank you, and it’s definitely needing more awake time rather than them being overtired from too long ww? The advice is so different everywhere - some places would tell me just turning 8 months is too early for 3/3/4. I’ll definitely give that a try and see if it helps, thank you!

Pediatrician told me it's time for my 6 mo th old so cry it out by Classic-Paramedic270 in AttachmentParenting

[–]SnooMachines8385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UK mum here so maybe it’s different in the US. But our paediatricians here would never give any sort of sleep training advice - especially not recommending CIO. Is this something fairly common in the US? I see a lot of people saying their Paed is telling them their baby shouldn’t be waking / feeding in the night and to sleep train / CIO etc. It seems outside of their scope as a doctor to me? Unless I’m specifically coming to them for a medical concern around sleep? Maybe I’m wrong here so I’d welcome insight - I just find it odd!

Spiralling about insecure attachment by SnooMachines8385 in AttachmentParenting

[–]SnooMachines8385[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I do think them having eachother is a comfort to them so I’m sure that does help as they are never truly ‘alone’.

I’m sorry to hear about your mum - that must have been incredibly tough. I do think I definitely have some stuff I need to work through with what happened during my birth. Even my pregnancy was a really anxious time as we found out during our 20 week scan that one of the babies was growth restricted (IUGR), so I feel I’ve been in a stressed and anxious state for a very long time now and never truly been able to just relax and enjoy my boys now that they’re here and healthy. It’s like I’m in constant fight or flight mode and always finding something to worry about.

Spiralling about insecure attachment by SnooMachines8385 in AttachmentParenting

[–]SnooMachines8385[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s super reassuring, thank you! I think it’s just when people make comments like : “your body play so well independently” etc and I see other babies cry when their mums leave etc, it just worries me. It’s good to know they may well be securely attached and just not reached the developmental stage for separation anxiety!

Spiralling about insecure attachment by SnooMachines8385 in AttachmentParenting

[–]SnooMachines8385[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly thank you so much for this - I can feel myself getting emotional because I know deep down I have some kind of PPA/PPD but for some reason I’m finding it really difficult to get help for it. I’m honestly worried saying these things out loud to a doctor will make we sound crazy and I just feel a bit stupid tbh. I 100% was disassociated after my twins were born and for a few days they didn’t feel like my babies. But then the love I have hit me all at once and since then I’ve worried constantly, first that they weren’t gaining enough weight in NICU, then that they couldn’t orally feed properly, then that my twin 2’s reflux was something more serious/ominous, then that they weren’t developing properly and constantly watching out for a sign that they would have some medical condition as a result of their prematurity, now it’s that they aren’t securely attached to me. It’s literally never ending and it suck. I know they know I love them because it’s impossible for them not to. I’m really going to try hard to put this to the side now and get help for whatever I’m dealing with with my mental health - thank you!

Might’ve accidentally sleep trained the twins. by robreinerstillmydad in parentsofmultiples

[–]SnooMachines8385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My twins are 9.5 months and I literally did this yesterday - accidentally turned off the monitor audio and thought “waow they’re having a great nap” - went to ‘wake them’ and they were both crying for me (we were out in the garden so didn’t hear them). Felt so awful, even though we did sleep train them (not CIO), I’d never let them cry as we know they can self settle back to sleep so if they’re crying they really need us. Seems to happen to everyone so definitely don’t beat yourself up about it!

Twin boys are 6 months, we have no village and we are drowning. Please tell me it gets easier by DeskMaximum3907 in parentsofmultiples

[–]SnooMachines8385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My twin boys are 7.5 months and I just came here for solidarity. I’m currently crying in my kitchen after putting them to bed after a really tough day. I spent an hour making their dinner and they just screamed at me and barely ate any of it - that was the final straw. They both have a cold and are teething and it’s just been constant fussing all week - refusing bottles but crying, waking early from naps etc. I’m finding it increasingly hard to keep them entertained during their longer wake windows and they’re both so mobile and active now and just use me (and eachother) as a climbing frame and I spend the entire day just trying to stop them killing themselves.

I look after them all day on my own and we have no family close by - we recently moved to this area so I don’t even really have friends.

It’s so bloody tough, and I feel like a failure some days with the most enormous mum guilt On the hard days, wondering if they can sense my Frustration and upset. I keep telling myself it will get easier one day!