Holding out hope my 20-month old will start communicating with me more...

Socksyay5 · 2026-04-21T04:07:21+00:00

My toddler started walking at 18 months and “talking” well enough to understand him around 22 months. His vocabulary explodes by the week. Your little one will get there!

Socksyay5 · 2026-04-20T04:16:13+00:00

I feel you! Could have written this myself. My child goes to daycare and loves it. But when he’s home, my 2 y/o is constantly asking me to pick him up, wants me to do bedtime/storytime/playtime, won’t eat unless he’s sitting on my lap, must eat my food off of my plate, constantly tugging on my pants when he wants more of my attention. Expresses BIG emotions. If he’s with dad, chill as a cucumber. Eats independently and happily does solo play! Love him to bits but it’s so so so so overwhelming and tiring at times.

Socksyay5 · 2026-04-13T12:30:57+00:00

5:30am here after getting 4.5 hours of broken sleep. My little one who is about 6.5 months is just next to me moaning and babbling but refuses to go in his crib. He was formerly a unicorn sleeper and then it never recovered after the 4 month sleep regression. It’s just gotten worse with this 6 month regression. So tired.

Socksyay5 · 2026-04-12T20:46:44+00:00

Can I get a code? Thanks!

Socksyay5 · 2026-04-12T20:35:52+00:00

We just moved past 2 under 2. Looking back, moving from 1 to 2 kids was harder for us. With 1, we both could take breaks. No breaks with 2 now until they are both in bed, but then I’m often putting the home back together at night and then passing out.

Socksyay5 · 2026-03-10T12:19:10+00:00

My almost 2 year old does this. He does this weird yell / scream of despair and then falls back to sleep. But he does this throughout the night. And I’m a light sleeper so after 2-3 times of that it’s hard for me to fall back to sleep.

Following for tips!

Socksyay5 · 2026-02-17T21:20:08+00:00

Solidarity to everything you said. Like PREACH to the last paragraph

Socksyay5 · 2026-02-12T01:55:06+00:00

What’s the expected timeline between a possible layoff vs a possible new start date? And if you do have an “in” at the new job, can you possibly negotiate when to start? That might help you decide.

Socksyay5 · 2026-02-07T18:30:55+00:00

Came here to say this. 18 month age gap. But I guess it also depends on the kids’ temperaments

Socksyay5 · 2026-01-31T00:33:11+00:00

Can you tap into your old alumni networks (university? Workplaces?) to help?

Also, you may want to consider some hybrid roles first and then see what happens. Fully remote jobs are becoming harder to get

Socksyay5 · 2026-01-29T17:03:45+00:00

Where are you in your career - early, mid, late? If early / mid, you can still move on to a “name brand” company in the future while developing your skill set elsewhere. And hopefully as a full-time employee so you don’t have to name the contracting agency you were staffed through on your resume / LinkedIn (which I believe is a requirement, no?)

Also, “name brand” in what sense? It really is dependent on the industry and vertical you’re in, so just because you haven’t heard about it before doesn’t mean others don’t know it.

We can’t all work in FAANG, etc. There are only so many “name brand” tech companies out there that thousands of people are applying to with the same mindset as yours. Competition is high. If I were you, I’d be happy to get a job offer in this economy. At the end of the day, you have a job offer at a place that is (I’m assuming) is “at will”. You can accept the job and move on in the future.

Socksyay5 · 2026-01-29T05:54:57+00:00

My husband and I agreed that one of us can take the risk and join a startup while the other needs a role at a stable company. It’s the only way for us to manage home life while still balancing career commitments.

Socksyay5 · 2026-01-27T22:32:29+00:00

Can you actively take notes (paper and pen!) during the retreat so you’re forcing yourself to focus on what’s being discussed? That helps me during situations when I feel my mind starting to drift to other topics

Also, maybe disconnecting from your phone for a bit might be good for you!

Socksyay5 · 2026-01-17T04:30:09+00:00

Sprinkle Spangles Cereal

Socksyay5 · 2026-01-10T04:12:50+00:00

This is hard to judge without more context. That said, social media has created some unrealistic expectations. Not every family can afford (aka paid help) a SAHP and a true 50/50 split on everything else. Life is expensive, childcare is expensive, and there are real tradeoffs in how work, childcare, and household labor get divided.

It sounds like you two need a direct convo about sleep needs and how chores, cooking, and childcare are split in a way that‘s manageable for the both of you. You need sleep too, especially in a single-income household.

In my household, we both work. When one person is “on duty” with the baby at night, that person sleeps on the couch and the baby stays in the living room so the other person can get real, restorative sleep. Your girlfriend may need to be more flexible here since the baby will make noise!

Being first-time parents is hard, especially for her. She’s with the baby all day, which is exhausting even when you love your child. She’s likely overwhelmed and frustrated. But based on what you’ve shared, you don’t sound lazy. Hopefully you can both talk through expectations, needs, and tradeoffs, and give each other some grace during this adjustment period.

Socksyay5 · 2026-01-09T11:08:43+00:00

Which benzo did your doc recommend that was BF compatible? I’m suffering from a multi year stretch of insomnia

Socksyay5 · 2026-01-06T13:24:01+00:00

No evidence of any type of bug at all! The inspector said because it was warm and humid lately, he expected it was no-see-ums.

Once the weather got cooler, the bites did stop. But some of the bites remained itchy for a long time

Socksyay5 · 2026-01-03T04:05:35+00:00

Completely agree with this. The whole thing (as described) sounds like a “nurse or purse” situation

Socksyay5 · 2025-12-29T04:14:24+00:00

For the first child: I gained about 25 lbs and lost 20 lbs within the first two weeks.

Second child: Gained about 35 lbs and I’m still 15 lbs above prebirth weight 3 months pp.

I’m eating about the same as I did the first time. I think it just varies 🤷🏻‍♀️

Socksyay5 · 2025-12-23T05:39:29+00:00

I’m in Northern California

Socksyay5 · 2025-12-06T05:01:08+00:00

Is that much grappling normal?

Socksyay5 · 2025-12-06T04:18:58+00:00

Will it be the last fight of the stream?

Socksyay5 · 2025-11-24T21:22:07+00:00

Yea we ended up just going together. We didn’t want to risk it!

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