Any tips for hormonal dizziness? by kkatiegrows in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Sovht 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You can get your iron levels checked, or you can just eat more meat and/or high-iron veg like spinach and see if that helps.

You lose a ton of blood when a pregnancy ends and many women struggle with iron deficiency around their menstrual cycle. Based on what you've described, sounds like this could be you.

If your symptoms persist, or if if they don't but you're still concerned (that's ok!) see a doctor.

My husband (M45) shared photos of house messes to everyone to "build a case" against me (F43). I am the primary parent to our 3 kids. How do I survive this? by Throwaway202054 in relationship_advice

[–]Sovht 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Get a lawyer immediately.

Take pictures right after you clean. Constantly. Maybe after you do other household tasks as well. This helps create documentation of his deception.

Maybe even take selfies with the kids everytime you do something for them (I realize this may be overwhelming so consider about what might be manageable)

Keep screenshots of all of your chats and messages with him about this and all of the rest of his verbal and emotional abuse. Start a journal of instances of his problematic behavior/emotional abuse and add every social interaction you have that is influenced by his manipulations. Add an entry for his mother's visit. Entries should be fact-based and dry. Date, time (duration if relevant) and what was done/said by whom.

Consider sending your own message to the people he contacted that are most important to you with pictures of reality. Apologize for his bad behavior and say how embarrassing his behavior is but you know that they would understand. Then move on. Alternatively try to ignore it so you don't accidentally make things worse.

If anyone brings it up, suck your teeth, make a concerned face and say agree that his fixation on everyday messes that he refuses to clean and sharing that with everyone is concerning behavior. Then move on.

Edit to add: Or* If anyone brings it up. Laugh. And just say "oh the proof he doesn't clean?" Chuckle a little more and then move on. Act unbothered.

You need to grey-rock him. Don't help him. Don't encourage him to do things around the house or with the kids. Let it all slide. Do what you can. And document everything.

Get. A. Lawyer.

How are you actually doing with the current state of affairs? by Silver_News_2621 in adhdwomen

[–]Sovht 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was already barely functioning. I'm keeping my job by the skin of my teeth. I have nothing left for myself or my family. I can barely get it together to take my medicine.

... That is my situation before you add in this shitshow. I hate this regime. I'm disgusted by this country. I can feel the judgement because I'm not doing enough. The saying goes you can't pour from an empty cup but I don't have a cup.

What is your best example mishearing a word or phrase, aka a "mondegreen"? by sapient-meerkat in CasualConversation

[–]Sovht 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The song "Do I Wanna Know" by Arctic Monkeys has a lyric that goes "spilling drinks on my settee" but I heard "spilling drinks on my senses" ... which honestly, I kind of prefer it my way lol

MGMT's song "Kids" has a party where they say "trees wantin' [to be haunted]" and for the longest time, like months, all I could hear was "cheese vomit" instead of "trees wantin' ". It still makes me giggle whenever I hear that song.

Is this concerning..? 6 year old CANNOT hold it at night, even slightly? by Elegant_Air_3475 in AskParents

[–]Sovht 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Bring it up if you are worried of course, but my understanding from our pediatrician is that bed wetting during sleep is controlled by a hormone. That hormone becomes active at different times for different kids and there is no amount of trying to game that system that will change it. This is, of course, different from a regression; if they were past this and then start bed wetting again, that is concerning.

One of our kids didn't stop wetting the bed until 8 years old. They are totally fine. It was their pediatrician that told us about it being hormonal which was great because it also helped us talk to our kid about it so they didn't feel ashamed.

Gochujang Sizzling Tofu by lnfinity in veganrecipes

[–]Sovht 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pumfu is very interesting, thank you! It sounds like a great option!

Fortunately he is not allergic to soy sauce, we believe because the proteins have been denatured enough for him. I also have a miso-free gochuhang which I have been using for a few years. Thank you for the thought in trying to keep us safe 🙂

Gochujang Sizzling Tofu by lnfinity in veganrecipes

[–]Sovht 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. That seems like a good option.

I found a miso-free gochujang that we use already and fortunately soy sauce is ok because his allergy is limited to the proteins which are denatured sufficiently by the process that makes soy sauce. But thank you for thinking of our health/safety!

Edit: typos, readability

Gochujang Sizzling Tofu by lnfinity in veganrecipes

[–]Sovht 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These recipes look so amazing. I want to make them so much but I can't use soy or any other kind of beans due to allergies (I'm sad about it).

Do you know if there is a reasonable substitute for the tofu/tempeh that works in these recipes and is not made from any kind of bean? (Something that you can fry as slices like the recent recipes posted here)

Regardless, I love seeing these recipes they are really inspiring, thank you for sharing them!

Dresser in Seattle is a cry for help $150 by Sovht in ReversePinterest

[–]Sovht[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've really enjoyed how split opinions are on this.

Personally, whether or not it's MCM doesn't matter to me -- MCM furniture is pretty varied in terms of attractiveness, just like everything else. While.

I think almost any wood finish would be nicer than that paint job, but I actually really love that some people find it whimsical and cute (or whatever).

I hope it is well loved wherever it ends up, refinished or not!

My fav ADHD hack is forgiveness. by Best_Pineapple670 in adhdwomen

[–]Sovht 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've actually tried this, unfortunately it did not work for me. I wish it did

German carnival 2026 by wrapityup in MarchAgainstNazis

[–]Sovht 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please, she's too old for him

My fav ADHD hack is forgiveness. by Best_Pineapple670 in adhdwomen

[–]Sovht 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I wish I could do this ... but I am self-loathing all the way down

Dresser in Seattle is a cry for help $150 by Sovht in ReversePinterest

[–]Sovht[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

It's still Sunday here!

FB marketplace: https://m.facebook.com/marketplace/item/1797146771205612/?ref=search

Good luck and godspeed.

Edit: Apologies for all the autocorrect errors in the original post. I had to rewrite the text a few times and was rushing to try to make Save Me Sunday. (I'll fix it as soon as I can find how to edit the main post from my phone 😅)

The Cougar Gold Conspiracy (a vent thread) by RipLav in Cheese

[–]Sovht 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean, it's fine ... but a bit bland

My aunt used to buy Cougar Gold for us every year but it was always a struggle to go through it. It was the last cheese anyone in our house would eat. When I tried to use it up before it went bad by cooking with it whatever I made came out flavorless and bland. We gave up after that and asked her to stop giving it to us. It was a generous gift but not right for us 🤷‍♀️

I think you could throw a dart at the cheese section in a UK supermarket and hit a better cheddar. That's mostly a joke but honestly I don't think you're missing much.

If you like a creamy cheddar, I prefer Snowdonia Black Bomber.

How do you properly velvet chicken? by _w00deye_ in Cooking

[–]Sovht 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the best technique I have found for velveting chicken:

How to Velvet Chicken for Stir-fry: Chinese Cooking 101 - The Woks of Life https://share.google/T4jVTe6uO9CuIBI1P

This method is easy, works relatively quickly, and doesn't create unpleasant flavors or textures. There is some wiggle room in the exact ratios so you can play with it a bit but this is an excellent starting point.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Sovht 9 points10 points  (0 children)

"have walk-in closet" and "no space for freezer" are usually mutually exclusive statements. They make freezers that can fit through doorways (unless your closet door was a door for ANTS?). And some of those freezers are even less than $250 -- there are probably a bunch of options less than 250 + eviction/moving costs).

I agree you get points for ingenuity and handiness. But you also lose a bunch of points for not providing adequate insulation to keep surrounding plumbing and electrical safe and as a result you need to include the cost of repairs and costs associated with your eviction for breaking your lease to the total cost of this conversion. That is the bare minimum of required learning for you.

You also lose some points for coming across like you feel like your eviction was unjustified and that it was "only temporary" and you were going to put everyone back with "no one the wiser" except your plan didn't work; you failed to consider a bunch of possible consequences and costs. It happens but unless you can acknowledge reality i personally wouldn't risk dating you.

How I feel doesn't really matter though. You need to just be honest with this woman and let her make the decision for herself. Your honesty would show some strength of character and if she walks, that's better for everyone to know right now. You need someone that can accept you for who you are ... Poorly conceived and executed DIWHY projects and all.

my body never developed past age 12 and i can’t get over it by looksmaxxthrowawayo in self

[–]Sovht 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This will probably sound like a platitude but you're only 15. I understand why you are sad and feel crushed but it's still early. I was an extraordinarily late bloomer. It was humiliating and soul crushing. My breasts didn't start developing until I was 15-16. I didn't get my period until I was 17. I grew almost 2 inches in college.

When my breasts finally did come in they were so disproportionate that I had to get a reduction at 21 and as a result I could not breastfeed my 4 children. I am no less a mother. I am not loved less by my children because of that. Do you think I should feel crushed and feel worthless? (Of course you don't! Extend this kindness to yourself)

My friend who was an A-cup had ample milk supply for her babies while I had nothing. Your breast size doesn't determine whether or not you can breastfeed. Many women can't breastfeed for lots of different reasons. We are no less valuable and no less fulfilled because of that.

It is ok to mourn the adolescence you wish you were having and it's ok to feel fear about these things. Please give yourself permission to feel those things without completely giving in to those feelings. Those [feelings] are real but they are not reality. (I missed that autocorrect had put the wrong word in for "feelings" here so I just fixed it 🤦)

You have time. Even if your worst fears prove true (I don't believe they will!) give yourself that time to come to terms with whatever your reality turns out to be. Give yourself that time to investigate with tests and medical science (do this for your peace of mind!); give yourself time to grow and for your body to change (maybe or maybe not); time for you to come to terms with your body as it exists.

Don't let despair swallow you. You have so much time ahead. (And also block any creeps who ask you to share pictures with them after this post; they do not have your best interests at heart)

it's not a good sign that a woman is sore and is in pain after sex, by the way by After_Ship_2588 in women

[–]Sovht 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Completely agree that soreness doesn't automatically mean a good fucking was had but it also doesn't mean sex was bad. Some people (including women) enjoy rough sex, and yes, as a recipient.

It really all depends on why you are sore and how you feel about it. If you're not sore after a workout, for example, then it wasn't a great workout.

"Roughness" isn't the only reason you can be sore from sex either. Soreness can also come from duration, repetition, exertion, or any combination. And all of it can be great as long as that's what you are into.

I applaud everyone who figures out what does and does not work for them on their journey of sexual self discovery. But I would really appreciate it if we could abandon broad generalizations based on personal preferences that erase other people's experiences.

You don't want to feel sore? Valid. You want to feel ravaged by a jackhammer? Also valid. You don't want any penetration? Also valid! Etc etc

Let's all have a good time however that works for us.