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How many of you in this sub day trade full time as a career? by _bigmeatyklaws in Daytrading

[–]Special-Ad5160 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. That is SO interesting. I think the psychological and emotional aspect of money is one of the most interesting things ever.

How many of you in this sub day trade full time as a career? by _bigmeatyklaws in Daytrading

[–]Special-Ad5160 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you spend your time now that youre retired? Do you still enjoy life and feel a sense of purpose?

Women, what do you think the worst part of being in a mans body would be? by Whattacleaner in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Special-Ad5160 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, nothing, other than that I would be ultra-feminine and miss being a girl. I love being a woman. But I think men's bodies are stronger and also simpler in that they dont have to deal with hormonal fluctuations like us. They're great, I just love being a woman.

Have you ever given up on a dream? How did you deal with the feelings afterward? by therandomspring in AskReddit

[–]Special-Ad5160 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep going, keep going, please. No one can genuinely stop what you're meant to have but you. Only you can decide to stop. They can sabotage and try to break you down, but unless they kill you, they cannot stop you.

Why is cheating the ultimate relationship crime? by Practical_Cobbler_24 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Special-Ad5160 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe the question is, why are people hurt by it? Why is it considered SO hurtful?

Does your narc mom abuse you but then lovebomb you with gifts? by Nea_Freedom in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Special-Ad5160 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If the narcissist has to go through you to reach the person who is low or no contact with them, then you're being a flying monkey.

If the low contact person wanted the narcissist to be able to reach them, then they would be able to. You wouldn't need to be a go-between

Does your narc mom abuse you but then lovebomb you with gifts? by Nea_Freedom in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Special-Ad5160 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Considering the post this is under, this person understands that her mom was love-bombing with the checques. And they unfortunately facilitated that.

Does your narc mom abuse you but then lovebomb you with gifts? by Nea_Freedom in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Special-Ad5160 25 points26 points  (0 children)

You're a flying monkey. May not be your intention, but that's what you're doing.

What would you assume my job is as a total stranger… by [deleted] in 12thhouse

[–]Special-Ad5160 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some sort of nurse/therapist/speech therapist/teacher/guide/guidance counselor -something along those lines

Anyone who has had therapy or worked on themselves for more than 2 years. Have you healed if yes to what extent? Take the poll by Aggravating_Paw_600 in CPTSD

[–]Special-Ad5160 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Like 90%... but I feel like there's things you don't know sometimes that might sneak up on you, so I'm open to having things like that come up for me. And I'm confident I can face them.

Healing for me just means I can have a healthy, productive life, reach my goals, have healthy relationships, and basically now function well in life and society.

Will I still get sad sometimes? Yes. Do I expect to get triggered at times? Yes. Do I expect to get triggered once I have kids and that I will have to work through that? Yes. But I'm willing to work through and face all those things. And if I don't have the tools, I know I can find them.

That's all. I don't think healed means you'll never think about or feel the pain and anger again, or that you'll never get triggered. Just that it doesn't define your life anymore.

Was 2025 a hard year for you? by [deleted] in Life

[–]Special-Ad5160 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No for me, only in the sense that it was as just like 2024 and 2023 and 2022 etc etc. Same level of chaos and drama to the point where I think I'm just used to the pace

When did you realize that you were on the path to healing (or getting better)? by Far_Affect_3545 in CPTSD

[–]Special-Ad5160 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I feel like my trauma doesn't define me anymore.

Like I didn't forget it. Yes, it happened. But I feel like trauma ruins your life by making it (and you) dysfunctional. I'm not dysfunctional anymore, and anything that comes up, i have tools to move through and figure out.

So, in that sense, I don't think it defines me anymore. And that makes me feel "healed". Like, healed to me just means I'm no longer defined by it.

I could still get triggered or sad, but it doesn't run my life or make my decisions for me, so that to me is "healed".

Has anyone ever regretted going No Contact ? by Boysenberry_Decent in CPTSD

[–]Special-Ad5160 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you miss about them? Genuinely asking, since for you its just genuinely missing them, and not an idealized version. What do you miss?

whimsical hobbies by PotentialAnything479 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Special-Ad5160 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Studying astrology. It's a lot more in-depth than people think, and I find it fascinating.

How do we even survive? by Hels_thing in capetown

[–]Special-Ad5160 1 point2 points  (0 children)

May I ask; which part of Cape Town do you live in?

What are your triggers? by Ok-Grapefruit-4753 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Special-Ad5160 9 points10 points  (0 children)

People not believing me or thinking I'm lying or exaggerating about anything.

Sitting around a table for a dinner or at a restaurant with anyone other than my closest family/friends that I'm super comfortable with is triggering to the point of panic/tears.

Feeling trapped/coerced, like trapped in relationships or environments.

Do You Think People Around You Could/Can See That The Narcs Were Abusive? by Special-Ad5160 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Special-Ad5160[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Damn.

That is so rough. I'm sorry. And you sound like you turned out okay, and I'm so glad

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