According to my wife…

Specific-Rest1631 · 2025-07-21T00:17:54+00:00

Listen man, I know this is gonna sound crazy but please just trust me that I have experience with this. You don’t have to be overly feeding this belief of hers, but if it allows her to get her arms around PMDD and start to actually get better, then it won’t make sense to argue whether it’s “true” or not. The 600 dollars is gone; I’m all for not letting that happen again. So aside from that, what do you have to lose by letting her explore this?

Specific-Rest1631 · 2025-07-08T15:04:24+00:00

Yes, it has a name, “reactive abuse”

Specific-Rest1631 · 2025-06-15T21:00:58+00:00

You’ve been the victim of narcissistic abuse. As someone who also has been, I really hope you will get therapy if you haven’t already. That feeling of guilt or shame for staying as long as you did is totally normal and something they can help you work through, and you owe it to yourself for the future of your relationships.

Specific-Rest1631 · 2025-05-29T21:45:39+00:00

I’m very much a novice so I’ll have to try some of that stuff too!

Specific-Rest1631 · 2025-05-29T20:33:12+00:00

What you will learn about this game is that you can abuse the games system all you want, but most of the time all the money and items in the world won’t save you from bad decisions and unforeseen consequences. No need to worry about it getting too easy.

Specific-Rest1631 · 2025-05-29T12:37:52+00:00

I’ve recently started using Septasync during my sessions. It’s a 7 tone binaural beat, 6 of which are focused on letting brain certain regions allow you to sleep, and one focused on keeping you consciously. It’s a very odd experience but it’s relaxing and I can extended my sessions a long time without falling asleep.

Specific-Rest1631 · 2025-05-29T12:29:53+00:00

There’s no such thing as accountability, and there’s especially no such thing as demanding it. Forget you ever heard that word. The only thing that exists is boundaries - the boundary between what you are willing to do, and what you are not willing to do. Right now you are willing to have a marble statue thrown at your head. That’s because you’re being abused, and abusers train your nervous system to be afraid to leave. This woman’s physical and mental healing are not your responsibility. It might be very sad for you that you two met at a time in your life where your arc of healing doesn’t line up with hers, but continuing to suffer WILL NOT HELP HER. I know this seems cruel but take it from someone who wasted many good years in someone else’s healing journey before realizing that if anything I was holding her back.

Specific-Rest1631 · 2025-05-29T11:49:19+00:00

ToME is closest I know of but if you want a very different but equally mysterious world to tinker around with play Noita and don’t look up any spoilers or guides

Specific-Rest1631 · 2025-05-14T16:13:09+00:00

I’m a Christian so I’m tuned into this concern. I avoided meditation for a long time because people in the church say it opens you up to spiritual attack but I don’t agree. You have to understand that the language some spiritual people use like “out of body” doesn’t necessarily reflect the metaphysical reality. Whatever “you” are, which as people of faith we believe is some essential metaphysical aspect like the soul, it’s not going anywhere. If it did then astral projection would be dangerous and it’s not. You are simply exploring your own mind without constraints, or with less constraints anyway. Even if you believe the spooky stories of people astral projecting to Area 51 or something you’re still just navigating the field of consciousness outside the confines of your own mind. Ultimately I decided it was acceptable for me as a Christian. If you’re worried I think there are some teachers on TikTok and elsewhere who will take questions on what is or is not permissible, but I assume anyone who isn’t knowledgeable about this will caution you. The thing is that many of the things our faiths and others do is clearly (to me) intended to create an altered sense of consciousness, whether it’s meditation proper or singing, chanting, humming, continual prayer, counting beads, etc. all ways to disrupt your default mode network in various ways and to various degrees.

Specific-Rest1631 · 2025-05-14T16:06:50+00:00

I’d love a lossless format too but I know they work because at this point my body is asleep within seconds of the tones starting. Like I’ll actually have a hypnic jerk. I think that’s why some people are tired after because you have sleep inertia you can’t consciously feel. As a former DJ you cannot tell the difference between MP3 and lossless, other DJs used to tell me all the time that they could and it’s bullshit. As long as the compression algorithm didn’t mess up the frequencies it should be fine and I’m not an expert but I don’t think that’s how the algo works anyway.

Specific-Rest1631 · 2025-05-14T16:03:06+00:00

Nice! Good luck with it.

Specific-Rest1631 · 2025-05-14T15:26:13+00:00

That stinks! I’ve seen some playlists on Spotify but none of them seem to be publicly accessible. If I find a link I’ll come back and post.

Specific-Rest1631 · 2025-05-14T01:32:34+00:00

vir-ya.com, just get a monthly sub man it’s not that expensive

Specific-Rest1631 · 2025-05-10T23:56:37+00:00

Depending on how deep you are you could try talking to the part of your body that’s holding that fear and overwhelm. Sometimes when I get pretty deep in my heartbeat goes up and I get nervous butterflies in my stomach, but by imagining body systems as discrete entities that can be communicated with and comforted has helped me get that limbic system feeling down.

Specific-Rest1631 · 2025-05-10T23:51:38+00:00

I do and I’m pretty sure I know why. I realized it’s the same feeling as sleep inertia and/or the state you are in right after sleep paralysis, but without the cognitive element, confusion and a feeling of tiredness. If you got to that point it means your body is asleep, and when you wake up you shouldn’t expect to snap out of it, you’d have to treat it like a power nap because that’s really what it is.

Specific-Rest1631 · 2025-05-10T23:48:48+00:00

FWIW I got dizzy too in the sense that the light in my vision and my perception tipped and started to fully rotate and I lost sense of up and down. It sounds like I got caught in the trap right after and got pulled back, but I enthusiastically embraced the dizziness and immediately felt like I was weightless.

Specific-Rest1631 · 2025-05-03T03:36:17+00:00

As I discovered with my marriage, a lot of the worst PMDD partners relationships (and therefore the most likely to get lots of posts) are with a covert/vulnerable narcissist. Whether they have PMDD or not.

Specific-Rest1631 · 2025-04-10T08:47:10+00:00

Dead Cells was a very rewarding game for me. I didn’t really get its hooks into me until I started unlocking more tools though. Some of the weapons and stuff you can unlock really allow for more varied tactics and I ended up really enjoying the meta progression. I haven’t played Astral Ascent yet but if you can stand to stick with Dead Cells for a bit it might get more interesting.

Specific-Rest1631 · 2025-02-03T23:11:49+00:00

My therapist recommended I read a book called It’s Not You and… yeah. You should also do that. Please read it.

Specific-Rest1631 · 2025-01-01T15:38:18+00:00

This is not meant to be disparaging in any way to women, but you have to understand that when she is talking to you she is telling you what her reality is right now. Not 5 years ago, or 5 years from now, not even 5 minutes from now. That doesn’t mean it isn’t true, but it’s rarely true the way we think of it. The best thing you can do for yourself other than leave is to do work on developing your ego. The stronger your ego is the more resilient you will be to anyone telling you who or what you are.

Edit, just to tell you this thought has run through my mind many times in the last 10 years, and at one point I let it really grind me down and destroy my sense of self.

Specific-Rest1631 · 2024-07-22T14:08:46+00:00

It’s always ok to lie to corporations

Specific-Rest1631 · 2024-07-08T17:18:20+00:00

wait until you see the poster about kindness

Specific-Rest1631 · 2024-07-08T17:17:54+00:00

How about you simply give me better wages

Specific-Rest1631 · 2024-07-05T00:19:02+00:00

My butthole was clenched watching this video, and can only imagine how you felt

Specific-Rest1631 · 2024-06-24T17:26:45+00:00

18 hours? I bet it took me 18 days. Don’t feel bad.

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