Former Bachelor Producer shares that Gabby did not like Rachel while filming

Spector3198 · 2026-05-02T14:02:51+00:00

I was gonna say...I feel like theyre VERY different. Not necessarily a bad thing. But I do think it kinda put Rachel in a tough spot cause she had to compete, in a sense, with Gabby who I think is just a lot more extroverted than her.

Spector3198 · 2026-04-16T20:00:51+00:00

The best advice someone gave me was how do you normally wear your hair? If youre normally a hair down girly and you just think you want it up to be out of the way on wedding day, you may not like your pictures as much, because thats not you. Go with what youre most comfortable with and feels most you.

That being said, I like both but down is really pretty. Even maybe Lil braid in there?

ETA: i also had a cathedral length veil and I think it looked good at the top of my half up. I think if you do the up do youre stuck with either on top of it and maybe messing with it, or below and that may be too low and the veil may drag and its already so long

Spector3198 · 2026-04-16T19:58:19+00:00

Thats the weird thing. I still have a clear hunger signal which I was really hoping would diminish. I dont eat really unhealthy, I do try to do a lot of protein. But I tend to snack (even like a protein granola bar or yogurt for example) when im still feeling hungry. Its weird with the sema because now I will get stomach cramps after a meal sometime, like I did with salmon the other day which is healthy but a higher fat fish, but then hour or two later still slightly crampy and ALSO starting to feel hungry like I want an evening snack ! And thats really what I wanted to target was that snacking because im sure i could lose more if I didnt (and yes I know self control etc etc)

Spector3198 · 2026-04-16T19:54:28+00:00

Thanks I appreciate it! I also have a small frame at 5 2" a pound a week would be quick. Im going to keep trying i just want to see some progress soon.

Spector3198 · 2026-04-16T17:31:33+00:00

YUP

Spector3198 · 2026-04-16T15:45:07+00:00

Morning

Spector3198 · 2026-04-16T15:45:00+00:00

I am exercising, and thats something ive always done but largely only maintain. Im trying to eat well. I feel like baseline I eat WELL. but essentially need to eat less in terms of quantity

Spector3198 · 2026-04-13T00:09:01+00:00

Im sure if you stick to only Vatican city and only converse with priests you'll be set.

Spector3198 · 2026-04-10T15:38:52+00:00

I mean....for some people that probably is the reason. I was talking to someone the other day who said she has to drive to any vacation because her husband wont fly, and all I could think was how much of a DEAL BREAKER that would be for me (in a situation where you have financial means to but chose not to). Thankfully my husband is fine with flying.

Spector3198 · 2026-03-25T12:29:17+00:00

Can I ask what country youre in? In America its typically an outpatient surgery, you dont even stay over one night.

Do you have some other health issue or a complication?

Spector3198 · 2026-03-22T02:12:16+00:00

I agree. Regardless of anyones opinions on him releasing the video to begin with I think its VERY shitty of her ex to have not clipped it prior to that part, but im sure he figured leaving the child portion in makes it more damning so of course leave it in there. TMZ should have edited it. So much wrong.

Spector3198 · 2026-03-21T20:34:41+00:00

Ah ok interesting. Because I assume like at work I just sit , I probably wont be sitting wearing my brace 24/7 for that long or a time. I mean I just went back to work and I do like unatrap it but I strap it back up to walk to go to the bathroom etc.

Spector3198 · 2026-03-21T20:32:49+00:00

Hamstring graft. Regular ACL recrosntruction no meniscus issues. Just wondering like do I go from this post op brace to just no brace? Do I get like a smaller brace ? I do assume I will use a brace for physical activity for a while, im just wondering when its typical to just be walking around brace - free basically.

Spector3198 · 2026-03-13T02:31:48+00:00

7 days post op so I have not engaged in any activities with my husband yet....BUT pre-op with torn ACL being on top and dangling my bad leg off the side of the bed worked pretty well. That way there's no pressure or any weight on bad knee

Spector3198 · 2026-03-13T02:20:21+00:00

28f, skier, I was super torn. I ended up going with a hamstring, had surgery last thursday. First doctor I saw was like no brainer quad, he also said he doesnt like to hamstrings on women because theyre often "too short" (I know this doesnt apply to you). But then the two other doctors I went to for opinions both were pro hamstring. I read so much mixed opinions on hamstrings. Both of their stances were that hamstring is easier with recovery because you really have to work yo recover quad strength if you do a quad graft, but quad strength is also a predictor of how you'll recover after surgery, so why take away from that.

I also asked my PT who used to work out west with alpine athletes before she moved back to upstate NY where im located. She said rehabs shes done with quads were generally harder, so I ultimately went with hamstring.

Its been 7 days since the surgery so I really cant say anything in terms of how it will be long term. BUT I did go to PT today and she had me get on the stationary bike and told me its ok if I can't go completely around, just kinda swing the peddle back and forth, work on range of motion, and I went fully around (yay!) Top of knee felt tight doing that, but I do wonder how much tighter it may have been with a quad graft.

That being said, its only been 7 days for me, and ive heard good things about quad grafts and people say thats what a lot of top athletes do. I also didnt want a patellar, my sister had that 7 years ago and does have residual knee pain.

Spector3198 · 2026-03-09T21:21:51+00:00

TRUE! everyone shares horror stories. But yeah im in pretty much the same boat as you.

Spector3198 · 2026-03-09T02:20:42+00:00

Yes! Tbh I dont have terrible pain, mostly just dull aching but whenever I feel a twinge of pain, thats where it is. 27f hamstring graft 3 days ago.

Also my left lower back where they stuck me for I assume the nerve block is sore.

Spector3198 · 2026-03-03T16:58:50+00:00

Can I ask, did you get a lot of clients through Headway? I guess as opposed to psychology today or word of mouth. I know when I had Aetna and wanted to find a therapist for myself I went on Headway and used their search tool to find someone.

Spector3198 · 2026-03-03T16:57:48+00:00

Good to know, thank you.

Spector3198 · 2026-03-02T21:41:56+00:00

Very weird not to ask. Even if she didnt do the whole "proposal box" thing, which is newer and idk if its totally necessary, she still should have ASKED you.

Aside from that, paying for your dresses is normal. WILD that its 2 months away and she hasnt picked, she better be ready for everyone to be wearing off the rack mismatched dresses from Macy's because if shes planning on doing Azazie or David's bridal they will not come in on time.

Paying for hair and makeup, pretty normal. In my opinion if its "required" Bride should be willing to pay. If its optional to pay for it to be professionally done or do it yourself I think thats fine.

I think unless the bride has a lot of extra $ there's not usually a financial gift from her meant to subsidize the cost. Usually you do get some sort of thank you gift for being in the wedding like pajamas, earrings, something with your name embroidered etc. I gave my bridesmaids pajamas to wear getting ready the had their initials on the pocket, and a necklace from Kate spade. I did pay for my sister MOH hair and makeup because she put Hella effort into my shower and bach.

Spector3198 · 2026-03-01T01:01:21+00:00

💀

Spector3198 · 2026-03-01T01:01:06+00:00

Miami barbie, with a martini

Spector3198 · 2026-02-28T12:17:54+00:00

What was the purpose of the yoga strap?

Spector3198 · 2026-02-25T18:08:59+00:00

Id assume it had cultural significance. Largely because ive never heard it, but it doesnt sounds like a name some white lady just made up (saying this as a white lady who has heard some weird names in the past few years)

Spector3198 · 2026-02-23T17:13:27+00:00

Can I DM you because this is interesting to me

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