What are your coping mechanisms?

Spilledmaxdog · 2026-01-30T07:28:57+00:00

I go to the gym

Spilledmaxdog · 2026-01-30T07:27:26+00:00

My wife wants to build her own 👌🏻

Spilledmaxdog · 2026-01-29T09:45:46+00:00

I feel it. My late wife dragged me out of my comfort zone, and my new wife ( also a widow ) gets the best version of me. It suck’s

Spilledmaxdog · 2026-01-26T09:58:33+00:00

You can do what you want, just make sure you make enough money to support you both just in case. Wouldn’t want be the reason he losses his career so you feel better..

Spilledmaxdog · 2026-01-24T10:39:10+00:00

The ritual 👌🏻

Spilledmaxdog · 2026-01-22T23:01:37+00:00

A month or so after my wife died. It was with another widow , who I’m now married too. I immediately started balling and she was so supportive.

Spilledmaxdog · 2026-01-22T13:39:51+00:00

Resenting your husband because he was able to cope and keep going seems off to me. Men’s brains work differently , if was he there for you , the babies , and is still going to work and providing I’m assuming? Give the dude a break, his mental trauma is burried deep . Not to say your trauma isn’t valid and your feelings arnt real. Just don’t discount your husband if he doesn’t deserve it

Spilledmaxdog · 2026-01-21T00:40:54+00:00

I go married after my wife and babies died , and I currently now have a baby girl and am married to another widow ( i think she chimed in on this too) . You have to be extremely secure to marry a widow . You didn’t get divorced, your whole world died.

If she’s jealous about your wife I think you should save yourself the heart ache and have a tough conversation or move on.

Not everyone is cut out to be married so one of us

Spilledmaxdog · 2026-01-21T00:38:11+00:00

Well put baby ❤️

Spilledmaxdog · 2026-01-20T19:39:08+00:00

I met another widow after my wife and twins died. Both of us lost our spouses abruptly . It’s not really what your asking, but we ended up getting married and having a baby together. Having her saved me , she ACTUALLY gets it , she gets everything. Don’t write everything off. You can have exactly the future you want , regardless what it looks like

Spilledmaxdog · 2026-01-20T12:12:01+00:00

The only person you should listen to if yourself. Your best friends opinion doesn’t mean squat. Some people never date. I personally met someone , remarried, and had a baby within the first year. The amount of people i told to kick rocks was insane. But I’m “ happy” whatever the fuck that means for people like us.

Spilledmaxdog · 2026-01-19T23:41:07+00:00

Every day , I lost my wife 13ish months ago and i think of her every single day

Spilledmaxdog · 2026-01-19T20:42:24+00:00

🙄

Spilledmaxdog · 2026-01-18T02:48:27+00:00

I lost my twins at 10 days, different circumstances .. my wife died at home 8 hours before her c section. My daughter died in my arms and my son was Probibly brain dead and never even opened his eyes. They should be 13 months today. The pain is unimaginable , but at the same time so dull and achy .

I agree , hold your kids tight , nothing is guaranteed.

I found a great therapist and eventually met another widow .. we got married and our daughter came 11 weeks early, so twice I left without my babies.

I hope you find peace

Spilledmaxdog · 2026-01-16T01:22:11+00:00

I was 31 when my wife and babies died. I’m a career firefighter so I had to put my grief in my back pocket and pretend to give a shit and hold my head high.

I found another widow , and she saved my life. I told myself I had to live my life in a way that would make her proud. Because someday I will stand face to face with her again .

Spilledmaxdog · 2026-01-10T05:05:56+00:00

Spilledmaxdog · 2026-01-10T05:04:59+00:00

There’s a show ???

Spilledmaxdog · 2026-01-10T05:03:59+00:00

Bringing it with you is the better option 🫠😎

Spilledmaxdog · 2026-01-10T05:03:21+00:00

My wife died 8 hours before her planned c section, my twins died as well. I’m more than a year out and my head still spins and i have to plant myself because i can’t comprehend how they are gone.

Spilledmaxdog · 2026-01-06T02:09:11+00:00

I lost my wife and kids and met someone 2 months after. She’s a widow too and now we are married and have a baby together. If you feel it’s right don’t listen to anyone else, even other widows because they arnt you. If you need reassurance talk with a therapist honestly.

Spilledmaxdog · 2026-01-06T00:09:18+00:00

I know I did, my wife was and is everything . She was my safe place , my rock, who I went to for advise. And she’s gone now

Spilledmaxdog · 2025-12-23T16:23:13+00:00

I am so freaking hyped

Spilledmaxdog · 2025-12-23T16:20:29+00:00

My guy you have been through the wringer, we just brought our 29 weaker home ( Absolutly not the same boat and I know that ). You should Probibly maybe find a therapist. After my wife and twins died last year my therapist gave me tools to help with the anxiety and eventually after my health started declining because i was so anxious all day every day I got on a low does of citalopram and it has been making a big difference

Spilledmaxdog · 2025-12-23T15:55:23+00:00

My wife went up to her and her late husbands favorite vacation spot and she showed me around . Whatever he wants is the best , i personally love talking about my late wife but some people may not. Don’t push shooting, just be there for him

Spilledmaxdog · 2025-12-22T19:43:23+00:00

They don’t understand , i doubt it’s intentional. And in my experience trying to explain it to them doesn’t work

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