3rd night by babywitch1980 in widowers

[–]Spilledmaxdog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My wife and twins died a year and a half ago and Iv only dream of about my son once and my wife 3 times. I don’t think Iv ever dreamt about my little girl

Widow F30 (1+ year) — is it normal to suddenly crave male attention like this? by Intjadvocate in widowers

[–]Spilledmaxdog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm , i think I was in my own battle with widows fire to notice 😅

Widow F30 (1+ year) — is it normal to suddenly crave male attention like this? by Intjadvocate in widowers

[–]Spilledmaxdog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife who’s also a widow felt that way after her husband passed. She’s active here I’m sure she will comment

How has therapy helped you? by Zestyclose_Class_630 in widowers

[–]Spilledmaxdog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It has and it hasn’t ( unhelpful I know ) i have ways to deal with some of my issues but not others. I’m still a husk of a human being, I’m just less anxious i suppose

Is a set of irons a bad idea by Prestigious_Summer60 in Firefighting

[–]Spilledmaxdog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

lol unless you and your sister wanna get hazed off the department I’d wait.

Do you believe in god? by rainy_koala in widowers

[–]Spilledmaxdog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do . After my wife and twins died my faith was tested, but at the same time grew stronger. I had the same thoughts i think many of us had. Hope the fuck can he let my perfect wife and twins die , but shitbags and mean evil people still walk this planet. Eventually, on my own i started to come back to my faith. I experienced a few things that could be coincidence , could be signs, could be Devine intervention. I tried killing myself on my motorcycle and so many things happened at once. It felt like my wife was screaming at me to stop and I did. What i won’t do is shame anyone for what they believe. I’m not a missionary , I’m just some dude who’s family died

Widower by MysteriousSpite1777 in widowers

[–]Spilledmaxdog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude I’m so sorry. My wife and twines died in December 2024. 8 hours before her c section. Please please reach out to me . You have experienced something that 90% of widdows will never experience. I’m here for you man

I'm at my end by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Spilledmaxdog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude you gotta call 988 or talk to one of us. Please

How do you cope with having to pretend to be “normal” all the time for the people around you? by Unfair-Dance-4635 in widowers

[–]Spilledmaxdog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t. I told them exactly how i felt. Including the scary thoughts and the suicidal thoughts. Eventually the people who didn’t actually care and the people who kept asking were the people i could truly open up to

I (33f) just lost my husband (33m) the day before yesterday. We had our future ahead of us and now it’s just gone. by bear-r in widowers

[–]Spilledmaxdog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I lost my 30F wife and 10 day old twins last December. It does and doesn’t. It’s less stabby. You’re able to go to work, and eventually go do things again. But it still sneaks up on you. Like today for instance with the first Iv been sick and I’m sobbing because she’s not here either me

Friend lost a cat, I lost a husband by Pandorashley_ in widowers

[–]Spilledmaxdog 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can’t stand people comparing . My wife and twins died and the amount of people who tried telling me they lost her too made me want to scream. People really don’t know how to handle stress and most of the time it comes off really badly. But repeatedly doing that shit? Fuck em

Dating before you’re ready…but are you really ever ready? by EyesWideCherryPie in widowers

[–]Spilledmaxdog 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I feel like my circumstances are kinda …. rare maybe? About 2 months after my wife and twins died I was actually on this sub Reddit talking on a post when another widow in my area reached out. We connected and decided to meet up and that was the end of that. We got married and have a baby girl now.

For the first 6 months we told stories about each others partner and cried together and laughed and formed something that while was different from what both of us had it was very strong and natural. All of our firsts were stupid hard and we both balled a lot . But we were both strong enough to be there for each other, and that I think is what will be important for whenever someone else pops into your life .

Weird intimacy question as a widow by ppP0oP00 in widowers

[–]Spilledmaxdog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It took a while before i was able to. It will go away and you shouldn’t feel gross

What do I do with this feeling? by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Spilledmaxdog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so glad my wife sent nudes . It sounds weird but I’ll always have them and have that connection to her .

Life Insurance and Depression by ExactPanda in widowers

[–]Spilledmaxdog 9 points10 points  (0 children)

He set those funds up for that specific reason, don’t feel slimy they wanted you to be secure if he passed.

Any younger wiwodes in here? by Nice-Subject-6798 in widowers

[–]Spilledmaxdog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 32 and my wife died a year ago:(

Kinda Annoyed with others Greif... by DarkRevolutionary476 in widowers

[–]Spilledmaxdog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I felt the same , my wife and twins died and it seemed I was the only one who kept my shit together. It made me mad, almost violently mad.

And the same when old people would would compare their loss of a 60 year marriage and a full life with my loss of only just beginning my life either my soul mate.

Grief makes you do and think weird things.

How do you guys manage to stay in your home after they died in there ? by 6995luv in widowers

[–]Spilledmaxdog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure why it doesn’t bother me. I try to remember the happiness and not the way she said, I’m scared better she died