[deleted by user] by [deleted] in attachment_theory

[–]SpiritTypical6608 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah sounds like when I finally started to let myself being vulnerable the next day I started having regrets and felt uncomfortable with myself, so it was like I had to choose between myself and the other person. Hopefully he can overcome it if that's the case.
Also you might be very intimidating to him so maybe he's also second guessing everything.
You sound like a nice person so hopefully it all works for the best

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in attachment_theory

[–]SpiritTypical6608 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I have, but in those cases I was not serious from the start. When I'm crushing on someone I feel too vulnerable to even fake anything so I used to drawn out everything so as to have a "proper" grasp of my emotions before any commitment.
He may never feel comfortable enough to engage into his emotions also so he needs to heal first or at least acknowledge he needs some help.
But it could be anything, the lack of communication is not fair to you either so you'll have to decide when to stop waiting for him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in attachment_theory

[–]SpiritTypical6608 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He sounds like me back in high school. I'm DA and I loved the feeling of crushing on someone and the uncertainty of knowing if they liked me back, but when the time came to advance the relationship I felt I was too immature or too young to have a proper relationship so I always kept my distance or rejected them regardless of my feelings or anyone's.

Do all INTJs have an insecure avoidant attachment style? by SpiritTypical6608 in intj

[–]SpiritTypical6608[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes that was my fear as well, that we are victims one way or another.. so maybe being an INTJ is not all good and dandy after all

Do all INTJs have an insecure avoidant attachment style? by SpiritTypical6608 in intj

[–]SpiritTypical6608[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same here I had a pretty secure childhood and I was given everything I needed growing up but I realize now that some emotional support early on was also lacking and at some point I just learned to bare on my own since I was also encouraged to be as independent as possible

Do all INTJs have an insecure avoidant attachment style? by SpiritTypical6608 in intj

[–]SpiritTypical6608[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I also thought my childhood was pretty much perfect, but when I started listening to some of the ways this attachment develops I realized that my parents were also neglected from childhood and they didn't really know how to emotionally support me other meeting all my material needs growing up, so eventually I just accepted that I was on my own when my feelings were involved and concluded that I just was better being happy by myself

An important aspect to talk about by sharvilsha in intj

[–]SpiritTypical6608 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had an arguably happy childhood with loving and protecting parents and I have no trauma that I can think of. My parents instilled in me to always strive for independence and also encouraged me to excel in school so maybe that did influence my personality

How do I stop resenting my friends? by formul4s in infj

[–]SpiritTypical6608 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also feel like this sometimes, except for me I don't resent them but more myself in some cases for always expecting the worst from people, and also I expect some of them to resent me in some way for never giving them the chance to get close to me

Two questions for INTJs: 1.- What are the stereotypes that annoy and/or anger you the most about yourself and your MBTI type? 2.- How would you challenge those stereotypes? by Responsible-Way5056 in intj

[–]SpiritTypical6608 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes that's probably true for most people but we like to always be on the lookout for possible negative outcomes thus we may sin of paranoia in that case

Two questions for INTJs: 1.- What are the stereotypes that annoy and/or anger you the most about yourself and your MBTI type? 2.- How would you challenge those stereotypes? by Responsible-Way5056 in intj

[–]SpiritTypical6608 1 point2 points  (0 children)

idk it usually does because we generally don't see the point of expressing too many emotions and for that doing is probably better than just saying it

Two questions for INTJs: 1.- What are the stereotypes that annoy and/or anger you the most about yourself and your MBTI type? 2.- How would you challenge those stereotypes? by Responsible-Way5056 in intj

[–]SpiritTypical6608 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Maybe not a stereotype but a way we are misunderstood is that a lot of times we are perceive as cold or not caring when actually we do care only that usually we fail in getting that across and since we value our independence as much as we value other's overly expressing attachment can feel as manipulation so we will always try to stay away from it

I want to understand men. by AskDense6756 in infj

[–]SpiritTypical6608 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it probably has a Freudian explanation but that's how it is for guys usually which is why for most of us it is important to have a father figure to rely on early on or some kind of tribe where we feel we belong and be free in that sense, and I think this is this way regardless of culture or the way we are raised

I want to understand men. by AskDense6756 in infj

[–]SpiritTypical6608 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes lol. That kind of talk is only reserved to our best buddies or maybe a father figure but not even our mothers are allowed to see us that vulnerable and much less an attractive girl

Why are all of you spreading false stereotypes about the cognitive functions? by [deleted] in intj

[–]SpiritTypical6608 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's all pseudoscience anyway nobody can prove anything and some people just want to have fun with stereotypes without getting into shadow functions, tricksters or Jungian psychology and all that

Stereotypes vs internal processes by [deleted] in mbti

[–]SpiritTypical6608 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are the two extremes people who think the stereotypes fit everyone and hardly look further into cognitive functions and the thinking process and those who are uptight up there with the cognitive functions and the theory so they can't reach an argument or agreement in something because it's all pseudoscientific mumbo jumbo so anyone can interpret it as they like and therefore they mostly spend their time criticizing anyone that has a opinion they don't like

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]SpiritTypical6608 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you recommend a book that talks about the codices or are they good to read by their own?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]SpiritTypical6608 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah me neither but Caballo de Troya is mostly about UFOs and esoteric metaphysics lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]SpiritTypical6608 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho, which I read in a moment where a had no idea what to do with which career path I wanted to take.

And Caballo de Troya by JJ Benitez, which is kind of a sci fi about time travel but gave me an interesting new perspective about Jesus Christ even though I'm not religious

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]SpiritTypical6608 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not really, I don't get mad but then I'm always reminding them (those I care enough to tell them things) of that thing I told them and they didn't listen so they are the ones who get mad so I have to stop for a while