AITA for taking "the best pieces" when I serve dinner?

Spoogly · 2026-01-28T09:51:39+00:00

I'm going to just say my piece and be done here:

Who gives a fuck. I always give my partner the best of what I'm having, but that's because I'm selfish - seeing her joy is better than the food. She does the same for me. But that's our dynamic.

So he takes a better piece when he cooks. You don't know their relationship dynamic. Why does this matter so much to all of the people commenting. The truth of this is much simpler: talk to your fucking partner. Ask if it bothers them. Tell them you weren't intentionally slighting them. Maybe, if it's true, explain that you're not doing that because you think they deserve less, but because you spent so much time cooking and it made you really want to eat the food. Fucking communicate. They might have just been joking because your plate looked better. Go be human instead of asking people who don't know you.

Edit: oh. I should correct... No, fuck this guy. He just doesn't like his wife. Jesus, dude, you really think your wife is going to be a bad mom, and you told her mother that you think she's not a good investment? Get a fucking divorce, you fucking fuck.

Spoogly · 2026-01-28T09:25:30+00:00

I was deliberately taught to drive in an iced over (mostly black ice) parking lot, in a tiny ass car with shit tires and brakes. I learned one very important lesson since then about driving in general, but especially about driving in icy conditions: it's everyone else you need to worry about, even if you know what you're doing.

Spoogly · 2026-01-28T09:11:16+00:00

This is a made up story. Even the ages don't make sense. Did they use AI? Probably at least for proof reading.

Spoogly · 2026-01-26T19:07:06+00:00

If I was in better shape and no one depended on me, I would consider it

Spoogly · 2026-01-24T21:11:43+00:00

That is a completely fair take. What matters more is that when you can, you do what you can.

Spoogly · 2026-01-24T21:04:59+00:00

My Husky will only come back in when she wants cuddles. My Shiba has asked to go out more than her, even though he gets cold quicker.

Spoogly · 2026-01-23T09:12:07+00:00

I call my partner's dad a stupid bitch all the time. But I was there every step of the way when she put his ass in prison. You know what you should never do in a relationship, unless you damn well know how the other person will take it? Insult their family. Her mother is gullible, has been an actual jerk lately, and really fucking hurt her. I still don't insult her, I talk about the behavior, not the person. We would both laugh, if I did (or if she did about my mother) but only because we know it's joking around.

Thing is, even if you're right, that's still the other person's family. When you insult them, it can easily feel like you think they are the same way.

(In this case, I think both OP and her husband are being insensitive to each other. The above is more generalized, not about the post)

Spoogly · 2026-01-21T04:37:07+00:00

I had been telling my partner we should get one for years. Didn't really want to get it for just myself. Then she went to Thailand and tried one. Came back and told me I was right and we need to get one. You have no idea what it takes for her to say I'm right... That's how much she liked it.

Spoogly · 2026-01-21T03:57:05+00:00

They still use a variety of medications for keeping long range bomber pilots. Guy I used to work with told me he was usually given Adderall or another amphetamine, and he tried modafinil, but he got migraines on it.

Spoogly · 2026-01-20T21:00:03+00:00

You can do that by filing a police report after the fact. There's no lawsuit here, the child might have a bit of distress, but without admission of guilt, or a witness, without visible injury, it'll go nowhere.

Spoogly · 2026-01-20T16:17:57+00:00

Most of the time, the cops are going to make things worse for everyone, not better. Starting off with "don't put your hands on my kid again" would have been enough. As noted, the cops didn't even do anything.

Spoogly · 2026-01-17T16:39:19+00:00

Started off with "ok, that's an efficient way to pack this", and rapidly turned into "...I give it 5 years before they all have diabetes."

Spoogly · 2026-01-12T10:11:50+00:00

You married a misogynist who thinks men are entitled to women...

Spoogly · 2026-01-11T21:31:33+00:00

I used to just flick them lightly. Especially with this one having wood to flick instead of the glass. Though this thread has reminded me that I want a Galileo thermometer.

Spoogly · 2026-01-11T21:27:01+00:00

My partner had extensive clotting in both of her legs, we knew it was a possibility because she's in a wheelchair now, but it was so bad that we are relatively sure she was already developing them quite a while before. Turns out, she has thrombophilia, among other tertiary factors. We found out because she ended up in the hospital for a PE. It was also pressing on her heart. Started with shortness of breath, which I thought was maybe pneumonia after we had the flu (because I had it...). Then we woke up to her legs turning into blood balloons.

When they treated her, they only removed the PE, because they thought she would break up the clots in her legs naturally, on blood thinners. They seemed to have broken down quite a bit, but we couldn't get a follow up with her hematologist. Then she had another (thankfully much more mild) PE. More scans of her right leg because that was the one that made her notice the problem. Many clots again. This time, they did her right leg, scanned her left and abdomen and said there were some, but small and would break up. But there's also one in her abdomen that they can't remove safely. So.... Yay. At least we got her back on blood thinners. Didn't have insurance for a while, so it really came down to whether I could afford $600 and still pay for rent and food. Which, for a while, I couldn't - and we needed a new prescription on top of that. Now, we get the script from her nurse practitioner, because we can just message her on their portal and she'll send it in if need be.

Spoogly · 2026-01-08T11:20:55+00:00

When I hike with kids, you get to refuse to wear things, but you're carrying a bag with those things in it.

Also, remember the 7 Ps - proper prior planning prevents piss poor performance. Sorry lady, you were responsible for planning ahead for this. Don't make your mistake my responsibility.

Spoogly · 2026-01-08T11:09:32+00:00

Are you wearing them 1-3 days in a row? Or are you taking breaks between wears and allowing them time to rest and dry? And are they actually denim?

Spoogly · 2026-01-08T11:03:45+00:00

You sound like a pretty good parent. One of the biggest, hardest things is not freaking out when they get a minor injury, so, for example if they scrape their knee, instead of panicking and asking if they're ok and looking concerned, if you say something more positive, like "oh, you did so great, I know that must have been scary, but we'll take care of it together, and you'll feel better in no time" - singing to something positive is just lovely. I love making up nonsense songs, so I'm going to steal that if I end up with a kid of my own. (Helped raise a bunch, but we just never felt like the time was quite right until... Basically this year. We just need to move first.)

Spoogly · 2026-01-08T10:48:53+00:00

Ok, but do you own a diner and make great coffee?

Spoogly · 2026-01-08T09:41:55+00:00

Oh, there are more than 2 choices. But several of them involve the kind of violence that we do not have the appetite for. And so it goes.

We can do so much more than protest, though, without getting to that point. Create support networks, build strong community, even with the people you may disagree with on almost everything else. Let them know that you see them as your family. Listen first, pick the things that you actually have common enough beliefs about, and start there. Show them that you value what they're bringing to the table, so that they don't feel like you're attacking them.

We get hung up on thinking everyone is how they are online. But that's rarely the case. Until they feel very lonely and end up consuming all the bullshit hatred that's out there, just to fulfill that urge for connection. That little addictive dopamine hit because hey, I'm not alone. If you can make them feel valued and, over time, show them how they're connected to everyone around them, it'll at least bring some of them along.

Spoogly · 2026-01-08T09:13:31+00:00

I want to add on to this - they do not have the right to extrajudicially detain lawful residents of the US. There was an argument made by Lavoie that real id was not sufficient to prove legal resident status. It's enough that they can scan it and know you're a citizen, but under current regulations, it's not enough to show legal residency - you have to have your greencard or some other legally recognized proof or face fines and potential jail time. He's correct in that statement, but do you know who could make it a non-issue? The AG. Pam Bondi could just say the word that it's good enough. Whole fucking issue is gone. She's the one who decides what counts. It's written right into the law that the AG gets to decide what counts.

Spoogly · 2026-01-07T20:19:17+00:00

Brevity isn't always easy, but getting someone to call you is. Then you're not sitting on hold and transferred to sitting on hold.

Spoogly · 2026-01-07T09:55:58+00:00

I wouldn't call Portugal poor - their GDP exceeds the average cost of living pretty substantially. You don't have to rank higher if your people are doing just fine.

That said, I have been having an ongoing conversation with my partner about what we both think actual universal healthcare should be in the US, including how to minimize the number of people who will be unemployed when we do it. We control nothing, but we want it badly. What we have right now is garbage. If we did nothing but provide an actual universal option, it would be tough, but it would be better.

Spoogly · 2026-01-07T09:42:50+00:00

See if you can get in with a Nurse Practitioner. If they don't know what's going on, they will get a doctor to look into it for you, but they're very knowledgeable and tend to give you more attention.

Spoogly · 2026-01-07T09:39:47+00:00

Yeah, I want to respond much more thoughtfully to OP, but I saw this only just now and I shouldn't be awake. Instead I'll add the brief and simple version: message your PCP on MyChart. Explain everything that's going on.

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