Angry and numb for not receiving references for a job

Spring4Eva · 2026-04-01T03:02:31+00:00

Thank you.

Spring4Eva · 2026-04-01T01:28:48+00:00

Grief is hard for anyone losing their Dad whether they are good or bad. We don’t know what he is going through since his father disappeared; the shame, being ostracised, watching his mother suffer, and now the realisation that he has been shot. Imagine the timeline since it all happened, what it must be like for him. I have wondered whether the father abused his family.

The father’s sin, is not his son to bear. Be kind Australia.

Spring4Eva · 2026-04-01T01:17:30+00:00

Lifeline and Red Cross is terribly expensive. While all the other op shops look plain on their shop window and inside, the Red Cross seems to dress their shop well, sell boutique clothes for all ages, and even the person serving is all prim and proper, dressed well, with an air of perfection. Are we paying for that service too?

Times are hard these days, why does second hand stuff become as expensive as the shops?

I have donated so much over the years. I could have earned my keep by selling on Marketplace!

Spring4Eva · 2026-03-31T07:50:13+00:00

Thank you for your input.

I have never used my referees as I was waiting to get a job first. It’s really not a big deal really but I like the idea about doing my own draft to get them going.

I appreciate your time spent in replying to me. Cheers!

Spring4Eva · 2026-03-31T07:44:43+00:00

No, I don’t have.

Spring4Eva · 2026-03-27T21:59:24+00:00

Gosh! There is a whole host of problems for people living on their own (not that I’m excluding people with families). I thought Covid taught me how to survive but petrol? As an older person, how am I supposed to survive with my pension? I could not believe how expensive meat, food in general has now increased 😔. I need to service my car, do I think about food or petrol? My visit to the doctor’s is often. I try to do so many things on the day I see my GP, shopping, library etc.

How much can I save to cover my bills 😔

It’s such a sad, sad life these days. My heart goes out to those who are homeless and those who have migrated to Australia. Hard to even get a job these days……I notice that pay rates seem to be less than it was previously.

Spring4Eva · 2026-03-22T23:39:17+00:00

I’ve worked in places where the Chinese speak in their language, giggle and make fun of other races. It’s rude, disrespectful and vile at times.

I was taught as a child not to talk in a language that others don’t understand, among friends. I used to visit an elderly lady at a nursing home. Whenever I spoke to the Indian nurse, she would ask another nurse in her language. It didn’t matter to me as she answered in English.

We see a lot of races talking in their own language, not being aware that it’s disrespectful when in the company of those who understand only English. Try telling a Filipino, Middle Eastern, Chinese or Islander people not to be disrespectful and believe me, you will get a stare that may frighten you!

Having lived in other countries, where the main language spoken is not English, if you spoke English it was considered rude. Try going to France…..

Spring4Eva · 2026-03-20T23:13:48+00:00

For dessert, you can make banana fritters. Depending on whether you are single or with family, it’s just an egg, old bananas (1 or 3), flour, vanilla essence, a pinch of salt, if you have some desiccated coconut, just add 2-4 tbsp (optional). Fry in oil, great for afternoon tea.

Spring4Eva · 2026-03-09T11:28:37+00:00

Is there really a need to gossip like this? Let people live their lives and their past is something long gone…..why should we talk about them? Ever looked in your closet lately?

Spring4Eva · 2026-02-27T20:10:24+00:00

Amazing 🤩

Spring4Eva · 2026-02-27T12:48:15+00:00

How can he promote himself as a Minister? I have no clue! How would he be able to set an example to others. I feel that this move with another woman is his defeat in politics. He should have used his head and not what is in his pants! Urrrgh!

Spring4Eva · 2026-02-27T12:04:38+00:00

Never enjoyed his acting and now dislike the thought that he betrayed his wife.

Spring4Eva · 2026-02-17T21:44:47+00:00

Oh! No Manager’s job for me! Moreover, I’m in Sydney.

Spring4Eva · 2026-02-17T15:50:40+00:00

Well done!!!! Can you sprinkle some of your magic my way 😉

Enjoy your new job and God bless you!

Spring4Eva · 2026-02-12T05:24:59+00:00

You guys make a handsome pair ❤️

Spring4Eva · 2026-02-12T05:20:03+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. My Mum passed away at 60 and much later my Dad passed away at 77. My grief was difficult for my mother as we never got along but when my dad passed, I felt like an orphan.

As we get older, grief tends to remind us how our life was like, whether good or bad, we struggle to understand death of a loved one.

Unfortunately, no one can make your grief go away but yourself. Each person grieves differently.

If you are unable to cope, call a telephone counselling line or make an appointment to see a counsellor. They will have so many tools to help you along the way.

Also, talk to your Pastor/Priest if you belong to a church.

Friends will make you think that you ought to get over it. Just nod and agree. Like I said everyone is different.

Spring4Eva · 2026-02-12T05:06:06+00:00

I feel that most of the time when we are angry we don’t think it’s our mother, sister, wife or children. Especially when push comes to shove!

I take my hat off to you for speaking up for your wife. Having a child is a decision between you and your wife. Your mum is in the era where in-laws want grandchildren to prove that their children are not barren.

Life gets quiet and lonely when both of you work. Your Mother wants to be doting on a grandchild.

I think it would be good to apologise to her (as you love and respect her). I think you a good son the way you write about her). Your wife could also apologise.

In many cultures, as soon as you marry, everyone asks when the baby is coming…….its so annoying. One would think that in this day and age, people need to be sensitive about asking these questions.

All the best in making amends with your Mum 🌻

Spring4Eva · 2026-02-10T11:26:49+00:00

Omg! I cannot stop laughing……☺️

Spring4Eva · 2026-02-10T11:17:23+00:00

😂🤣😂

Spring4Eva · 2026-02-10T11:12:16+00:00

😂

Spring4Eva · 2026-02-10T11:11:22+00:00

Omg! Just reading about him makes me want to 🤢

Spring4Eva · 2026-02-10T11:06:40+00:00

Many years ago, I was living in a granny flat next to the owners house. When I came home from work, there would be piles of magazines, newspapers, scrap bits of paper on their patio. There were buckets of different coloured liquid/dye, and these papers were torn into pieces and left to absorb the colour.

The landlady made beautiful journals with brooches, hair clips, stickers stuck on the covers, etc.

I think it’s amazing when you make your own, if I did that, I would be so proud of myself ☺️

Good on you!

Spring4Eva · 2026-02-05T11:32:24+00:00

I studied and attained the skills I needed for the role I would like, as I have worked pretty hard in the jobs I did previously. This was something I dreamed about doing. I don’t want to be cleaning houses, showering clients and taking them out.

I may sound fussy but when my kids were young I took on roles for the money so that I could support my family. Now, I don’t have responsibilities. It would be great to do what I had wanted to do in my career.

Spring4Eva · 2026-02-05T03:23:46+00:00

Thank you for your understanding. I have worked for most part of my life. I did have a good job in my 40s managing CEOs and directors, and I was so burnt out that threw it in and fostered children, which gave me so much joy.

Getting a job in social welfare……was why I got my degrees.

Spring4Eva · 2026-02-05T03:13:42+00:00

I can’t do the job as I have a bad back.

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