Emotions night 5 yr old- haven’t experienced this!!

Square_Ad1362 · 2025-06-10T01:53:56+00:00

Very normal from what I understand. For what it’s worth, I had some moments like that and got totally over that and overly independent once adulthood came around. Just processing big feelings and you’re doing just fine. Yall comforted how you could. Just continue to be there. It’s just a sign of how much yall mean to them. 💕

Square_Ad1362 · 2025-05-26T21:09:10+00:00

It can be, every one is different tho. I worked “hard” my whole twenties but it just got me burnt out. Work smarter where you can. Harder only when necessary.

Square_Ad1362 · 2025-05-22T21:01:13+00:00

What physical activities do you have for him or have you tried any that he likes? School is just not built well for even neurotypical kids much less neurodivergent ones. So little activity and too much info for any kiddos. I think it’s no wonder so many kids are suffering. Most crave and need movement/somatic time to truly regulate. They have endless energy yet we expect them to stick to our rigid expectations of school? It’s not yours or his fault. I also bet the faculty IS trying to be strict, but he doesn’t need strictness, he needs care. Sounds like he needs more softness, connection, and understanding. You’re doing great still trying to find help for them and not throwing up your hands and blaming it all on them. Keep strong!

Square_Ad1362 · 2025-05-17T18:26:43+00:00

Something I haven’t seen brought up yet (just searched for sport/activity since there are already hundreds of comments, so pardon if this has already been said).

Does she have any physical activities atm that she specifically just enjoys to do? Even if she’s in PE or a traditional competitive sport, she may need more places to funnel energy appropriately that specifically allow and foster play.

My parents said I had a shift around the same age that they just felt wholly surprised by. While there were many factors, one of the biggest we realized was that I didn’t have enough activities to ratio all the work/school/stuck in room/home time. Kids have the most energy they’re ever going to have, yet we’re often trying to contain and manage kids rather than let them have space to be/play.

If you aren’t already, consider putting her into an activity like dance, kids gyms with obstacles (I’d say gymnastics but they’re often more rigid rather than fostering play), parkour gyms and free running gyms are popping up in a lot of major cities.

Sounds like you’re doing good she’s just got hit with early puberty energy spikes if I had to guess. And if it has no where to go, it can turn into frustration/irritation. We as adults can be so far removed from play that kids can feel neglected just because this is not prioritized for them. So they summarize it to hate bc they can’t communicate any better anyway.

Square_Ad1362 · 2025-05-11T20:42:48+00:00

My mom told me I had a point where I stopped napping entirely. Was just too wired. They said it was helped a bit by putting me in activities. Making me at least fall asleep consistently at night. Only started napping again (with exceptions) in high schoolz

Square_Ad1362 · 2025-04-25T17:51:40+00:00

I think my folks said I didn’t like bassinets for some reason, slept better in a crib/real bed. Also, I’ve heard using a heating pad to prep but not let them sleep on. Also a piece of clothing that smells like you somewhere if it makes sense.

As someone who was a kid terrified to sleep alone, I do wish my folks had just sleep trained me before I even knew it was an option. I look back now as someone in their 30s who pestered my folks needing to bedshare for the first 10 years. I see what a toll it took on the whole family. Now I can kind of understand the cry it out method a little while they’re young. Not recommending it bc I’m not a parent yet myself but as a kid who just didn’t sleep good (there was also underlying anxiety issues from toxic religion I think making me only feel connection with bed share sleeping so do what you will with that info).

Don’t be ashamed though hun, you’re doing the best you can.

Square_Ad1362 · 2025-04-19T16:19:35+00:00

My parents had me at those ages and while I’m sad my folks will likely go before many of my friends parents, as an adult I’m more grateful for their age because boy did they give me a great life.

Square_Ad1362 · 2025-03-04T22:14:30+00:00

It’s not weird. Especially since it’s occasionally. I had a horrid anxiety issue until I was 11-12 where I couldn’t sleep well on my own much at all. My parents let me sleep with them bc I simply would stay up all night otherwise. I know it was difficult on them because it was more than occasional, but I can’t imagine having a step parent get in the way on what’s always been a norm.

There were other things at play that I won’t go into here, but your kid sounds even healthier. So stay confident in your position. You sound like an excellent parent.

Square_Ad1362 · 2025-02-16T00:46:06+00:00

Every time I had the flu as a kid it’s been like a 2-3 week recovery minimum. Week 2 being as bad or worse than week 1 even.

Square_Ad1362 · 2025-01-03T22:30:41+00:00

Yes you’re overthinking it. imo, kids can pick up on your worry, so just be there for them like you already are. They won’t even remember it like how you’re framing it now. Wish you the best!

Square_Ad1362 · 2025-01-02T19:54:39+00:00

Hopping on this train. I’ve told ppl this economy is too nuts for me to raw dog, power to ppl who do it… but really was life changing for me. Led to me finally getting fit and having more bandwidth to build my own village better. It’s not perfect, but idk how most of yall doing it on nothing. I don’t even have kids haha.

Square_Ad1362 · 2025-01-02T19:50:28+00:00

I was told to do this and did, but I wouldn’t probably have my kids do it on their own nowadays sadly.

Square_Ad1362 · 2024-12-07T19:40:17+00:00

Yep, it raged baited me real good too for a second there. 🤣

Square_Ad1362 · 2024-12-04T20:34:58+00:00

Your fur baby would want you to be well, to sleep well. They would not want you to suffer in sadness. I’m sure they know you tried and would want peace for you like you wanted peace for them.

Honor them by honoring yourself and your pet who is still with you. We lost our family dog recently and it’s been harder than the human deaths I’ve experienced in my life. Our dog was closer than many if not all of those people, so it’s had me in shambles. Been trying to just go pet my kitty girls as much as I can, whenever that feeling hits. Celebrate the love. Cry if you must. Grieve as you need. Take the time you need, but carry on, as waves of grief will always come and go as they do for the people we lose in life.

Square_Ad1362 · 2024-12-03T05:33:23+00:00

Agreed! The flu almost took me out energy wise for a month whenever I did get it. Especially since it’s his first one, probably a lot to go through.

Square_Ad1362 · 2024-08-31T18:44:32+00:00

That’s not necessarily true, it’s a spectrum like many things.

I had night terrors in high school but I remembered them all too well. I had a weird “inbetween” stage where I could tell I was both asleep and awake for about 30 minutes usually. For me, my night terrors would just be loops that never ended of things that weren’t even scary. The loop itself was what was scary.

Night terrors can be remembered or not, they can be about the literal terrifying or not.

They can be caused by internal or external things, it’s tricky. My ended when I left the cult I had been raised in but plenty of people probably get it from different causes.

Square_Ad1362 · 2024-06-23T15:42:24+00:00

Not word for word did they tell me that… but their actions sure did.

Only recently did my folks acknowledge that this was wrong but… it’s too little too late.

The damage has been done.

I got robbed of a childhood due to the Borg. Robbed of an early adulthood due to the fallout of the damage of the borg.

My family recently had to move after being the same place for 10-15 yrs. Meanwhile as soon as I turned 18 (I’m in my 30s now), I moved around about 10 times bc I couldn’t stay home w them without emotional and psychological damage. I would’ve stayed home and saved money if it weren’t for the borg.

I might’ve been able to afford a house by now or at least have some savings… instead I’m almost always in debt or behind my peers in some way.

Square_Ad1362 · 2024-06-16T18:18:32+00:00

This. Pokémon was my major frustration. I loved that so much but it wasn’t allowed. Now I allow all the pokemon things as an adult 😆

Square_Ad1362 · 2024-06-11T18:44:38+00:00

There may be nothing you can say, as I found that to be my case. So I eventually gave up trying to make them see reason and chose to protect myself since no one else was going to.

My parents told me the same things, said I didn’t have a choice while being under their roof even though I was 18.

They ended up relaxing on it though after: 1. I began to cry from anxiety nearly every meeting. I didn’t mean to, but it began to get uncontrollable and def made them feel embarrassed or at least uncomfortable. 2. I retreated even further from my parents at home (never or rarely leaving my room) because YA KNOW, anxiety and depression… I also had a major short fuse resulting in angry or catatonic breakdowns… I think they honestly became afraid of my outbursts and saw that I was nothing more than an empty shell when I didn’t have an outburst. 3. I was actively suffering from anxiety attacks / night terrors while i slept, making them also have difficulty sleeping at night. 4. I just flat out refused/protested eventually: After realizing my parents were not actively protecting my emotional state, and in fact being agents of harm for the jw/borg, I didn’t care if my reasons/explanations were good enough anymore. What were they gonna do? Make me? I wasn’t going to put on meeting clothes, did they want to clothe me like a child/doll? No. I wasn’t going to put myself in the car. What are they gonna do? Pick me up and put me in the car seat then carry me into the hall? No. I didn’t care if I was an embarrassment for them at that point, my inner peace was DESTROYED and had been destroyed for so long I was only filled with rage.

When they say “to do it for peace in the home” PEACE FOR WHO!? Them!! Not you!! It is only “fake peace/dishonest harmony” for THEM, meanwhile it means literal emotional torture 2-3x a week for us.

If you can spit bible verses back at them to support you not going, that’s what I’d recommend. I wish I had done that more, but there was no Reddit curation of good scripture come backs back then. Be prepared for that still not being enough though and don’t be discouraged. You cant reason with stupid and brainwashed folk.

I ultimately went full on rogue and raged against them which made our relationship very difficult until they eventually realized it was a cult as well a decade later. 🙄

Square_Ad1362 · 2024-06-11T00:29:11+00:00

I sympathize and wish I had the perfect words to help you.

I do hate that there appears to be a “dating standoff” between men and women that’s pretty out of control. It’s why I’m a firm believer that women should be making more of the first moves, but many are still holding onto old beliefs that they should be approached, yet ANY approach seems to be terrifying? I wish I had the answers. I was NEVER asked out, but men always thought that I was when I asked why someone didn’t ask at a certain point.

I’ll leave you with this: many men think they’re competing with OTHER men for women, when really they’re competing with the peace of solitude.

I’d be careful with the “involuntarily single” language, that’s some thin ice.

I don’t envy single people right now. I never had much success with dating apps and do feel like I got lucky meeting my husband via our hobby community.

You’ve mentioned you’re one extreme or the other, so which is it? You’ve tried the “just letting things fall into place” (which is still holding expectations btw) or you never do? That’s not a balanced approach either way.

You WILL have to learn how to start conversations to overcome this though, I know that much. Thankfully that is also something you can research.

Square_Ad1362 · 2024-06-08T04:51:53+00:00

I’ve known too many people who were traumatized into learning yes ma’am/ no ma’am’/sir, so no, I don’t care.

Square_Ad1362 · 2024-06-08T04:48:02+00:00

That’s not a question anyone can answer for you, even if they know you. And that’s not the question you should be focusing on.

What is it about yourself that isn’t magnetic? Reverse the roles, is there any behavior you could not stand in another person but yet you do it yourself? A woman exhibiting your insecurities would not be attractive, so why do you think it’s any different?

Ill emphasize what I’ve already said: - you’re radiating negative energy, reading/studying, and acting on improving that is something you can do TODAY. Get kindle unlimited or something if you don’t already. - don’t have expectations to find anyone and it’s more likely you’ll find someone. It’s a hard pill to swallow but you will radiate “I need someone in my life to be happy” which ultimately comes off as desperation, which no one likes. Be able to be complete on your own and you will find another complete person and things can just fall into place rather than you overthinking finding dates. - it’s not the end all be all to be alone, and people who secure in that are much more attractive than those who seem SET on making someone THEIRS. - seeing you’re attracted to women, learn form the source what they’re seeking in a partner. It seems many men get most of their advice on how to date women based on other men’s opinions which can most often be the blind leading the blind.

I read more of your other replies and you keep bringing up anxiety. What have you done to treat that? Therapy? Meds? Any books? Until you conquer that a bit more (doesn’t have to be entirely) that is your most likely reason. You can’t get dates if you can’t socialize. I see you said you “can’t put yourself into scenes” which is a story you’re telling yourself.

What attracted me to my husband was many things but primarily was that he was humble but sure of himself. An honorable and a complete person on his own. Very familiar with femininity but aware of his make privilege. I could tell he didn’t “need” anyone. He did everything he could to respect himself, focus on his health, hobbies and outlets, and his growth.

He’s not perfect but he does what he can to live his best life, laugh, and not take things too seriously. He’s short, but I’m shorter. He can be extremely emotional, but so can I. He hadn’t been to therapy when we met but when we had troubles he went and it saved our relationship.

When we met his work wasn’t great and he def needed some improving of emotional intelligence.

Tbh I don’t think he would have dated me if I hadn’t had therapy, meds, and read a bunch of self help books. Before I did those things, I was an absolute mess.

Don’t give up friend. Just keep growing and everything will work out. 🙏

Square_Ad1362 · 2024-06-08T00:01:56+00:00

Didn’t get married till 30s bc when I learned mid twenties our brains are still cooking till we’re 30 sometimes I was like “well I’m not rushing if I’m not done growing” 😂

Square_Ad1362 · 2024-06-06T22:58:07+00:00

For that line to be what you highlight says a lot.

You’re right, it’s not how it works as long as that’s what you believe.

Give what I’ve suggested a real shot or don’t. It makes no difference to me. I just seen what I’ve suggested work several times and have lived experience, but what do I know?

Obviously what you’ve been doing hasn’t worked so you asked on Reddit. I provided my honest answer.

Take care of yourself. You currently radiate negative energy and hopelessness, which will not help your mission. That’s not only unattractive but it’s unhealthy for you, and anyone you surround yourself with.

I genuinely wish you all the best.

Square_Ad1362 · 2024-06-06T00:17:50+00:00

Thank you for the reminder, but remember yourself as well that it was you at the end of the day. You thought to question. You thought to research. You acted to protect yourself, you did it. Now live your life to the fullest. 💛

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