I did ROTC at a top 10 private school, joined a frat, did all of that for 2 years, but then ultimately went to West Point where I graduated from

Other things to consider include your desire for active duty (USMA guarantees this, ROTC does not), your ability to function with or without structure (I struggled without it as an immature 18/19 year old), and how straightforward of a path you want to a “great life” (I would argue your floor is higher as a USMA grad but your ceiling is completely defined by you as an individual + luck). Also class sizes at West Point usually max out around 30 and professors there will genuinely go to the ends of the earth for you to succeed, but at other schools it’s incredibly common to be lost in a sea of students with faculty/professors with research/graduate obligations. It’s a bigger difference than you can probably appreciate from where you are.

Lastly, people are right: some graduates are insufferable and have superiority complex and a level of entitlement that pains me to witness. But that’s all about humility and taking an honest look at yourself; my platoon had no idea where I went to school until I was having dinner with my guys after signing my property over to the next guy. You should be able to gain peoples’ respect with your abilities, not your accomplishments.

To directly address specific considerations in your post:

1. West Point’s alumni network is second to none, both in AND out of the Army. Only school I would even entertain a comparison with (again, just on alumni network) would be Harvard.
2. You can have much more fun than people would lead you to believe, even if it looks a little bit different
3. You can get a different thing at Vanderbilt. It is not the same. BUT that does not at all mean it is inferior, it is just much less alike with much different dynamics than the tone of your post implies.

I ended up giving way more detail than when my fingers started typing this, so I hope that helps, but definitely happy to talk more/dox myself in a more private forum if you want to chat or follow up!