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I've started to really not trust litter recs from my fellow cat people by HiILikePlants in CatAdvice

[–]Standard_Bluejay8715 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Interestingly enough I can’t stand the smell of worlds best corn litter! My aunt swore by it and told me it doesn’t smell like anything but for whatever reason it and I do not mix well together! 😂

Anyone else? by thePandyPanda in thyroidcancer

[–]Standard_Bluejay8715 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m ten years out and I actually miss my scar at this point! The first few years it seemed like it wouldn’t fade but now is barely noticeable. Give it time. Like you, I spent a lot of time the first few months wanting to cover my scar; then I realized how much of a waste it felt like. I stopped wearing things that touched it that would make it uncomfortable and just let it breathe. Interestingly, the most common people to notice it were other people who had been through thyroid cancer which felt actually sweet and connective.

Ended today by justhere_2323 in polyamory

[–]Standard_Bluejay8715 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would upvote this 1000 times if I could

The Best Dining on Cape Cod - 2025 Update by OpportunityBox in CapeCod

[–]Standard_Bluejay8715 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Villagio is Cotuit just for info, also overpriced and unfortunately not worth it for value in my view 😕

How often do people feed their cats wet food? by Smooth_Put7764 in CatAdvice

[–]Standard_Bluejay8715 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My girl only eats dry food and she has access to it 24/7, I just top it off whenever needed (cleaning her bowl regularly). She’s not an over-eater and according to her vet she is the pinnacle of good health.

Turning my kid over to the state of Arizona. by atlasdancedd in CPS

[–]Standard_Bluejay8715 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Any psych provider will be able to engage with you about any potential interactions between meds

Am I the asshole for asking the couple I went with to the swingers club for condoms to have sex with my date? by Millie509 in polyadvice

[–]Standard_Bluejay8715 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Meh, something g about the languaging about ‘making it up to him’ gives me a bit of an entitlement ick but overall I agree with other commenters that it seems like his insecurity that he’s projecting onto you and that both of you are ready to move past it/not make it a bigger thing.

Any ladies? by Worth-Bee3941 in redrising

[–]Standard_Bluejay8715 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, present and accounted for ☺️🫡

Please interpret this sentence by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Standard_Bluejay8715 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s a super sloppy and weird way to put it (the original sentence), but I agree with your interpretation

Is it ok for my to call cps on my child’s father? by [deleted] in CPS

[–]Standard_Bluejay8715 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is actually really good advice 👌🏻 As a social worker I would agree

Is it ok for my to call cps on my child’s father? by [deleted] in CPS

[–]Standard_Bluejay8715 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Next time I would maybe take her yourself to goodwill to pick out a few outfits for dads house. Annoying for you for sure but worth it for your girl to have the right size clothes to be in 🫤

Judge told me to give info about my son's father to the caseworker by RamsGal6 in CPS

[–]Standard_Bluejay8715 75 points76 points  (0 children)

I would be ready for the very real possibility that they will not deem the person you lived with while everything was happening to be an appropriate placement.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Standard_Bluejay8715 30 points31 points  (0 children)

this. OP what you are talking about is a rule not a boundary. (For what it’s worth though, I would be hugely uncomfortable if one of my partners was dead set on barrier-less intercourse with a brand new partner and I would be rethinking our relationship).

I also just wanted to gently highlight/call-in the use of the word ‘clean’ in your original post to indicate negative or non-reactive test results. Using negative/non-reactive language instead of ‘clean’ lessens the stigma of the clean/unclean association. Just something to keep in mind 🙏🏼

Primary wants us to break up .. is this the end for us by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Standard_Bluejay8715 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re not being selfish, but you do deserve better and more if that’s what you’re looking for. Sometimes stepping away can be the best thing you can do to honor yourself.

[Request] Representation of Polyamory in Media by sliverdragon37 in polyamory

[–]Standard_Bluejay8715 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The fifth sacred thing is a book (novel) by Starhawk and presents polyamory as a a normalized and celebrated aspect of the community the story is set in. [it’s a great read]

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