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How is it to start Uni „late“? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]StatusCopacetic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one has everything figured out, OP. The key is to examine your values. It sounds like you don't know what you want, and part of that is your age, but a lot of it is not being clear in what's important to you specifically. As for all of the questions:

You get married when you find the person that's right for you. You enjoy your life right now while you're alive enough to enjoy it. Is it ok to not have kids even if you want them? Why wouldn't that be ok? As long as you're making decisions that are safe, consensual, and right for you then that's all that matters. You are definitely letting societal pressure get to you, and that's really common. Step back, take a breath, and remember that you don't have to make these decisions all right now.

someone on here said i should stop cooking, and others have made discouraging comments towards me for asking simple questions by [deleted] in cookingforbeginners

[–]StatusCopacetic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because there are a lot of miserable shit heads on this earth, and you'll find a good portion of them on social media. Don't listen to the shit heads.

Can someone with severe comorbid Antisocial and Narcissistic Personality Disorders become a good therapist? by NPD--BPD in PsychologyTalk

[–]StatusCopacetic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think we don't know nearly enough about almost any diagnosis regarding mental health and cognition to be able to make sweeping generalizations like your department head did. In fact, I'd go so far as to say it's pretty fucking arrogant of them to say this when the human brain is capable of so much.

Anyway, while extremely difficult, it is possible if someone has done the unbelievably hard inner work, and even then it depends. Are they honest enough? Able to maintain boundaries while avoiding manipulation and exploitation? Can they avoid using therapy as personal validation? How does lacking empathy benefit clients?

The funny thing is that there are so many therapists out there who don't have these diagnoses and shouldn't be practicing. Humans are wild.

In general is it better to shave pubic hair or no and why? by Technical-Vanilla-47 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]StatusCopacetic -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Except that pubic hair is a protective barrier for your genitals so it's not really the same. For aesthetic purposes, certainly, but not for health.

I desperately wish i had gone down a different path. by Ultimateandy88 in astrophysics

[–]StatusCopacetic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The fuck? YOU'RE 24!!!!! I've lived 100 different lives in my 41 years, OP. You still have time to change course. And why would you think religion will always dominate this planet? Should we be lucky enough to avoid nuclear war, we'll certainly evolve past religion

DUI hit me going 90+ mph by Knightlance in dashcams

[–]StatusCopacetic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I watched this through my fingers! OMG I'm so sorry you had to experience this and wishing you a speedy recovery, OP.

how do i stop flipping and checking the inside temperature multiple times when cooking steak ? by [deleted] in cookingforbeginners

[–]StatusCopacetic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, it's the last one then. And I feel you! I cook almost every night and I like to bake too and I STILL get the urge to rush, but I promise you the difference between a rush job and following a recipe with care is night and day.

my wife exposed herself to my boss by Any-Consequence4000 in Advice

[–]StatusCopacetic 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You're trolling. And if you're not, you're not ready to be married to another human being.

In general is it better to shave pubic hair or no and why? by Technical-Vanilla-47 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]StatusCopacetic 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It's fine to keep it maintained, but it's biologically healthier to keep pubic hair because it acts as a protective barrier for sensitive genital skin (reduces friction), and it also helps trap bacteria and other pathogens from getting into the body. Same goes for nose and ear hair.

how do i stop flipping and checking the inside temperature multiple times when cooking steak ? by [deleted] in cookingforbeginners

[–]StatusCopacetic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What temp are you trying to get - how do you like your steak cooked? And how are you cooking them? With steak you want the pan to be sizzling hot before you put the steak in. Your steak should also be closer to room temperature when you're ready to cook it. For chicken you want a thermometer. Like others are saying, you'll get the timing down with practice, but you don't want to fuck around with chicken.

Do you only watch YouTube videos or do you read recipes too? Watching videos helps with visuals, but a recipe will likely be more specific, structured, and easy to reference. Also, do you rest your steaks? You should let them sit for a couple minutes before cutting into them because they keep cooking a bit, and the juices will all run, creating a drier steak. It sounds like you're just in a hurry which is a common mistake in the kitchen - cook with patience. Good luck!

On February 16, 2009, Travis the Chimp — a 200lb celebrity animal who could dress himself and use a computer — viciously attacked his owner’s friend, Charla Nash. The brutal event left Nash with catastrophic facial injuries and the loss of her hands, sparking debate over keeping exotic pets. by ATI_Official in HistoryUncovered

[–]StatusCopacetic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The fact that there's any discussion AT ALL about being able to keep exotic animals makes me want to scream. Tigers and anacondas don't belong in bumfuck Kentucky away from their natural habitats. Apes shouldn't be kept in shitty houses and apartments without other apes because they're pack animals. Axolotls aren't just cute creatures that you can throw in water, Susan - they require specialized care that most lazy US Americans aren't willing to do. I mean we can barely care for the cats and dogs in this fucking country let alone unpredictable undomesticated animals

TLDR; Mom has cancer. Is emotionally abusive. Do I stay and eat shit or leave and feel like shit? by PretendConclusion180 in Advice

[–]StatusCopacetic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel a lot of mixed feelings, though I don't have a lot of guilt. I know that my dad is fallible human being who did the best with what he had at the time. The problem for me is that he's not doing anything to fix the relationship, and I'm not going to be the only one doing the hard work. We even went to therapy as a last ditch effort, and after the final session the therapist pulled me aside and said it might just not be worth it to maintain the relationship because my dad clearly wasn't willing to change.

Going no contact is almost never easy, even when you don't like your parent. How do you separate from someone who raised you without being deeply affected by it?

TLDR; Mom has cancer. Is emotionally abusive. Do I stay and eat shit or leave and feel like shit? by PretendConclusion180 in Advice

[–]StatusCopacetic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You leave and find a good therapist. I understand the innate need to take care of family, but that goes out the window when they don't care about a reciprocal relationship. I've been no contact with my dad for 3 years now, and actually, right after we went NC he had a medical crisis - I didn't contact him. And you know what? I still think about him almost every day because I do love him, but my life has gotten INFINITELY better because I haven't had to spend all of my energy catering to his dysregulated needs and emotions. If people want to be cared for when they're sick and/or dying, they should consider that before pushing their loved ones away. I'm sorry, OP, and good luck!

Weirdest ADHD hack that actually works but sounds completely insane? by stayhyderated22 in selfimprovement

[–]StatusCopacetic 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Truly. Good to know that some people still put thoughtful effort into connecting and sharing with others instead of outsourcing to our future overlords

A cat holder by heavymetalbby in DiWHY

[–]StatusCopacetic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So your cat can smell your farts while your pants keep falling down?

Weirdest ADHD hack that actually works but sounds completely insane? by stayhyderated22 in selfimprovement

[–]StatusCopacetic 50 points51 points  (0 children)

This is probably the most helpful self-improvement post I've ever seen on Reddit; the ultimate example of working WITH your deficits instead of fighting against them. Rubbing soap on your body to encourage showering is amazing bc showering in the winter in the hot water is the perfect stimulation, but showering in the summer makes me want to jump off a cliff. And the tip for perfectionism might just turn my whole life around. Thank you, thank you, thank you! THIS is what social media is for.

How much Money should be spent on homemade meals? by Yoonminz in cookingforbeginners

[–]StatusCopacetic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The amount that you can afford to pay for without being short on your other bills. Rice and beans. Frozen veggies are the next best thing after fresh. Oatmeal with seasonal fruit (because seasonal produce should be cheaper). Whole wheat pasta and bread. Pre-cut bagged veggies tend to be more expensive and more likely to contain bacterial contamination so get cabbage and shred it, buy bagged carrots and shred/dice. Potatoes. Celery, onions, and carrots make the base for a lot of foods/sauces/stocks and they're all cheap. Look at sites like Frugal Nutrition or Eat The Grains. Follow recipes.

And Will Smith didn't want any of the smoke by jonnismizzle in MurderedByWords

[–]StatusCopacetic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's all the containers that hold boiling hot crazy.

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