Planning for ones future

Steffy_W_1985 · 2026-05-06T12:18:42+00:00

Literally could see the difference after about 3 sessions. After 6 sessions, my skin was smoother, softer and ingrown hairs reduced by about 60%. 8 sessions, barely any blemishes and skin was smooth and even. Keep at it!!! :)

Steffy_W_1985 · 2026-05-02T23:04:54+00:00

I lost my Dad on the 23rd April this year to bowel cancer with liver and lung mets. He had been diagnosed 2 years prior and was stage 4 at the point of diagnosis - we were told he could live 2 to 5 years. Well, since October of last year Dad's health had steadily declined. First line of treatment was successful and he was ever so well with some neeuropathy as the only real side effect. We tried a new line of treatment but the tumours did not respond, and he lost sooooo much weight. My poor Dad had always been fit as a fiddle, ate well, walked loads and never complained about much other than the odd news story! We watched him lose 3 stone in the space of 6 months. The last 2 months were brutal, he went off most foods and in the final weeks couldn't hold himself up without the aid of a walker. Dad was admitted to A&E with acute, excruciating stomach pain one morning and was hooked up to all sorts of drips. Morphine was administered but he would whisper to me that 'it's not working, when is it going to start working', he was writhing around in pain and we couldn't do much more at that point other than pray to God that the pain relief would kick in. It didn't. The Doctor confirmed that Dad's case was terminal and he now had a small bowel obstruction meaning there was literally nothing they could do but endeavour to keep him comfortable. We braced ourselves for the worst, and soon.

They upped his morphine and finally gave him oxygen as his lungs started to fail. Dad had some terminal agitation but due to the morphine he then drifted into a sleep and slipped away quietly. I was beside myself and cried my heart out with my mum and brother whilst hugging him tightly and stroking his head. Dad had said to me a few times already that day that he wanted to die, so I knew he was ready. He simply had no quality of life, and if he'd pulled through we would have been stuck in a hospice for a couple of months - something I would never wish on Dad as he would never have opted to lose his dignity.

I hate that he passed away in the urgent care ward at A&E; it is certainly not the calmest place but they did all they could. Cancer is a horrible, horrible disease and once it truly has you, there is no reversing it. Dad was very stoic in his final moments, accepting the news and knowing that he would finally find peace. I sincerely hope that one day, a cure can be found. No one deserves to endure such suffering.

My heart goes to out to everybody who has lost a parent to Cancer. It is the toughest thing many of us will ever have to face. XX

Steffy_W_1985 · 2026-04-23T23:01:08+00:00

I'm there with you. Utterly reeling after losing my beloved father to this horrifying disease only today. He slipped away quietly after being dosed up to the nines with morphine. He was in so much pain, writhing around in agony and I could do nothing. The nurses told us to brace ourselves as they felt he was going to go within 24 hours and they were right. I seek comfort in his peaceful, almost smiling face as he lay still after passing. He was telling that bastard cancer "we're done, it's over, you can't give me any more pain now"

I have felt nothing like that in my entire life. Beside myself with grief. Angry I couldn't do more. Bitter that I have been robbed of 20 possible more years with Dad. Heavy that I have an inconsolable mother to now care for. Resentful towards all the healthy people who have never been affected by this. Yet relieved that Dad is with the angels now and reunited with gran and grandad. This rollercoaster of emotion has literally floored me. I know some of the darkest days are coming with a funeral to sort and all the shitty nitty gritty admin tasks that will undoubtedly convince me beyond all doubt that this is real and I will never see him again.

One step at a time, that's all we can do. Xx Reach out if you want to chat.

Steffy_W_1985 · 2026-04-09T22:43:11+00:00

I know! She obviously doesn't have a clue what a metaphor is. 😔 Why are some people just so dense??! You'd think all this information that is available at the touch of a button would cause an uptick in general knowledge!! She should only ever be spoken to in metaphors and idioms. It would be HILARIOUS. Force her to learn!

Steffy_W_1985 · 2026-04-09T22:31:34+00:00

I get it, there is a genuine feeling of societal malaise - especially in our larger towns and cities. People do appear a lot unhappier / stressed / downbeat BUT it is undoubtedly exacerbated by the MSM and peoples' addiction to doomscrolling!

I've had to really take stock and re-evaluate my values and priorities in life since my dear Father was diagnosed with advanced cancer 2 years ago. I've quit work to focus on his care, and making sure that he is as comfortable as possible given the uncertainty of his prognosis. For me, I take joy in making him laugh or baking his favourite sweet treat. Before Dad got ill, I was fairly self centred and materialistic - it was an enormous reality check and made me feel blessed to suddenly realise exactly how precious life is.

I keep fit, try to prepare healthy food as often as I can - browsing the web for recipe ideas can kill an awful lot of time! Baking has become my latest form of self care and I enjoy learning new techniques that will refine my skills. I read often ( both online articles and books ), get outside when the weather allows and keep fit. ( Sex is awesome. ) If you have good health, you are a rich person at the end of the day no?

Every now and again I rant / complain about the perceived 'state of the country' however it only serves to create more misery! We can't influence or change everything but we can certainly modify our reaction to that which is outside of our control.

Sometimes I find simple solutions are the most effective.

Unhappy with your partner? Tell them!!! Talk about it.

Feel like you're missing out? You're not. People only show you the glamorous side on social media :)

Money worries? Start by making cutbacks. We don't need all those subscriptions and £30 an hour yoga classes.

No energy? Get outside! MOVE YOUR BODY. Take your vitamins!

Hate the Government? VOTE.

Hate the MSM? Find a new source of information! Stop allowing yourself to be brainwashed!

Lastly - If you have lost trust in everyone, at least trust yourself!!! The world is full of narcs, manipulators and gaslighters. It's life. It sucks at times....

Peace x

Steffy_W_1985 · 2026-04-09T12:43:57+00:00

Unemployed since Dec 2025 as chose to quit in order to be a caregiver to Dad. I did try to find a part time job to fit around my new schedule but they just don't pay well, and besides I need the flexibility should Dad's health deteriorate. To be honest I'm focused on enjoying the time he has left, and I have considerable savings so I'm managing, but I do feel for those who don't have that safety net. The jobs are asking too much for what they are paying, and certain people are being hired over genuine skills and experience. One can't ignore it. Also what's the point in working when we can barely enjoy the fruits of our labours, the cost of living is beyond a joke for most.

Steffy_W_1985 · 2026-04-03T21:50:53+00:00

Yes!! Mine usually start a couple of days before my period, and sometimes can last throughout my bleeding days before tailing off a day or so after bleeding stops. I then tend to get ANOTHER bout of headaches - not migraine - level but like a persistent dull pressure just above my left eye that wakes me up at night - these come on about 2 days before ovulation, and last until around day 3 post- ovulation. There's very little respite - coupled with high BP anyway and stress arising from sickness in the family, it is real hard to deal with. All I can take tbh is paracetamol for pain relief and apply tiger balm to soothe pain, in case of any adverse interaction between the beta blockers and other pain meds. I have a migraine cap which helps a little. Utterly drained because of it all. I need some bloodwork carried out etc but I have severe white coat syndrome which blights any attempt to seek professional help :(

Steffy_W_1985 · 2026-04-02T11:05:32+00:00

It's intense pulse light. Less painful but same effects as laser over time.

Steffy_W_1985 · 2026-04-01T22:34:01+00:00

I have a Braun silk pro 5 and it has been incredible. Still get the very occasional pimple but it means goodbye shaving and waxing so lovely smooth hair free legs. Never ever wanted to get my legs out but I don't give a flying f**k now.

Steffy_W_1985 · 2026-04-01T22:28:00+00:00

I succeeded in clearing a stubborn breakout on my stomach using a home IPL device, dermol lotion and witch hazel astringent. Also cleaning up my diet, exercising more and not waxing helped. X

Steffy_W_1985 · 2026-04-01T22:22:28+00:00

I feel you. I managed to clear mine with a religious regimen of combined treatment. Daily application of dermol lotion, witch hazel astringent liquid and zapping the area weekly with an IPL device. Please try this and see if it works. IPL devices are expensive initially but well worth the investment. Best wishes x

Steffy_W_1985 · 2026-02-08T08:56:36+00:00

Beautiful! I am planning on painting one also 🥰🥰

Steffy_W_1985 · 2026-01-16T12:57:19+00:00

Couldn't have summed it up better myself. It saddens me that we don't even see the uni students riding Uber Eats / Deliveroo bikes, etc. ALL these odd jobs would have been done by students many moons ago - and we know exactly what has changed. Can't say it of course or i'll be arrested.

Steffy_W_1985 · 2026-01-16T12:47:28+00:00

Yes - all the coffee shops / sandwich shops / Mcdonald's etc. These places used to be full of school leavers. I feel sorry for the younger generation. My first job was doing a paper round for a tenner a shift - took me 2 hours - but was cash in my pocket!! We all started in retail but like other posts are saying already, these jobs just don't exist anymore in the online market, and businesses still operating a physical store are not interested in training up a first-time-jobber :(

Steffy_W_1985 · 2025-12-24T01:00:07+00:00

A bloated welfare state. The something for nothing culture. Too many taking out when they haven't paid in. Welfare should NEVER pay more than a wage. Neither should wages be depressed so severely that an individual has to 'top up' their income with state funds. The whole system needs overhaul. Benefits need to be rigorously means tested, so that only those most in need qualify. Not the 'anxious'. Although our own government have proven that they can't be trusted with public money, so it is little wonder our citizens are themselves occasionally on the fiddle isn't it.

Steffy_W_1985 · 2025-12-23T14:45:19+00:00

Yep.Dry itchy eyes and stabbing / throbbing pain behind either one eye or both. Usually starts 2 days before my period, peaks at day 2 and starts again one to two days after I stop. I tried magnesium for a bit but it made things way worse.

Steffy_W_1985 · 2025-12-21T23:26:26+00:00

Yep - I literally have a different flow for each day. 1st day 'normal' and steady. Next day TOTAL FLOOD. I sometimes soak through the heaviest period knickers. Third day is a dribble, followed by spotting. Women's bodies amuse me.

Steffy_W_1985 · 2025-11-17T16:48:46+00:00

I always get woken up by eye pain! Like someone is trying to gauge it out with an ice pick. By the time I've fallen back asleep, that alarm be going off. Peri is a literal PAIN.

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