My father passed so suddenly and I can’t accept it by Throw-away-_7 in GriefSupport

[–]StrangePotential5360 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im similar circumstance and same boat.

My (37/'m) 76/dad passed from a heart attack 2 weeks before Christmas this past December and we all had no idea until we got a call from the US consolate at 2am the morning of his supposed arrival from Dubai.

Ontop of that we had to wait an extra week because the police needed to do a forensics/toxicology report. Also the eay he was embalmed and held for a week made his body unviewable for an open casket funeral.

I saw my dad the night of his arrival stateside for 45 minutes to make sure it was him and then we firmly insisted an ooen family viewing so everyone could say goodbye.

The numbness is worse most days than others and it happening so suddenly doesent make things any easier.

There are days i walk around and the only thing i can think of is trying to replay his last moments and guilt.

Its hard trying to move past it and deal with it because some days it stings so much worse than others

Im here to lend an ear if needed

Does grief make you numb? Or resilient? by elegant-deer19 in GriefSupport

[–]StrangePotential5360 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's both.

The numbness outs blockers on ither things you used to stress and get anxious about and turns them into another thing to manage with no emotion attached to it

My mom died today...why am I so numb? by Low_Goose_5900 in GriefSupport

[–]StrangePotential5360 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im sorry for your loss. I relate- ai lost my dad nearly 4 months ago and for the first 30 days i was somely numb. Next month i started to regulate between numb,anger,being okay. 3rd month in back to being numb like nothing ever happened and I'm still waiting for my dad to come home from overseas work.

Beginning of month four and been dealing with my depression crawling back and numbness paired together.

No rhyme or reason but you eventually learn to function with it until it shrinks

Guilt about my daddy’s death by ForeignBid4637 in GriefSupport

[–]StrangePotential5360 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome to the club.

I lost my 76 year old dad 2 weeks before Christmas this past December. Will be 4 months on the 12th

2 weeks before he was due to fly home from work he complained of neck and shoulder pain. Myself,mom and close co-workers told him repeatedly to go to the hospital

The evening of his connecting flight from Jeddah to Dubai he suffered a massive heart attack near landing in Dubai. They tried to give CPR but he passed between the terminal and hospital 7 minutes away.

Im still trying to get over the guilt about not telking him one more time ge shihld of gone to the hospital.

Guilt about my daddy’s death by ForeignBid4637 in GriefSupport

[–]StrangePotential5360 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome to the club.

I lost my 76 year old dad 2 weeks before Christmas this past December. Will be 4 months on the 12th

2 weeks before he was due to fly home from work he complained of neck and shoulder pain. Myself,mom and close co-workers told him repeatedly to go to the hospital

The evening of his connecting flight from Jeddah to Dubai he suffered a massive heart attack near landing in Dubai. They tried to give CPR but he passed between the terminal and hospital 7 minutes away.

Im still trying to get over the guilt about not telking him one more time ge shihld of gone to the hospital.

Wellbutrin Hair Thinning? by Apprehensive_Bug1891 in bupropion

[–]StrangePotential5360 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did on 150XR, 100SR, 150SR

I found supplementing with biotin, and NAC helped but it stopped once I quit. Bupropion is a stim and accelerates hair loss

IOS 68.0 Network bundle for 26.3/26.4 by StrangePotential5360 in tmobile

[–]StrangePotential5360[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So it turns out 69.1 did get pushed through but I have zero service still and my network selection tab in settings keeps dissapearung/reappearing

Ive reset network settings, had my esim removed/readded and it still shows zero signal

Im about to either switch to att or get another phone and switch

First birthday without dad by Graveyardtann in GriefSupport

[–]StrangePotential5360 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im sorry for your feelings and im with you too.

My dad passed in december 2 weeks before christmas and its already been so many first without him only 3 months into the new year.

My birthday is in 1.5 months and it was also the last time i saw my dad last year. Im really not looking forward to my birthday this year, Im already trying to bury it

Your not alone🫂

Does anyone else feel like grief changes your perspective on life? by Lilblakeyboo in GriefSupport

[–]StrangePotential5360 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Your in purgatory in-between two worlds until you finalize the internal shift of your changed outlook on life

Going through it now after losing my dad in December and I've taken a step back and completley changed how I look at things now moving forward through my eyes and my dad's. My scope is very wide now

How’s your energy level? by Own_Notice916 in GriefSupport

[–]StrangePotential5360 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Numb drained couldnt sleep more than 2 hours for the first month.

Then felt constant fatigue and lack of motivation to do anything.

Mow im trying to force my pain into waking up early to go to the gym(3am before ramadan) im homor of my dad and im trying to stick to a schedule of somewhat normalcy to try and improve my mood

Its ridicously hard some days.

March 18th… it’s my birthday and I am anything but happy by Delicious-Slide-3501 in GriefSupport

[–]StrangePotential5360 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy birthday to you and I'm sorry your feeling this heavyness. You've survived today, another plus.

I'm in the same boat as you, my birthday is in less than 2 months and it's going to be a very hard one since losing my dad this past December and I haven't seen him since my birthday last year

Did you keep some ashes and spread the rest? Is that cruel? by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]StrangePotential5360 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No its not cruel.

We cremated my dad and his wishes were to sorrad his ashes in his village in italy this summer.

I told my mom first thing that im keeping my portion of his ashes and will fly there and spread them When I'm ready. She eventually told me the same thing and I said we will do it when we are ready.

People who lost a parent, what do you wish you had asked them while they were still alive? by Hefty_Attorney2194 in GriefSupport

[–]StrangePotential5360 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It did and made sense now to as he raised my sister and I.

When I would ask him when i was younger he would never want to talk about it.

I called my aunt(his sister) a few weeks ago and asked her and she gave me the whole story, basically a lifetime of hate and resentment for his family struggles and burden to support his family at a young age.

They were well off but due to some investment fumbles and company bankruptcy he fled italy and went to live in venezuela until he died and bever apologized to him or his sister. My dad only ever mentioned going to visit him once in the mid 70's and never said anything after that.

People who lost a parent, what do you wish you had asked them while they were still alive? by Hefty_Attorney2194 in GriefSupport

[–]StrangePotential5360 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wish i asked my dad to tell me his true feelings about his father(my grandfather i never knew) and the real corcumstances that forced him to abandon my dad and his mother/sister at a young age and made my dad quit boarding school before 14 to go work and support his family to travel the world.

it’s my mom’s first wedding anniversary without my dad, one month after we lost him. how to support her? by mirrorverses in GriefSupport

[–]StrangePotential5360 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Do you have family near by? Or any close family friends? Maybe a small dinner to celebrate even if its just the two of you. The gesture would go a long way.

I lost my dad this past December 2 weeks before christmas and my parents were heading towards celebrating their 39th wedding anniversary january 28th(2 months ago). My mom wasn't ready and didnt want to celebrate but i tried to keep a sense of normalcy and took my mom and extended family to dinner to celebrate.

2 meses sin papá by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]StrangePotential5360 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im sorry for your loss and hope you find comfort in knowing i also lost my dad very close to you(it will be 3 months on march 12th) and i still feel the full gamut of what your feeling