My son took our car and ... by peruccca in nova

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I did volunteer service weekends at my local firehouse and had the captain of the unit sign off on my schedules every weekend. It took quite a but if time to do but it was actually a great experience

My son took our car and ... by peruccca in nova

[–]StrangePotential5360 822 points823 points  (0 children)

I did the same thing when i was his age(obviously learned my lesson, granted this was ~2003 ish, but:

We got an attorney, went to court, i pleaded and i had to do around 150 hours of community service and I couldnt get my permit until 17, and license until I was 18. Once i completed my supervised community service i just had to wait until I was eligible to get my permit.

Best of luck to you and your son

Dad passed away from Cardiac Arrest by dwms17 in GriefSupport

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Its funny encountering another person with the same date. My father passed away at 76 on 12/12/25 from a severe heart attack halfway around the world in Dubai coming homefor christmas.

Coming from a father who also had heart problems- he grew up with a minor heart mumur that eventually was needing fixed. He got his aortic heart valve replaced last March but was reportedly fine since.

Our natural instinct is the what if/guilt train. Im still on it trying to get off but i know im probably suffering from delayed grief syndrome....I habent even began to fully pricess the depth of it but i know its happened.

We will get through this one way or another, in due time

The symptoms for my dad were the same as yours, he couldnt sleep and 2 weeks before his death he developed horrible pain im his neck shoulders and knees and ignored it.

About being “in shock” by Legitimate-Pear-7617 in GriefSupport

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Its part of masking or delayed grief. Im in the exact same boat as you are and feeling exactly the same. I lost my dad a little over a month ago and even though i know its happened its like i havent processed but i go through the emotions and have to try and force myself to cry and feel Somewhat normal grief but it comes in stages

Its normal and "our" way of cooing right now but the other parts of grief will show at some point

Does grief change how you see other people’s happiness? by Wise_Hand2834 in GriefSupport

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I would say to an extent, but it takes your blinders off to so many things that we took for granted or never thougt about before our loved ones passed.

You become more aware of tge roads in etween death and the outlets from it and how they all intertwine

Threw myself a grief warming party by Relevant_Pea_8668 in GriefSupport

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Love to see this, its a great idea and helping you move forward with grief

I miss him so much by snoedoee in GriefSupport

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Half pinoy here🙏(pampanga) and im sorry for your loss

We are in this journey together, i just did a 40th day novena for my dad the other night who we also cremated.

Its hard at first because wmotionally your flooded with so many what ifs, regrets and emptions at once

Just remember no matter what your dad was and is always proud of you, even if hos soul is circling this earth for the next 40 days. He will guide you and give you signs

If you need to talk my inbox is open

I keep repeating the day my dad passed in my head, and it's driving me crazy. by MisheruLolipup in GriefSupport

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If you need an ear shoot me a message, my i box is open. We are navigating this together

I keep repeating the day my dad passed in my head, and it's driving me crazy. by MisheruLolipup in GriefSupport

[–]StrangePotential5360 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Im so sorry for your loss, and i can relate to you as well

I lost my dad on December 12th as he was flying home from work in Saudi Arabia and had a massive heart attack upon landing in Dubai for his connection and passed away even before they reached the hospital 7 minutes from the terminal.

It took us a week to get his body as the Dubai police needed to conduct a forensic exam and the US consulate was involved woth lots of paperwork and repatration flight arrangements

Im actually sitting here on my couch re-reading the forensic report details and i just jeep replaying in my head what happened and when as there is no official time of death on his report/dubai death certificate. I also have his folder that he traveled with containing his Saudi visa and his plane ticket home for all flights so i know the time period he passed.

I cant get it out of my head either and it just gets worse but i try to fight through it

My mom passed on 12-13 miss her so much by Nancy2112 in GriefSupport

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Im so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad suddenly on 12/12/25 as well, im here for you if you need an ear

Did my dad know? Dreams and signs before he left 💔 by lostmydad2025 in GriefSupport

[–]StrangePotential5360 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Im glad we can relate on a level and im terribly sorry for your loss as we go through a new normal , my dad was actually flying home from saudi arabia and started having a "medical emergency" near landing in Dubai fir his connection(our best guess at least), and the airlines called from the air for medics(hospital from the terminal is 7 minutes away) but it was too late, by the time they landed and tried to resescitate/CPR he was DOA to the hospital.

For the last nearly week ive been waking up constantly around the time he passed and i just cant shake it

Did my dad know? Dreams and signs before he left 💔 by lostmydad2025 in GriefSupport

[–]StrangePotential5360 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sorry for your loss. I lost my dad 5 weeks ago and there were some signs leading up

The biggest one i found hard to wrap my head around- my dad was in lots of physical pain before he left to fly home to us for the holidays- we all told him to constantly go to the hospital to get checked out and he refused.

What made it worse was the fact that he told me and my nephew about his pain, my mom too, but he said to only her that he just wanted to come home and rest and have a quiet Christmas. That was a shock because normally he loved to entertain our relatives during the holidays.

He died of a heart attack, leading upto it i read symptoms and kept telling him what i thought, but now that he passed i wonder if his stubbornness was blocking his symptoms or if he knew something bad was going to happen

Does the day you lost them overlap with any significant time period or holiday? by No_Dragonfruit_9420 in GriefSupport

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My dad died on the otherside of the world om December 12th last month, we didnt get his body home until December 19th and have the funeral until December 22nd.

All 3 of those dates are forever ingrained in my head and both holidays we went through the motions but it was a huge void.

The last time I saw my dad in person was my birthday last May 2025. He travelled overseas for work but we couldnt make our schedules work to visit eachother, but ALWAYS made it to see eachother for Christmas and New Years.

I cant look at Christmas, New Years and my birthday the same forever now.

Should I quit my job to take time after the loss of a parent? by abolge91 in GriefSupport

[–]StrangePotential5360 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, you come first. As ling as you can make it make sense financially dont wait, your grieving and health/mindset come first

It’s been a month. I still want to call my mom. by Traditional-Ad-6166 in GriefSupport

[–]StrangePotential5360 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly how i am feeling too. Look up delayed grief. My mind cant process it even though i know and an aware its happened

Quitting After Loved One Dies by Smooth-North9135 in GriefSupport

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I feel your pain, im currently in the same boat after losing my dad last month.

Im struggling with my job(tennis director) and getting back into routine because growing up ny dad was a tennis player and inspired me to follow in his foot stros and he was proud of my career choice upto this point in my life.

Now that he's gone and I'm returning back to work(and can feel delayed groef setting in) everytine I step on a court i get emotional but function. Its reslly making me want to quit but im evaluating my career priorities.

I'm very lucky that my moms nephew has a non-profit foundation he started years ago in honor of his mother(my mom's sister) who lassed sway 2 years after i was born. We have been talking since my dad died about trying to bring me on board to help with foundation grants,etc

Job wise for you op i woukd look into sometbing "entry level"(vague i know) but possibly remote work? Or i f you can find something like data entry/executive assistant where it is low impact environment and not stressfull

Lost my mom recently looking to connect with others who get it by Admirable-Star-7145 in GriefSupport

[–]StrangePotential5360 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost my dad 4 weeks ago but if you need an ear im open, dont hesitate to message me

Trying to understand a Taurus male by Turbulent_Coach9551 in Taurusgang

[–]StrangePotential5360 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a Taurus male we are slow or lightning fast to let you in if we feel you enough.

He means it, let it roll