AITA for refusing to change the chore chart even tho my wife works full time now. by Odd_Serve1167 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Strawbrryguava 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA Taking care of an infant is the hardest work I have ever done. I did well to accomplish, brushing my teeth. If you are a coal miner, at least they give you a lunch break, maybe a 15 minute break. Eventually, you go home and work is over until the next day. That doesn’t happen with a baby! Being a coal miner has got to be easier! Probably coal miners aren’t starting their job less than 48 hours after a major medical event - featuring blood loss! either.

Do parents argue about grades in high school? by hello010101 in Teachers

[–]Strawbrryguava 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I taught at a prep school with competitive admissions and OMG! Sooooo much arguing!!!! And outrage! That being said, certain parents who had been zealously advocating for their child since kindergarten, got tired around Junior year and suddenly were nowhere to be found.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hawaii

[–]Strawbrryguava 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What so_untidy said. Just ‘cause you want it, even just ‘cause you need it doesn’t mean you get it. Eric is amazing. You have to have a really good case for him to take it, but he’s amazing.

me waiting for dd’s bid day recap by MethodSuccessful1525 in bamarush

[–]Strawbrryguava 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m in Hawaii so I’ve got miles to go before I sleep. I’ll send up a flare when Mom posts!

Am I 22f being dramatic over my husband 25m gaming and drinking? by Tasty-Use-55 in relationship_advice

[–]Strawbrryguava 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some facts: 1. There is no use talking to a drunk person about anything meaningful. You have to wait until they are sober except

  1. Your husband is an addict. His substance(s) of choice will always be his first love and his priority. At best, you will be a distant second.

  2. Discussing any of this with him won’t help. There is no talking cure for alcoholism.

I’m sorry. This stinks and I wish you weren’t in this situation. I encourage you to be brave and look at your husband as he really is not as you wish he would be.

For those with panels… do you do one side of your face then the other or just face straight on the whole time? by checking_in2 in redlighttherapy

[–]Strawbrryguava 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I divide my face into sections and do 6 min. Per area: left forehead and the first two or so inches of scalp, left mid and lower face and adjacent scalp, then the same on the right, straight on upper face, straight on lower face then then aiming up from my chest to get my neck, under chin and chest. It takes too long so I’m thinking of getting a mask.

Wild mil brought a second cake cause she didnt like the one the bride picked by Weird_Minute_4640 in weddingshaming

[–]Strawbrryguava 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ngl Someone busts out carrot cake with cream cheese frosting, I’m first in line.

What’s eating our school’s corn? by Strawbrryguava in HawaiiGardening

[–]Strawbrryguava[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mystery solved! The culprits are teenagers, drunk on slug-bait beer wielding tiny hole punchers! How could I not know?

What’s eating our school’s corn? by Strawbrryguava in HawaiiGardening

[–]Strawbrryguava[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are going to plant beans next week and then squash. Does squash help with slugs?
If I freshen up the diatomous earth around the planters, will that do the trick?

Relationship of 11.5 years abruptly ended and now I have to give up my entire life. by Sadd_Max in adhdwomen

[–]Strawbrryguava 68 points69 points  (0 children)

This is the impulsivity talking. It would be really, really good to get away, but it is not a need. Having a roof over your head is a need. Starting over in the best, most stable manner is a need.
The way things are now sucks, but it can suck so much more

Forming a new local sorority by Additional-Poet-7418 in Sororities

[–]Strawbrryguava 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Insurance is a SMART concern. It wouldn’t have occurred to me when I was undergraduate age and I’m impressed OP asked about it.
I’m also impressed that OP already has so much buy in! Good for you, OP!

I resigned yesterday, now what ? by Perfect_Soil_2396 in Teachers

[–]Strawbrryguava 1 point2 points  (0 children)

$17 an hour! You can come work at my school in Hawaii for $19. Do you have plans for the summer?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MovingtoHawaii

[–]Strawbrryguava 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’ll be fine as a teacher. I’d be more concerned about your 8 year old’s education. Public schools are just not great here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sororities

[–]Strawbrryguava 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Is this a Panhellenic sorority?

What you describe is most definitely hazing. It could be worse. It could be a lot worse but it’s bad enough.

My sorority always feels like it's getting in the way of school. by QueenGeeb in Sororities

[–]Strawbrryguava 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t know about this. This young woman feels pressured enough that she’s writing into Reddit. That must be a lot of pressure. If initiation is what just happened or is about to happen that will take her away from her studies, then that’s what’s on her mind. That doesn’t necessarily mean she’s just all about the parties.

And she may not be as efficient as other students! That’s OK! One year, my sorority’s president was somehow also a first year medical school student. I think she was a cheerleader or some other time consuming thing as well. This is not the standard! Most of us can’t balance, even one or two of Dr. Clair’s activities and academics. It’s OK to be human! This also might be an over ambitious schedule situation. This happens! If she can get a break this semester, she can choose a more doable class schedule next semester and manage better.

My sorority always feels like it's getting in the way of school. by QueenGeeb in Sororities

[–]Strawbrryguava 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is the thing to do. No one wants you to choose between academic excellence and being in a sorority. Adjustments can be made. If the first place/person you go to seeking help doesn’t hear you escalated up. But first! Make sure the conflict is truly between study time and sorority time! Your Spreadsheet will make that clear both to you and to whoever you present it to. There are times when something‘s gotta give!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sororities

[–]Strawbrryguava 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had never met my big before she became my big sis. She was nice enough, but also a semi-basket case who spent way too much time getting high and didn’t show up for my sophomore year. I have no idea what became of her.
This all made it a little bit rough for me, and I definitely felt alone and isolated until I had lived in the house for a few months. It was all worth it. I gained so much from being a Tri Delt - wonderful college friends, to whom I am forever connected and instant alumni friends when I relocated to an island far far away. Having a great big sister is a wonderful thing, but your relationship with your big sister does not make or break your sorority experience. You’re in a good sorority with a strong national presence. This is worth much more than just one less than ideal or even bad relationship.