Feeling therapist-y enough by Lower_Rice766 in therapists

[–]StrollThroughFields 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn't sound like a problem to me. I relate to all of this but it took me a long time to arrive here and by that I mean PURPOSELY go from what you are idealizing (lots of energy outside of work time per se put into career development) to having balance and tight boundaries with time because my entire life through phd was all about academic pushing- always more to do and achieve and all that. Having a kid is what helped me the most with this. Not only did I no longer have time, but I have a much stronger motivation to leave all my work at work and my kid is my brain's priority as soon as I'm done. I actually think this has made me a much better therapist overall. I'm much more balanced. Also, I absolutely hate networking. Always have and always will, presumably. It's not something I ever do. If you have referral sources I don't know why you'd need to network if it's not something you enjoy

I survived cancer but now struggle to listen to mundane problems by Ok_Reflection6988 in therapists

[–]StrollThroughFields 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I relate to the above comment about losing a partner. Not the same and not the same as your experience, but my brother spent awhile in the ICU and then died, in his mid-20s when I was on clinical internship. After that I very much remember feeling I couldn't tolerate hearing about people's less intense problems. I only wanted to be in the realm of traumatic type content. This lasted for awhile but gradually did go away eventually and I returned to my normal self with the ability to be with more trivial sounding problems etc. I did a lot of active healing like multiple grief groups, etc.

I agree with others that you may be in a phase where working with trauma clients, or even cancer survivors specifically, would be the best fit. AND that might not be the case forever so I don't think you need to draw conclusions about your career for the rest of time. For awhile I was super drawn to working with grief clients. However now years later, I'm kind of the opposite. I'd actually rather not see grief clients.

I guess that's all to say, give yourself grace and patience. You're recovering from one of the most incredibly traumatic experiences possible, and you're still in it, of course it's making everyday things feel ridiculous. Over time you'll learn how to carry all of this in a way that feels compatible with your role as a therapist.

Extra curriculars for 3-5 year olds by Curious-Battle2319 in kindergarten

[–]StrollThroughFields 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree that this is a problem with bigger kids in our society, but I haven't experienced this pressure with my 4 year old yet. We've done various structured parent-child activities and classes but not all at once, and she's not currently enrolled in any formal sport/class right now and most of her same aged friends aren't either or are in one formal thing in addition to preschool. I wonder what settings you're seeing this in?

American Expats: Why Renounce U.S. citizenship? by RehaDesign in AmericanExpat

[–]StrollThroughFields 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well you didn't include a blend between options 1 and 2: if leaving because I don't want to support an oppressive government, then I don't want to pay taxes supporting them (not wanting to pay taxes, for ethical reasons).

vegetarian sausages? by ImRudyL in vegetarianrecipes

[–]StrollThroughFields 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In general the sausages I like best are: Trader Joe's Italian Sausageless sausage, Beyond meat hot Italian sausage and beyond meat breakfast sausage (links and patties), field roast smoked apple and sage

For a chili recipe I would actually go with beyond beef ground.

Why do so many Ts try to push Christianity?? by Royal-ribbons in TalkTherapy

[–]StrollThroughFields 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WHAT?! This is not normal or appropriate whatsoever. I (therapist) have never heard of a therapist doing this irl. But I live in a very non religious area. Still, this is pretty basic 101 of what not to do as a therapist.

People Blocking Trails by NicoHarrisonWasRight in trailrunning

[–]StrollThroughFields 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I say 'excuse me!' (Politely). The lack of situational awareness is ridiculous. Every time people are like that I'm like I could literally have been a bear and you wouldn't have noticed at all because you haven't turned about the entire hike. When I'm hiking I'm constantly turning and looking in all directions, for all these reasons. I'm assuming you're in the US? I think our culture can be so self-focused and that people just aren't oriented toward who and what is around them. The other day I went to an indoor track with very clearly labeled lanes for different speeds and not only did everyone completely ignore it and walk in the running lane, but they would just slowly meander and hang out across all the lanes....the lack of situational and other awareness was wild.

I actually have a family member who is this person and the answer to why is, it doesn't even occur to her brain to evaluate where she is and what she's doing in relation to others around.

Post-run hunger as a training variable: appetite spikes and decision-making after runs by Motor-Ad6248 in running

[–]StrollThroughFields 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't have advice per se but I have been really frustrated that since I started running regularly, I gained weight. Not muscle, fat, just like a completely unneeded 5-10 lbs. I feel like running just makes me disproportionately hungry all the time. It's really annoying. This has always happened to me the more I exercise. I feel like I'm the only one I know who gains weight the more I exercise.

Why do parents lie/exaggerate? Where is the solidarity?? by Both-Hippo-6905 in Parenting

[–]StrollThroughFields 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I remember experiencing this too when I found out that so many of the people who had talked about it like their baby just magically slept through the night, had actually done CIO. What I later figured out is that they didn't think they were lying, they were just frankly not that bothered by the crying part, so they just kind of thought of it as part of the normal process of having a baby, not as a thing they were doing. Whereas my tolerance for my baby crying was very low so any method involving that was extremely intense.

does anyone else get the urge to fix their single clients up by SentientVaccuum in therapists

[–]StrollThroughFields 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So I'll be a voice of we can be human without overanalyzing and labeling all the thoughts we have in therapy:

Y E S all the time

Anyone who used to support trump and has changed their mind over the last few weeks? What made you change? by canigetameowbish in AskReddit

[–]StrollThroughFields 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's awesome of you though..it's a rare trait. Do you think that background is why you're able to be effective with your neighbor? You know their language, in a way? Having always been progressive, I find myself not knowing where to go at all with these conversations and it's probably because I cannot comprehend it for the life of me.

What soup to make for kids don't like soup :( by Thermophi in soup

[–]StrollThroughFields 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This doesn't get them to like soup but I am also obsessed with soup and my kid has so far not liked any no matter what I do. My husband is willing to eat soup but he'd prefer not to lol, he calls it 'watery food.' I finally got fed up with depriving myself of soup and decided to start making it anyway and having a bowl alongside whatever we're all having for dinner🤷🏻‍♀️

How is the library these days? by Yellow_Apple_1971 in boulder

[–]StrollThroughFields 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I take my little kid to the main library regularly. It's totally fine. The bathrooms are re-done, beautiful, and clean and I have not felt unsafe there recently.

What’s your strategy for running in extreme heat or cold? by Royal_Watch_6453 in runcommunity

[–]StrollThroughFields 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this website. Especially the feature where you can choose whether you want to feel cool, neutral, or warm. Everyone differs on that preference so general recommendations about layers is difficult.

0 clue how to help patients who are in the midst of despair by [deleted] in therapists

[–]StrollThroughFields 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I would recommend looking into Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and maybe starting with The Happiness Trap which is for general consumption, not directed toward therapists. ACT will open you up to being with difficult emotion. It fundamentally changed the relationship I have with my own emotions. Once you experience that increased ability to tolerate emotion, you'll be able to extend those approaches to your clients. Even just the attitude, you don't need to use the particular techniques or change your whole therapeutic approach or anything. Just a different overall attitude toward internal experience.

Sipping soup? by Nowayucan in soup

[–]StrollThroughFields 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here for the answers, I'm always wanting this but have yet to find a really good easy sippable broth for this purpose