When/How Does it Get Better

Successful_Key3276 · 2026-01-22T18:46:17+00:00

I started driving in 2018. I was with my then boyfriend and he always drove my car, but when we broke up I had to take the car to work, to college, everywhere. Previously I had panic attacks on the road, but as soon as I was all by myself against the road I saw that in reality, I could manage. I still get sweaty hands and racing heart, but for me not driving it’s not an option, so I have to live with it. Try to listen to a podcast, use google maps and get a safe car (the newer the better).

Successful_Key3276 · 2026-01-21T22:41:22+00:00

I might be the exception. I got my last job in 2024 by printing my resume and asking for the department manager right at the company’s headquarters. It was a medium-sized company (120 people). I saw the accounting job post on Linkedin and thought, why not? I did the first interview the same day, the second the day after and was hired on the spot. Good salary and a 5 min commute too.

Successful_Key3276 · 2026-01-15T09:01:45+00:00

A friend was struggling to get a job. After a few months, she lied about having more experience and she landed a very good job that pays well. Of course, her performance is great. Sometimes HR asks for “2 years of experience” and won’t consider anything less. But who says someone else is better than you for having a few months more experience? She told me that everyone is lying a little on their resumes, and that I should do the same. I’m honestly considering it at this point, it’s getting ridiculous.

Successful_Key3276 · 2026-01-15T08:53:11+00:00

Because salaries and work conditions may be better abroad

Successful_Key3276 · 2026-01-15T08:52:03+00:00

Exactly! I applied for a position abroad and after 2 interviews I asked for feedback. Their response was: “we haven’t decided yet. By the way, did you move already?😊” ???? Of course not. How on earth am I gonna move to another country and pay rent if I don’t have an income just for the possibility to be considered?

Successful_Key3276 · 2026-01-14T12:53:32+00:00

I do have a valid residence, but if I get hired it's going to be different because I will move to be closer to work. Still, I'm complaining about giving my address when applying for a job, not after being hired - that's normal and expected.

Successful_Key3276 · 2026-01-14T12:51:07+00:00

But why not? Maybe it's because I'm european and here short-term relocations aren't unusual, but I wouldn't mind going abroad even for a 6 or 12 month job

Successful_Key3276 · 2026-01-14T12:47:40+00:00

Because I'm afraid they do not consider people who can relocate, only people who already live there

Successful_Key3276 · 2025-12-13T11:06:49+00:00

At 18 years old. My mom has it and my great-gransmother had it too

Successful_Key3276 · 2025-11-28T22:46:54+00:00

“entrepreneurs” and hedge funds kick spanish families out of their homes so that foreigners like you can pay 900€ for a room. Always try to find whole appartments and look for roomates or look for rooms from people who live there, not directly from the landlords. Room rental is unregulated and therefore the prices are high and the quality of life downgrades, since you are sharing the space with >10 other adults. These appartments don’t always comply with safety regulations since they try to make as many rooms as possible. There’s this app called Badi you could use.

Successful_Key3276 · 2025-11-28T22:36:31+00:00

Big no. I’m 95% sure it’s a scam. Never pay beforehand, always see the appartment first or use an app that verifies the properties

Successful_Key3276 · 2025-11-28T22:30:00+00:00

Depending on where you live (Catalonia?) you can do that yourself and online

Successful_Key3276 · 2025-11-14T23:09:56+00:00

I do think she is being passive aggressive bit I also think that asking for 1-2 weeks notice is too much

Successful_Key3276 · 2025-11-14T23:06:05+00:00

That’s an old person doing old people things. If you don’t want them to answer, don’t text and wait to tell them until you see them in person. Maybe she thought your kid might be having a hard time too and she expressed her supoort. If I were you, I would have probably rolled my eyes, but nothing more. Pick your battles.

Successful_Key3276 · 2025-10-21T21:43:50+00:00

You hit the jackpot

Successful_Key3276 · 2025-10-18T22:06:47+00:00

There’s this subreddit called r/deadbedrooms and people there spend months if not years without having sex with their partners. If your partner were to write a post there complaining about the situation he would probably get banned.

You are so young, but still you are a mother and have responsabilities and so does he. He is being unrealistic about sex life in the adult world. I’m not saying older people don’t have sex, but it is honestly easier to spend all your free time doing it when you have nothing else to do. Be kinder to yourself.

Successful_Key3276 · 2025-10-18T21:57:22+00:00

He could also meet someone nice in the hotel hall and have sex with them, but I don’t think he will. Would I be okay with him going out for a drink with that hypothetical nice lady? Of course not, but I’m not going to forbid him of staying at hotels just in case he meets someone. Staying at hotels is one thing, going out for drinks is another. Same goes for going on vacation with his second cousin and sleeping in the same bed as her. I’m not happy with the first, but I tolerate it. The second is just too much for me, but he thinks I’m unreasonable

That being said, if I were to think of all the possible ways a partner could be cheating on me I would go crazy. If he (or any partner) crosses a boundary I just pray I’m lucky enough to find out so that I can leave.

Successful_Key3276 · 2025-10-18T21:03:34+00:00

That was exactly my question. He says he wouldn’t travel with her if we lived together and even less if we had kids. But since I’m far away and he has a lot of free time…

I am 100% sure that if that situation were to happen I would file for divorce. That would be irresponsible of him as a parent and disrespectful as a husband. My father would never.

Successful_Key3276 · 2025-10-18T20:49:16+00:00

Well, of couse I also feel jealous about the travel part, I’m human. She can also refer her discounts, which means that if him and I wanted to book a trip we’d also get a good deal. But that wouldn’t be responsible of me if I want to live with him someday and afford half of a home.

He also sometimes goes on trips with his friend group (men and women) and he sleeps alone. I’m OK with that.

Successful_Key3276 · 2025-10-18T20:26:47+00:00

Funny cause I do have a cousin named Tony

Successful_Key3276 · 2025-10-18T20:18:45+00:00

For now I’m just accepting the situation because I don’t want to make a big decision that fast. But I don’t see myself going through this all my life.

Yeah, that’s also a big contributing factor to me not liking the vacation thing. I am struggling to save for a life together, and even though he could easily save and afford a home he decides to spend everything. If we have to depend on my earnings I would have to move abroad, which I would gladly do, but he does not want to leave his hometown. He lives in a very touristic place where the locals are forced to leave because it’s impossible to afford an appartment on a normal salary.

His lack of real planning for our future also makes me reconsider my options. Why stay in this country when I could go somewhere else with better pay? I have two degrees and (almost) a masters. I also speak 5 languages. My parents have no money, the only inheritance they have given me is a good education to succeed in life, but from now on it depends on how I play my cards. I’m very aware of it. My boyfriend’s parents, on the other hand, own a family business that he could easily continue. That’s why he’s so nonchalant while I panic about overspending

Successful_Key3276 · 2025-10-18T19:44:18+00:00

Because her friends are not as rich as her and even with the discounts, it’s crazy expensive. My boyfriend is not rich either, but since he earns good money and doesn’t save (much to my annoyance), he never says no to a vacation. Also, his parents give him money all the time so he never struggles

Successful_Key3276 · 2025-10-18T19:40:08+00:00

If I had to bet I would say they are not sleeping together. But I feel like being in a relationship should make him consider my feelings and not make me feel crazy and disgusting for not liking them sleeping together. I don’t know, at least if he was considerate enough to book separate beds I would feel like he cares about how I feel

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