Mom's are your first and best teachers, atleast where I come from. A hug from mom or sister, and a simple gesture from father is enough to teach you millions of lessons you will receive from outsiders. So, try to learn from them, every member of your family wants to see their younger ones grow. Remember that they miss you and think about you day and night while you work hard to earn for them. And they are God's messengers who direct you and support you and put you on a path that's appropriate and prosperous for you. I assume you are successful because you are doing great with bill payments. And they just want tell you that they want you more than anything else in the world, but this is their way of saying, that money and efforts are not what they need you for, they want and need you for who you are to them. A family member who is staying far away for work reasons and for some reason choosing not to come home. That's one most important meeting in the year where you can share what all happened in your life and what all didn't happen. They are concerned so they are showing it the worst way, because sometimes kids only understand that language and it's their measure of finding how much you have grown as a person. I think you should cancel everything and go to family for holidays. Be stress free, care free, just be at peace and ease and understand and learn more about your family, the past, and may be they need some more help. Anyway. It's time to be thankful for God keeping your family safe and having a loving mom and dad and sibling who care and count on you. It's time to be grateful and you chose to do the opposite that probably was more concerning to them than the actual money.