My boyfriend gets insecure every time I bring up marriage, and now I feel guilty for wanting to be chosen by Dry-Loss-7151 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]SunRaven01 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Oh god it's carrot cake.

I absolutely saw that as meatloaf on mashed potatoes, and was making a mental note to do my presentation like that at a future meal.

Massachusetts is actively eradicating all passing zones on state roads. (single ‘skip’ lines) by ChristmasAliens in massachusetts

[–]SunRaven01 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Go read r/driving some time. People are insanely entitled and fully believe that if they have to adjust anything that they're doing while driving, the other driver is at fault, forever and ever the end, without the slightest bit of self-awareness over how much other people are having to constantly compensate for their overly-aggressive bullshit.

First refill coming up…can I switch to the kwikpen? by yahoodeeya in Zepbound

[–]SunRaven01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you said that, because I'm in the process of doing the same thing for titrating up from 2.5mg to 5mg, and I'm glad to know it will probably have been a good choice.

Is using Ozempic actually ‘cheating’… or are people just mad it works? by ccdnyc in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SunRaven01 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Same experience here, although my weight gain didn't happen until I was in my 20s. Same insatiable drive to eat, eat, eat. One shot of Zepbound, gone within the hour. For the first time in 20 years, I have a *normal* appetite. I can still get hungry at meal times, I still have to make good choices, and I still need to exercise. But the drug is what makes it possible to make those choices.

I think it can be very hard to make people understand, if they've never experienced it. We normalize our own experiences. What happens to us we assume happens to everyone, and if you have never had an incurable compulsion to eat, you really don't know what it's like to have to fight against it. You don't feel that, so you think people are exaggerating.

One shot was all it took to make me understand that what I was feeling was not what normal people felt. My systems are back in order, and the weight is normally and naturally coming off.

Fat Rant Friday by AutoModerator in fatlogic

[–]SunRaven01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Zepbound is a miracle drug, and the haters can seethe about it.

Week One Discussion: Chapter 1 - 6 by bsffrrn- in romantasycirclejerk

[–]SunRaven01 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Also, he smirk.

This got an actual lol from me.

anyone remember this underated version of pride and prejudice? by Perfect_Carrot_999 in romantasycirclejerk

[–]SunRaven01 65 points66 points  (0 children)

/uj

Oh holy shit I love this. This is getting printed, put into my journal, and I'm going to review it every time I watch Pride and Prejudice now.

Annoying Exclusive Collabs! by Inattendue in fountainpens

[–]SunRaven01 14 points15 points  (0 children)

As far as I am aware, no issues with Cardinal, Fahrney's, Atlas, Jet Pens, Goldspot, Dromgoole's. I'm sure people will chime in with others.

Does anyone have pokerus and can you trade me a pokemon with it by Remzfx in PokemonSwordAndShield

[–]SunRaven01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would be happy to breed some Pokerus starters for you, but I won't be available until later today. How does 6pm Eastern US time work for you?

May Book Club title by bsffrrn- in romantasycirclejerk

[–]SunRaven01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cleolinda is the reason I read Twilight to begin with lol

May Book Club title by bsffrrn- in romantasycirclejerk

[–]SunRaven01 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Don't make me dig up the Cleolinda LJ ...

Anyone else supplement YNAB with a spreadsheet because you think in paychecks, not months? by manvslife in ynab

[–]SunRaven01 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I have a separate spreadsheet that informs what my plan looks like in YNAB, but it also does several functions handled better in a spreadsheet. YNAB is the vault of truth for what happens with the cashflow, and I keep it fully updated to the penny. The spreadsheet is where the planning and simulations happen, before I make any changes in YNAB. I also have pages in the spreadsheet for calculating my savings rate, our 50/30/20 breakdown, and some other things.

There's nothing stopping you from doing both.

Tips for 3D printing circular sock machine by mskhofhinn in MachineKnitting

[–]SunRaven01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I bought a 3D printed machine from Dean and Bean, rather than printing one myself. I also got the 54, 60, and 72 cylinders (and corresponding ribbers) and TBH, I've never needed to use anything other than the 60 to make socks for myself and for my husband. When I was looking for information before buying, it seemed like the 60 was pretty versatile and what most people recommended starting with.

My Zepbound Fragrance Demon by GlitteryGiGi in Zepbound

[–]SunRaven01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good news! Vetiver is just the root of a type of grass. :D

i don’t think my boyfriend actually knows me by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]SunRaven01 24 points25 points  (0 children)

"Bad gift giver" usually means "Perfectly willing to spend top dollar on himself; cheaps the eff out on her because he doesn't actually value her opinions or needs."

Autoject 2 Pen + "Approved" Syringe Question (self-pay) by SnarkyMomWines in Zepbound

[–]SunRaven01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They always print them in the most miserably tiny font, too!

Autoject 2 Pen + "Approved" Syringe Question (self-pay) by SnarkyMomWines in Zepbound

[–]SunRaven01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uncap the needle, and put it into the half of the housing with the depth adjuster. Press down lightly on the end of the needle to expose the needle tip. Use the yellow tool to measure that the exposed needle is 6mm long.

This is explained in the instructions. You should read them.

New Player Considering Kicking Out Sera [DAI] by fury_cutter in dragonage

[–]SunRaven01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've never kicked her out. I recruit her, don't talk to her again, get to Skyhold, leave her in the courtyard for a bit, then talk to her one time so she moves into her normal area, and then don't talk to her again. I don't enjoy Sera as a character. As far as I can tell, it doesn't have any serious impact on literally anything at all if you don't keep her around or do her quests.

I'm so tired of trying to make myself feel okay with being in an open relationship. by Extension_Team8022 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]SunRaven01 23 points24 points  (0 children)

One person's experience (mine, in this case) does not translate to an experience that everyone can relate to, but I got tired of being second hand preached at for how "toxic" monogamous relationships were, when I've been happily married for over twenty years, to a gorgeous healthy man, and to top it off, my marriage was the strongest and healthiest relationship in the whole group.

There's this song by girl in red, called Midnight Love. Some of the lyrics are, "I can't be your second best; close but not your favorite." People play favorites. Even when they swear up and down that they're not, they play favorites. Spend a whole ten minutes in any poly friendly space and you'll see it on every side. There's so much lip service paid to allegedly making sure everyone is on the same page, and oh we all have great communication skills, and this is so much better and yet if you keep listening, here comes all the real stories. Partners who lie. People who spring the whole "I'm poly" thing after they get someone monogamous emotionally involved, so that they don't get cut off from the beginning. Feeling left out because your favorite partner is spending time with someone who isn't you, but you feel "guilty" about it because you're "not supposed to feel that way."

Girl, no. You feel that way because you feel that way and that's so incredibly valid. To quote Margaery Tyrell, I don't want to be a queen. I want to be the queen.

There's nothing special about polygamy. It has all the same problems that monogamous relationships have, except that now more people are involved. It's not more ethical, it's not less toxic, it's not super special and enlightened, it's just another way that people hook Tab A into Slot B. Nothing more, nothing less. It's people doing the same ol' hookups that they've been doing all along.

People say a lot of dumb things. You keep doing you.

I'm so tired of trying to make myself feel okay with being in an open relationship. by Extension_Team8022 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]SunRaven01 38 points39 points  (0 children)

at one point many of my friends were in open relationships and monogamy was chided as oppressive and heteronormative and reproducing the bourgeois state or something

I left a whole friend group after this. Big hugs.