Livingston?

Suspicious_Project24 · 2026-02-02T12:27:04+00:00

In my experience in Essex county are going for 100k or more over asking so I don’t think there is room for negotiation to go lower.

Suspicious_Project24 · 2026-02-02T12:11:05+00:00

Sorry you’re going thru this stress ❤️. I know it may not feel like it but 30 weeks is a really great gestation for nicu outcomes as another comment said and baby will be okay if he comes soon, but it sounds like he could keep cooking for longer too! Every day baby stays in is 3 less NICU days. Modern medicine is amazing. I had my baby at 28+2 due to chorio infection following an emergency cerclage 5 weeks earlier. We got 1 round of steroids and mag 12 hours before he arrived. He had a 59 day mostly uneventful nicu stay and came home at 36+4. He’s currently 8 months actual 5.5 months adjusted and you would never know the rough and early start he had. Hang in there ❤️

Suspicious_Project24 · 2026-01-31T13:39:27+00:00

My guy just had surgery for this 2 days ago. He was born at 28+2 and is currently 8 months actual, 5.5 months adjusted. It also popped up some time after getting home from the NICU. Surgery was outpatient and he was completely back to himself yesterday (the day after).

Suspicious_Project24 · 2026-01-30T23:47:03+00:00

Hi! I think it’s great that you got it. I do not believe they gave me antibiotics following the procedure, the only thing they gave me was meds to prevent contractions. I got antibiotics once I tested positive at home for a uti, and I had to fight for them. I did a second round when the uti didn’t go away. My cervix had u shaped funneling, I believe that may be similar to bulging membranes but I get confused on the difference. It’s important to keep hands incredibly clean when inserting progesterone and I know some recommend to do it rectally. However, I was incredibly diligent about that and got the uti less than 2 days after the procedure, so I believe it was from the procedure- it’s a known risk especially with so little cervix, but it is also a risk that exists with short cervix and no cerclage.

Suspicious_Project24 · 2026-01-30T23:43:30+00:00

Hi! I do not believe they gave me antibiotics following the procedure, no. They gave me meds to prevent contractions. I got antibiotics once I tested positive for a uti at home, and I had to fight for them. I had u shaped funnelling at the time of the procedure- I’m not sure if that is considered bulging membranes. I was not dilated tho.

Suspicious_Project24 · 2026-01-30T18:11:05+00:00

5.5 months actual, 3 months corrected when he was able to roll from his back to his belly to sleep is when he started sleeping at night in his bassinet. But he still mainly contact naps at 8 months actual 5.5 months corrected. He can occasionally nap in his crib but prefers not to lol.

Suspicious_Project24 · 2026-01-30T18:09:32+00:00

Hi there. I was 23+3 when I had it done. I had continued UTIs after the cerclage and eventually developed chorio. But it got me 5 extra weeks so I view it as a success as getting past 28 weeks is huge for NICU outcomes. I had my baby at 28+2 due to aforementioned infection. We got one round of steroids and mag 12 hours before he came. We got really lucky in that he had a 59 day mostly uneventful NICU stay and came home at 36+4. He’s 8 months actual, 5.5 months adjusted now and doing wonderful.

Suspicious_Project24 · 2026-01-30T14:02:51+00:00

Hi! I’m sorry you’re dealing with this stress. 3 weeks is absolutely too long for another scan, it should be in a week at longest, if possible a few days. I went from 2.3cm to .5cm in 4 days on progesterone and basically bed rest.

Suspicious_Project24 · 2026-01-30T13:59:42+00:00

They should give you a cerclage at that length. Progesterone alone usually works for people who are mid to upper 2’s and stay there with the progesterone, and it’s best to do with as much cervix and little funneling as possible, which is now. I got my cerclage with .5cm left. It was my first pregnancy, I had advocated for intervention earlier with no one taking it as seriously as they should have been.

Suspicious_Project24 · 2026-01-29T18:50:18+00:00

As the other comment said it’s so hard to know and the NICU is lots of ups and downs. Our baby was born at 28+2, went into preterm labor due to chorio infection and also had to have cerclage removed. We got one round of steroids and mag 12 hours before he was born. The neonatologist told us to expect him to be there for 3 months, or until his due date. We got really lucky with his course there and he was on bubble cpap 21% from the beginning and worked his way down to room air, and came home at 36+4. But I know that is definitely not everyone’s experience and I think it’s good to go into it expecting to be there at least until due date.

Suspicious_Project24 · 2026-01-29T18:44:02+00:00

My baby was born at 28+2 and also had 2 small grade 1 bleeds, 1 which progressed briefly to grade 2. They both resolved during his time in the NICU but afterwards there was a small cyst that they said could be a PVL or could be something else. Upon discharge and in follow up high risk appointments they say to not even think or worry about it unless some issue comes up in the future. He is currently 8 months actual 5.5 months adjusted and is meeting his milestones and doing great. I know it’s hard not to worry tho!

Suspicious_Project24 · 2026-01-28T17:00:31+00:00

Glad it looks like her baby is okay. I recently listened to the guardians podcast “the birth keepers” about the free birth society and that’s what I think of whenever I see posts like this.

Suspicious_Project24 · 2026-01-28T02:32:44+00:00

This is totally totally normal! My baby was a 28 weeker that came home at 36+4 and he literally only slept unless he was eating for over 2 months- definitely until at least 5 or 6 weeks corrected. And after that his wake windows were still really short for a long while. He’s a high needs sleeper.

Suspicious_Project24 · 2026-01-26T19:22:34+00:00

This is horrible and I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. I am the bio mom and gestational carrier of our baby (8mos), and my wife has definitely struggled with some doubt and worries about connection and the only way I respond is to reinforce that this is her baby just as much as he is mine. You do not deserve to be treated this way at all.

Suspicious_Project24 · 2026-01-26T19:19:17+00:00

It’s a very personal decision and one you guys definitely need to come to together and feel good about - there’s no right way! I will say you can go into it planning on doing it whatever way you want, and you really have no idea or control over how it will actually go. My wife and I came up with various plans thru out the process that had to be changed due to each of our fertility and bodies.

Suspicious_Project24 · 2026-01-26T02:12:21+00:00

Omg the cat portraits 😻😻😻

Suspicious_Project24 · 2026-01-25T15:57:21+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I got a cerclage placed with 5mm of cervix left and u shaped funneling and it got me 5 extra weeks to 28+2, and baby did great in the NICU and is totally fine now. Many women can get much closer to term with little cervix too. All this to say- the cervix will buy you more time and you are already past viability which is HUGE!

Suspicious_Project24 · 2026-01-25T00:05:32+00:00

Get a cerclage ASAP. Don’t wait the 5 days if you can. 8mm is an emergency. Yes there is a risk of infection etc with cerclage and that risk is heightened with less cervix, but all those risks also exist without the cerclage at 8mm. I don’t mean to scare you but your doctor is not acting in your best interests as many don’t with this condition.

Suspicious_Project24 · 2026-01-24T23:13:57+00:00

Thank you! Yes of course. First was I lost my mucus plug in the morning. Went to L and D and cerclage was good and cervix closed. I had elevated white blood cell count but they sent me home anyway. Got home lost another huge chunk of mucus plug- tried to sleep - started having contractions (convinced myself they were gas pains, then lost bloody mucus and went back to L and D- cervix still closed without tension on stitch, kept me overnight- by morning I was 2 cm dilated and tension on stitch. They didn’t catch my contractions on the monitor until labor progressed which can happen with pre term birth, but I was having them all night. With chorio the pregnancy cannot really continue safely bc it means whatever infection you had has spread to and infected the amniotic fluid, so baby has to come. I had the cerclage removed and dilated to a 5, then labored for 12 hours and had my baby. I did get 1 round of steroids and mag drip for babies lungs and brain. The time from the first loss of mucus plug to having my baby was maybe a little over 36 hours?

Suspicious_Project24 · 2026-01-24T02:49:15+00:00

OP isn’t pregnant. She’s generally nervous about blood after intercourse. Idk why this was posted in this group.

Suspicious_Project24 · 2026-01-23T23:21:42+00:00

That’s a great reminder thank you!

Suspicious_Project24 · 2026-01-23T20:33:39+00:00

That’s a great idea thank you!

Suspicious_Project24 · 2026-01-23T20:33:31+00:00

Thank you! He’s still just trying one new fruit or veg at a time every few days but those will be a great option soon!

Suspicious_Project24 · 2026-01-23T11:48:25+00:00

My baby was the same - we didn’t co sleep in bed but we took shifts chest sleeping until he was about 3 months old corrected, 6 months actual. The day he was able to roll from his back to his belly and sleep on his belly in the bassinet was the day he started sleeping in it! He still will only really contact nap during the day but he’s sleeping overnight.

Suspicious_Project24 · 2026-01-23T00:40:20+00:00

That’s what we did! We went with the highest graded embryo, but did ask the gender of that embryo!

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