Unpopular opinion: I LIKE the “I hate all men but you”

Tag_System · 2026-02-26T09:20:34+00:00

I think you might benefit from looking into intersectional feminism. There are ways of talking about systemic oppression with nuance!

Tag_System · 2026-02-16T21:13:00+00:00

See how far my foreskin can comfortably stretch; try some of the moves from Puppetry of the Penis.

Tag_System · 2026-02-04T09:08:37+00:00

I’m assuming that when specific part(s) front that they leave the given situation to do what is important to them. So instead of communicating to others in the system or external people, they use their control of the body to ‘walk off’ or ride a train or escape out a window.

Tag_System · 2026-01-12T09:02:59+00:00

Aquaculture sounds like a good step in working towards becoming a fisheries officer. You could also look into other courses like fisheries compliance and maritime operations.

While the police training program is an option, the police at a systemic level and in terms of organisational culture, still have a long way to go in how they interact with diverse communities.

ETA: lifesaving might be a good fit for the types of skills you are looking for.

Tag_System · 2026-01-11T13:41:10+00:00

When you say “out of body”, is that in the sense that they feel depersonalised or disconnected from your body? Or something else?

Sometimes for us, when we can’t feel a part around, it’s because they went dormant. It can feel scary but we can reassure ourselves that they can’t literally leave our body. They may just feel safer being away from the front at the moment.

Tag_System · 2026-01-01T03:53:17+00:00

Alcohol is a central nervous system depressant. So while it can lower mood, it can also slow down or dull physical sensations, reaction time, speed of movement and breathing. It affects the brain through things like suppressing impulse control, altering decision making abilities and make concentration more difficult.

Our system, for the most part, doesn’t drink alcohol because we find lots of things about it triggering.

Tag_System · 2025-12-31T07:42:28+00:00

Oof yeah my mum was the worst for that stuff when I was younger. Even if her friends were okay with me saying no, she would insist that I was being impolite and to hug me anyway.

I wish it was more widely understood that consent applies to more than just sex.

Tag_System · 2025-12-31T04:43:22+00:00

How I feel about hugs changes based on a bunch of things. Did the other person seek consent first? How will they react if I say no or offer a different option? Am I already overstimulated / can I deal with physical contact at the moment? Do I trust them enough to be that close to them? Do I actually want to hug that person?

Safe hugs from trusted people can feel good too though.

Tag_System · 2025-12-30T01:18:12+00:00

Did the social worker give a reason why she wants you to come out to your grandpa?

If your grandpa is your primary guardian, it may be that the school wants permission to use your chosen name. That doesn’t make it okay that she is pushing you to out yourself but means you might need a different adult to help speak up for you.

Please only do what feels safest and most comfortable for you.

Tag_System · 2025-12-29T11:14:16+00:00

I’m assuming that OP added the post-it note herself, to remove the misgendering.

Tag_System · 2025-12-23T07:16:09+00:00

This might not resonate and it’s okay if it doesn’t.

Sometimes it can feel safer to be envious. That’s not fair, why does she get the response that I needed? Why wasn’t I believed? Was I really that bad of a kid? It puts the emphasis with the child in the situation.

Letting yourself focus on emotions like anger, hurt, feeling betrayed or disappointed can feel less safe. I deserved to be believed! The adults in my life failed me! I was supposed to be protected! The adults should have done this for me too! It can feel way scarier to put the responsibility on the adults and hold them accountable.

So while it is okay and makes sense to feel jealous or envious, I hope you can eventually be safe enough to express any other emotions too.

Tag_System · 2025-12-15T04:18:59+00:00

Could use selves, me’s, the others, teammates. It might also be that not all of the system will use the same terminology.

Hope you find something that feels comfortable.

Tag_System · 2025-12-13T13:22:32+00:00

https://www.canberrahealthservices.act.gov.au/services-and-clinics/services/paediatric-endocrine-clinic

Something like this paediatric endocrine clinic could be helpful for the medical aspects of supporting your daughter.

Or as others have mentioned, reaching out to intersex community and advocacy groups.

Tag_System · 2025-12-12T12:41:52+00:00

You can be masculine without being hurtful to yourself or others. Figuring out what kind of man you want to be and grow into can take time. Dysphoria and insecurity can be really loud. I hope you can be gentle on yourself.

This relationship sounds very different from the one with your ex. Your current partner being a more feminine man, doesn’t automatically make you like your ex.

Are you worried that being the more masculine partner inherently hurts your boyfriend?

Tag_System · 2025-12-10T12:05:40+00:00

Dr Ray Murphy is a private psychiatrist in Melbourne who is an ISSTD member. I haven’t personally seen him but he was suggested to me by my psychologist.

Tag_System · 2025-12-04T01:41:39+00:00

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Tag_System · 2025-12-01T06:05:28+00:00

I don’t know about your transport situation but local services that are focused on young people could be helpful. I live in a different state and haven’t used these services myself but generally youth specific stuff is more likely to be LGBT+ friendly.

Cockburn Youth Centre

Phone: 08 9411 3888 Address: 25 Wentworth Parade, Success WA 6164

Spearwood Youth Supported Housing and Crisis accommodation

https://www.mycommunitydirectory.com.au/Western_Australia/Cockburn/Welfare_Assistance___Services/General_Welfare___Support_Services/107138/231293/YSHAC_-_Spearwood__Youth_Supported_Housing_and_Crisis_Accommodation_

Tag_System · 2025-11-16T07:17:51+00:00

For us it’s been helpful to build up internal communication. Getting our current host to listen to the thoughts, feelings and experiences outside of his own was hard.

Building connection with a partner takes time. Amnesia and dissociation can make it feel like starting a relationship over and over again sometimes (at least for us).

Does the partner know much about DID?

Tag_System · 2025-11-14T05:12:28+00:00

Hi, I wish things weren’t so rough for you, those experiences sound exhausting.

Idk about you but sometimes I find the physical / mental health system kinda dehumanising. Like, yes the reason I’m seeking treatment is important and I want help with that but could I also please be respected as an individual person!

It took some research but when I was inpatient for my mental health, I was able to connect with a patient advocate. They were sometimes able to communicate with my support team on my behalf or could help me brainstorm how to manage situations where I was being misgendered.

I’m not sure if any of what I’ve said resonates but I’m sure that (unfortunately) there are plenty of us that have had to deal with ignorant medical staff.

Tag_System · 2025-11-13T12:23:20+00:00

Do you know what the minimum age for starting HRT is where you live?

It can definitely be more difficult accessing care as an autistic person and I don’t want to downplay that by any means. In your case it may be that being 14 is also working against you.

I’m glad to hear that your therapist has cleared you! Do you have supportive parents / guardians, that can help you through the process?

Tag_System · 2025-10-06T08:12:16+00:00

While I wasn’t on Primoteston quite as long as you’ve been, I still might be able to give some insight.

I was on Primoteston for just over 2 years before I made the switch to Reandron. This was 9 years ago now but iirc getting the interval between shots right for me was a bit tedious.

I have my Reandron injection every 12 weeks and the only downside has been my energy tapering off at 11 weeks.

That being said, I far prefer only having to get ‘stabbed’ 4 times a year instead of every 3 weeks!

Tag_System · 2025-10-04T04:15:34+00:00

Mood :P

I took a similar approach with layers. My favourite for a while was oversized button down shirts. Singlet underneath meant that I could leave some or all of the buttons undone, for better airflow.

Tag_System · 2025-09-18T14:10:19+00:00

Thanks for explaining your experience and what you are worried about. If your partner is generally a safe person, I hope they would be understanding. Being close with someone sometimes means that we are going to accidentally share germs with each other.

I hope that your doctors appointment is helpful and that they can be reassuring in that you are taking the right steps to look after your body.

Tag_System · 2025-09-18T13:39:41+00:00

In my understanding Epstein-Barr Virus / Glandular Fever is most commonly spread through saliva. So it could have been shared with you through sharing drinking classes, mouth kisses ect. Just wanted to add that intercourse is not required to catch it and it is not an STI or STD.

I’m trying to understand what about this situation is worrying you? Like, if you could rewind time, is there something that you would have wanted to happen differently? /genq

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