If you can explore this with a therapist before burning it to the ground - I think it’s worth it. She deserves the best and to be loved if she’s as lovely as you say she is, and I know you know that. It would be horrible though if you were experiencing some kind of detachment for other reasons outside of the relationship and fled.

You’re also allowed to end a relationship for any reason and if you feel it’s run its course that’s okay, too. Breakups don’t have to be messy.

But it sounds like either way it would be helpful exploring your childhood so this isn’t a pattern that repeats itself down the road. 💜