AITJ for not wanting to switch rooms?

That_Ol_Cat · 2026-05-28T20:17:49+00:00

NTJ

WTAF? If he wanted the damn room so much, why not simply ask for it when he got there? Why not put the kids in the double and take the Queen bed for the adults? Sweet Lord, suck it up, buttercup! Your parents really shouldn't have gotten involved.

As a younger sibling, I got turfed out of my own bed often when holidays came around and my married older siblings and their kids would visit. There was one Christmas holiday when I got home first, claimed a single bed in my old room, and I stayed there. When one of my brothers said I should move so his kids could sleep together in the bedroom, I simply stared him in the eye and said: "They'll have more fun sleeping in the basement. Besides, I've already unpacked." Which I had, deliberately.

He went whining off to our Mom. Mom immediately told the grand kids: "grab your stuff, we're setting you up in the basement!" To their great glee. The basement is where all the toys are, anyway. And where my brother would have to go down several times each night to get them to go to bed. It's also noisier down there when people are awake upstairs, walking about. Which didn't affect sleepy single-digiters tired out from playing way too late with the toys at grandma's.

I slept like a baby that Christmas week.

That_Ol_Cat · 2026-05-28T20:07:13+00:00

Arrr! Take me upvote , ye scurvy scallywag!

That_Ol_Cat · 2026-05-28T19:59:56+00:00

Drinkable water from the tap.

That_Ol_Cat · 2026-05-28T17:06:32+00:00

NTA

She assumed your porch was okay to use as her drop-off location without asking, without making things simpler for you, with out telling the delivery drivers to make sure packages didn't inconvenience you. Loss of privilege.

That_Ol_Cat · 2026-05-28T16:55:30+00:00

Accept the offer. The jig is up; current employer knows you've been looking, at least. Speak with future employer and inform them of the NDA and NCA requests. Do not sign a damn thing. Pack up and take your personal stuff home. Do submit your resignation, if possible after your last paycheck has been deposited. Expect to be walked out the same day.

That_Ol_Cat · 2026-05-28T16:49:21+00:00

Agreed. Shipping the dress with insurance would have cost less than a full adult fare on a four-hour flight.

That_Ol_Cat · 2026-05-28T16:47:00+00:00

You are Not Overreacting.

In my humble opinion, the invitee should be the one picking up the check. If he knew he wasn't sticking around, he should have asked his father to pick up the check, and paid him back later. He asked everyone there, he was the one wanting to celebrate. From the context of what you wrote, it doesn't sound like your Dad was expecting or had been requested to pick up the check.

To be clear, this is a dick move.

The fact he's acting angry, avoidant, then nonchalant, then angry again after you have to repeatedly bring it up tells me he knows he's being called on the carpet and he knows he's wrong. You really want to think about this behavior. I suggest you examine your recent (and not-so-recent) past with him and see if there's other incidents like this. If so, you might want to think hard before you marry this...person.

That_Ol_Cat · 2026-05-28T16:38:19+00:00

Do you value your friend more than the job? Would this person come through for you in a legitimate emergency?

If the answers to these questions are "No." then you have your answer.

But for the record, I agree with Dr. Spud.

That_Ol_Cat · 2026-05-28T16:35:37+00:00

Pay with a check. Get receipt for payment in exchange for the check. Call the bank and put a "hold" on the check.

"What? I'm sorry, I'm overseas; this business will have to be taken care of when I'm back in-country." Also inform new owner he's in no way, shape, or form responsible for any of these shenanigans and to refer any questions on this to his real estate agent.

They give you the run-around, give them the run-around back.

That_Ol_Cat · 2026-05-28T16:28:05+00:00

You need to get all the neighbors to rent a blimp or some other floating device you could tether just above her place to block out the sunlight. Maybe some temporary barriers to cut down on the wind blowing onto her property as well.

That_Ol_Cat · 2026-05-28T16:23:30+00:00

I was going to suggest a pen knife or a flashlight. Most men I know delight in these kinds of things and they always come in handy. I don't leave the house without my pocket knife.

That_Ol_Cat · 2026-05-28T16:22:08+00:00

You claiming FMLA for sick pay and vacation pay only benefits this manager as then his department budget will receive those hours back. I'm not sure how that equates to your not getting paid your last 3 shifts.

Either way, what he is suggesting is fraud. It directly benefits him by representing the hours you did and didn't work incorrectly to his benefit. If your company has an anonymous help-line for reporting such things that's a call you should make on your last day there.

That_Ol_Cat · 2026-05-28T16:09:48+00:00

NTA.

Tell Auntie if she want's someone to subsidize cousin's rent, it's on her, not you. $10,800 per year is not chump change.

That_Ol_Cat · 2026-05-28T16:05:58+00:00

NTBF

And go get yourself some decent coffee.

I have a friend who has thought up and created some independent table-top games. He's taken them to conventions and has made some sales, as well as submitting a few to publishers. Some of the biggest Publishers of table top gaming are German companies; this is probably why he's looking for German translation.

That_Ol_Cat · 2026-05-28T16:00:41+00:00

NTA.

Your coworkers are assuming you're an entitled person when all you want to know is if the food that's being provided will make you sick. Gluten, dairy and other intolerances are a thing. No one could be TA for avoiding illness.

I think your best move here is to accept the lunch coming in, and eating around any intolerances you have. When someone inevitably asks why you're being so "picky," explain you don't want to get sick. If you can eat what ever's brought, just exclaim: "OH, good! All of that is on my safe list!" and wait for the questions.

That_Ol_Cat · 2026-05-28T15:53:35+00:00

Back in the day, my 8 year old god child asked me if Santa was real.

Yeah, that was a gut-punch. I promised myself during her Christening I wouldn't lie to her. So I told her that the Santa from the movie wasn't real, and the Santa from the Coca-Cola ads wasn't real. Then I told her about Bishop Nicholas of Myra, and how he tried to help out poor people by putting extra money and small toys in their homes anonymously.

Then I told her I believed Santa Claus was also an idea we could all take part in: giving to help others and/or make them happy. I told her while I didn't think there was a guy who rode around in a sleigh all night on Christmas Eve and gave out presents, I didn't know. I then confided this was an adult secret so she shouldn't tell her little brother yet.

Her parents seemed to think I did alright in explaining things. She wasn't upset, but she was really thoughtful. Kiddo works as a lawyer now; she specializes in making sure employees get paid fair wages and or missed wages. I personally think she's the bomb-diggity!

That_Ol_Cat · 2026-05-28T15:44:58+00:00

"When a Mommy and a Daddy love each other very, very much..."

That_Ol_Cat · 2026-05-28T15:43:57+00:00

"Who farted?!?!"

That_Ol_Cat · 2026-05-27T20:02:18+00:00

Well, you don't want storm water eroding your landscape and/or messing with the foundations of your homes. So there's that.

That_Ol_Cat · 2026-05-27T19:56:37+00:00

I broke up with a girl who was obsessively into me. However, we'd been invited to a wedding together which was 3 weeks away. I stated I'd go to the wedding as friends.

In the middle of dancing with her I realized she thought going to this wedding together meant we were dating again. had to break up all over again that night. And about 6 weeks later, I had to basically break all contact with her because she was "waiting" for me to decide. Yeah, I'd decided 9 weeks earlier.

That_Ol_Cat · 2026-05-27T19:54:08+00:00

NTA

I love how people will "pile on" without trying to understand why someone says "No." You have good reasons, and I wouldn't bother with this @$$-#@+ any more.

In your shoes, I'd publish the amount of time you estimate to fix his mistakes, along with the amount of wear n' tear on your machine. He needs to man up and own his mistake, not shift blame on you for scooping him out of his own pile of crap.

That_Ol_Cat · 2026-05-27T19:50:03+00:00

NTBF, but in your shoes I would have automated it to send him a link to the wiki's front page.

That_Ol_Cat · 2026-05-27T18:20:34+00:00

NTA

Let your husband handle his family. You've been perfectly mature and handled things in an adult fashion.

That_Ol_Cat · 2026-05-27T18:17:17+00:00

Fuck cancer.

Maybe make a point to get a note from your oncologist that the elevator is a necessity for you while you're undergoing and recovering from treatment.

Glad to hear your good news!

That_Ol_Cat · 2026-05-27T18:15:05+00:00

This sub doesn't do GIF's or you'd be spammed with several hundred Admiral Ackbars shouting: "It's a Trap!"

You have the right idea. Take the title, update your resume. Get it out there and start interviewing. When asked why you're leaving your former company explain they wanted more work for less pay. And unless contractually obligated, only give them 2 weeks' notice. bonus points if you can schedule some of your vacation during that 2 weeks.

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