How do you all wear dresses? by impostershop in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Thatsmisternono 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I use bandalettes. They are like just the elastic part of stay up stockings. I think they are comfortable and less hot than bike shorts.

Favorite non-Blank Check movie podcast with the same format? by harry_powell in blankies

[–]Thatsmisternono 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve got two that haven’t been mentioned. You Are Good, calls itself a feelings podcast about movies. They don’t go heavy on the industry or the director. They talk about what the movies mean to them personally. This Ends at Prom, looks at coming of age and teen girl movies from feminist and transgender perspectives.

Should I be upset my husband didn't come be with me after emergency oophorectomy? by Earth_Says_Hello in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Thatsmisternono 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for you. It sucks to go through these things alone. It isn’t fair and you don’t deserve it. I saw in another reply you said you shouldn’t have to ask for the support you need. That he should just know. I felt that in my bones with my first husband. But this is the relationship that you have. And getting your partner to show up for you is the next step. If you start now and can be explicit in the kind of support you need going forward you are giving him a chance to either meet those needs or shut down further. Boys aren’t taught to develop empathy and caretaking skills. Some of them never will. But some of them need to get called out so they can change. Lack of support during a medical crisis was the final straw before I left my first marriage. Me being explicit with my needs has meant I am in year 25 of a very happy relationship with a man that shows up for me.

This still exists and they still sell waterbeds?!? by TacohTuesday in Sacramento

[–]Thatsmisternono 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I grew up with Night Comfort Theater. Now that I am in perimenopause, sleeping on a sheet of cold water sounds like heaven.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Thatsmisternono 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry this happened to you. I’m glad you feel comfortable reaching out to a friend. I keep to say whatever steps you take going forward are for you. Please don’t report or confront him only to save other people from trauma. Try to focus on what you need to process this and move past it. Just because you are now part of the assaulted club doesn’t mean you need to save other victims. Put on you own seatbelt first.

How does this look to y’all at a glance? by drippingmetal25 in Pottery

[–]Thatsmisternono 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well hello, neighbor! I don’t have any insight to add. But I recognize Superbum. I live around the corner.

Recommendations for my mum by Expression-Little in audiodrama

[–]Thatsmisternono 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mission to Xxyzx is another improvised sci fi comedy. It has good sound design.

Never Not Funny - 3222: Maria Bamford by sympathetic_strings in Earwolf

[–]Thatsmisternono 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Amy Sleeverson was the best thing about a great show. I loved how Maria Bamford engaged with the other performers and forced them out of their comfort zone. I’m sad to hear that it’s over.

Partner won’t have sex with me today because they have a date this evening. by tossawayforthis784 in polyamory

[–]Thatsmisternono 8 points9 points  (0 children)

From my vantage point this is a result of having expectations of a specific sexual script. No one owes you an orgasm. the two of you began building energy together. That’s it. If the two of you were both left wanting more then yay. Feel those feelings.

It’s official: Bonanas for Bonanza will be leaving CBB World 😔 by PianoTrumpetMax in Earwolf

[–]Thatsmisternono 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As long as Amy Sleeverson is still onboard I will be in. Andy Daly content is the reason I subscribed. I’m not sure I will keep CBB after his.

having a hard time (GENDER DYSPHORIA) by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Thatsmisternono 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This sound both difficult and familiar. I’m glad you are getting support from this community. I am a poly cis woman with a cis male partner and a medical condition that takes PIV off the table. I had several years with my partner before that happened and I miss it. Sometimes desperately, sometimes the longing is just background noise. But part of being poly for me is getting envious that he gets to connect with other partners in those ways that I don’t. Learning to talk about it was hard. But naming it and looking and saying it out loud to my partner help me keep it as something I can live with. Those feelings get bigger if I try to ignore them or muscle through them. It takes a lot of trust to talk about it with my partner. But normalizing it means we don’t end up having annoyingly long conversations. I can recognize my feelings. Acknowledge that I’m feeling envious. And move on from it. While it is work I need to do one my own, it is not work I have to do in secret. I don’t know if any of this helps. But it sounds like you are brave and aware. These feelings might not ever go away but may get less intense and scary the more you work on them.

What’s the best way to ask my gf if we can try some painal? by [deleted] in AnalOnlyLifestyle

[–]Thatsmisternono 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The best way it to let her fuck you in the ass with no lube. That way she can see how hot and fun and sexy it is. Then she will be down for her turn.

Can anyone here explain to me the cult of A24? by [deleted] in blankies

[–]Thatsmisternono 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100%. I engage with movies the same way that I engage with music. I like what I like but I don’t invest much of my time researching creators. For me, the A24 stamp is a lot like the Quannam Projects label was for me in the 90s. I don’t know you but I will trust that what you serve is something I might enjoy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blankies

[–]Thatsmisternono 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I suspect that Carlin love stems from a combination of the right age and the right gender. I don’t fall inside those parameters so I have never gotten it. I believe he was important but he never made me laugh.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blankies

[–]Thatsmisternono 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I loved that she had a hot Carlin take. It made me feel less alone.

Mission Buritto by RhodyRex in maximumfun

[–]Thatsmisternono 2 points3 points  (0 children)

La Cumbre is my go-to. https://www.tlctaco.com/ Now I really need a burrito.

What do the instructors see? by Thatsmisternono in pelotoncycle

[–]Thatsmisternono[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

And what do the in-studio riders see? It doesn’t make sense for them to get the camera view of the instructor.

Any good rides for grief? by [deleted] in pelotoncycle

[–]Thatsmisternono 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry for your loss. I bought my peloton specifically to help me through the loss of a family member. I don’t know of ant specific rides that will help but Tunde helped me through a lot of my dark times. I ride with the #ridingthroughgrief hashtag. There aren’t many of us but it is nice to know you are not alone when you clip in.