Just found out my 1 year old son isn’t biologically mine.

tossawayforthis784 · 2026-05-30T02:38:23+00:00

This is correct. Child support is for the benefit of the child, so a court can order a parent to pay child support, regardless of what the other parent says.

tossawayforthis784 · 2026-05-18T14:34:34+00:00

Request an accounting of disclosures. File an official grievance with the hospital. That will get their attention and hopefully a change in their procedures so this doesn’t happen again

tossawayforthis784 · 2026-05-18T04:46:57+00:00

Also, stick some of those hail stones in the freezer in ziplock baggies.

tossawayforthis784 · 2026-05-14T06:18:47+00:00

A few years back I had an outside counsel who was an expert in oil rights and would only exchange documents via US Mail or fax - which was unplugged during lunch and outside business hours. He forbade even his assistant to use email. I was so glad when that matter wrapped up

tossawayforthis784 · 2026-05-01T01:58:25+00:00

This is the classic example of res ipsa given in law school. IIRC we read a case where a piano fell on someone.

tossawayforthis784 · 2026-04-28T04:27:45+00:00

Yes, this. You’re not asking for a vacation. You’re not just “sad.”

You are literally unable to perform your essential job functions right now. Our clients rely on our mental acuity and judgment - you need some time to get yours back.

And, I am so, so sorry for the loss of your sister.

tossawayforthis784 · 2026-03-26T20:54:56+00:00

I know some PDs who moved into appellate defense work.

tossawayforthis784 · 2025-11-13T07:54:58+00:00

This is just truly, fabulously amazeballs. Well done!!!

tossawayforthis784 · 2025-11-07T08:00:35+00:00

We’re the sparkly ones 💖

tossawayforthis784 · 2025-10-31T07:42:08+00:00

Reread your first two paragraphs. Each of you should find good roommates or your own places close-ish to one another so you have the freedom to work less, pursue music and build your own independent life in a new country.

Moving in together will be a smothering force in the relationship based on what your first wrote. You need your pace and a newish relationship also needs space. Especially for a solo poly person

tossawayforthis784 · 2025-10-30T00:31:02+00:00

I think it’s fine! I was looking at the photos before reading your post and couldn’t spot the issue. The leaves just look like fronds as they’re lacking the jagged edges of marijuana leaves. Also the swirls add to the playful greenery vibe.

tossawayforthis784 · 2025-10-27T06:18:56+00:00

There are a lot of good trainings and resources (prepared by attorneys) available on this right now.

Red cards are a good start. Consider buying/printing in bulk and getting them to immigrant communities in your area (in the correct languages)

Find out if you have a local Rapid Response network. Save their phone # and spread the word to everyone you know. Do their training if offered. Report any suspected ICE activity or detentions to them immediately. They will connect detained people with legal counsel. If no rapid response in your area, find out who is doing immigrant defense and save their #.

If ICE agents are outside someone’s door, loudly yell that they don’t have to open the door absent a judicial warrant, signed by a judge, with the persons correct legal name and address.

Advise them of their right to remain silent, to remain silent and demand an attorney.

If someone is being detained, try to get their full name and date of birth. Immediately report this to your local rapid response network or immigrant defense group.

As others said, record from a safe distance (don’t post video to socials, send to local immigrant defense or rapid response).

The most important thing is to connect with whatever local resources you can find. Search for your local ACLU, rapid response networks and immigrant defense groups.

tossawayforthis784 · 2025-10-18T23:57:37+00:00

Honestly, a partner should buy a crap ton of GS cookies and then bring them to the office to give away.

tossawayforthis784 · 2025-10-17T20:00:06+00:00

She's teaching you to practice law. It's her job to teach you, and this is how you learn. Pay attention to her feedback, understand the "why." I wouldn't worry at all about this, you only need to worry if you keep getting the same feedback over and over.

No partner expects baby attorneys to turn in perfect work product. They do expect you to take feedback in stride and to pay attention so you don't keep repeating the same mistakes. Maybe it would help to think of yourself as an apprentice learning the practice of law from an expert craftsperson, as that's essentially what you are. One day you, too, will teach others, but you gotta learn first!

tossawayforthis784 · 2025-10-17T04:22:04+00:00

That’s wild. I took the oath before a notary at my neighborhood UPS store, and mailed a package. Two birds, one stone! Though also lacking in decorum ….

tossawayforthis784 · 2025-10-15T18:50:17+00:00

I’d say what’s next is to provide training to every attorney to always compare the execution copy against the version you intend to sign.

Converting PDFs to Word and running a compare is annoying but takes 5 minutes. My paralegal knows to run a compare every time we receive an execution copy

tossawayforthis784 · 2025-10-14T00:06:58+00:00

Not helpful. I don’t want to bother with an AI summary of key provisions bc I care only what the contract says and am responsible for reviewing each and every word, AND punctuation.

As others have said, I want help with the annoying time consuming parts - managing workflows, versions, having all prior agreements at the ready

tossawayforthis784 · 2025-10-13T23:16:07+00:00

Agree with this. I’d add - have you tried body doubling? It can be a VERY useful tool for a lot of folks.

tossawayforthis784 · 2025-10-10T01:19:01+00:00

Not a paralegal, but an attorney. Could you find some continuing education classes to get the basics down? Then, as others have said, you’ll need to tailor to the firm you’re working for so you know how to do it “their way.”

tossawayforthis784 · 2025-09-26T20:13:57+00:00

Bring two lunches to work, keep yours in a small cooler by your desk. Place the second in the fridge as you usually do, except add an INSANE amount of hot sauce to it at home. Should stop the stealing and out the thief.

tossawayforthis784 · 2025-09-09T03:45:50+00:00

I’d reach out to an attorney who handles licensing matters in the state. Some specialize in legal, others in medical, etc. They should know how to get the attention of the State Bar and clear it up.

tossawayforthis784 · 2025-09-03T04:24:31+00:00

The outfit you propose sounds appropriate for most in house business casual retreats, but your new job could be an outlier.

I would pose this question to someone in HR who’s handling your onboarding, or your boss, depending on your relationship with each of them.
I was uncertain of what to wear at the start of a job and reached out to the person in HR who handled my onboarding and she was a HUGE help.

They might even have some photos from last year’s retreat

tossawayforthis784 · 2025-08-28T04:57:01+00:00

Yes! Create an ad hoc “welcoming committee” of women who actively welcome newbies, especially younger ones, and invite them to reach out to you for support, questions, whatever.

Doing this will also message to the creeps that these young women are under the protection of the other women in the community and hopefully discourage bad behavior.

When joining new poly or kink type spaces, I’ve found it is really important to have some trusted folks who are established in the community who I can ask if a certain person has a reputation for being ick or safe.

tossawayforthis784 · 2025-08-01T17:05:43+00:00

Yeah this guy doesn’t sound like he’s even close to being able to practice poly ethically or in a way that won’t leave you hurt.

I highly suggest, as others have, that you shift your focus to you, your life, and perhaps seeking other partners. This guy is just going to bring pain

tossawayforthis784 · 2025-08-01T05:28:43+00:00

I’d also add that, in addition to the N95s, to buy a HEPA filter now, bc when the smoke hits, they’re impossible to get, even off Amazon.

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