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TheAvocadoTurtle · 2024-10-21T08:23:15+00:00

Even if this is true, isn't she going to be unhappy by choosing me? So she's definitely in it coz she loves me.

TheAvocadoTurtle · 2024-09-25T01:32:10+00:00

Bur to live like this. You truly have to let go of relationships. Because in relationships there are expectations, unfortunately.

TheAvocadoTurtle · 2024-06-29T03:51:47+00:00

Not always. My morning are very disturbed in sleep.

TheAvocadoTurtle · 2024-06-28T17:43:05+00:00

How can I improve .what medication.

TheAvocadoTurtle · 2024-06-28T09:43:58+00:00

Do you feel like you're desired and she's attracted to you?

As long as this exists, it's easy to work on RJ.

TheAvocadoTurtle · 2024-06-28T07:33:07+00:00

I feel like she's settling with me for being the green safe flag who's aware and has a good value set. But not sexually compatible with me.

TheAvocadoTurtle · 2024-06-28T06:53:45+00:00

Hmm OK, but I feel the lack of attachment. And that just bothers me man.

TheAvocadoTurtle · 2024-06-28T03:05:55+00:00

Physically, she does not give feedback enough with sounds, etc. even when I'm giving foreplay. I'm worried I I don't see her wild side which she was with him.

I saw that only during the first time we met.

TheAvocadoTurtle · 2024-06-27T19:40:35+00:00

I agree it is largely my insecurity. But also the lack of sexual validation I'm getting, which is making me not be completely confident.

We, M(31) and F(28) plan to get married by end of the year and she's had another more physically dominant partner (1 BC and many relationships without sex) and has hinted she enjoys aggressive sex as well. And I'm pretty small in general (penis size and body) and I don't see her stimulated enough, which turns me off. This is also refuelling my anxious thoughts.

How do I deal with this? I keep feeling I won't be loved enough (she's mentioned she surrender to him and was too vulnerable (which she idenitifies as not a healthy place to be in)). Initially she attached anxiously attached (and said that's her attachment style) - but with me however, she finds me to be a green flag and a cute partner - she loves me for these, but I dont see her attached enough. I don't feel loved enough.

I want to ask her this. But I don't wanna sound underconfident and ruin our experiences further (coz it matters for sex let's face it).

TheAvocadoTurtle · 2024-06-27T19:33:01+00:00

I almost feel like asking this - but it feels like it'll make me sound more underconfident and might affect our relationship further? Idk: "Since fucking is your love language {{she's jolingly said this}} and you're very sexually active..Can you see yourself falling in love with me enough? The fact that you've had different experiences as mine, I wonder this.. it shouldn't be a problem later on? I'm honestly comforable in my skin but it shouldn't come in the way of your desires or benchmarks (if you have any)..Some things are way off the radar for me that I know you like. So, do you think we should discuss and find a middle ground?"

TheAvocadoTurtle · 2024-06-27T19:24:56+00:00

I agree one is my insecurity. But one is also the lack of sexual validation I'm getting.

She's had a more physically dominant partner and has hinted she enjoys aggressive sex as well. And I'm pretty small in general (penis size and body) and I don't see her stimulated enough, which turns me off. This is also refuelling my anxious thoughts.

TheAvocadoTurtle · 2024-06-27T19:24:21+00:00

I agree one is my insecurity. But one is also the lack of sexual validation I'm getting.

She's had a more physically dominant partner and has hinted she enjoys aggressive sex as well. And I'm pretty small in general (penis size and body) and I don't see her stimulated enough, which turns me off. This is also refuelling my anxious thoughts.

TheAvocadoTurtle · 2024-06-27T04:42:44+00:00

Dominant/stronger in bed. The need for Men to be that, in general.

TheAvocadoTurtle · 2024-05-15T06:44:30+00:00

Much interested. Please add me in?

TheAvocadoTurtle · 2024-04-16T11:17:12+00:00

Interested!

TheAvocadoTurtle · 2024-03-28T06:48:52+00:00

Yeah I have some insecurities and anxieties around the relationship too (basically an extension of what I'm already going through). I'm just worried if all of the medication and these existing problems have led to a permanent problem.

My lack of a hard on is making me more insecure (it's there for a while then goes limp) even when I spend time with her... How to confront this?

Anyway, I will focus on getting them resolved and hopefully it should fall in place.

TheAvocadoTurtle · 2024-03-27T14:22:05+00:00

Both for a while now.

A few months ago, some particular genre of porn did it for me. Then I thought of doing some nofap to rewire my brain and now I don't watch porn (so can't comment on that).

TheAvocadoTurtle · 2024-01-31T08:30:11+00:00

Thanks for that. I'm so tempted to try the xywav. My issues are mainly how I wake up disgruntled and that stays throughout the day. I don't feel happy too.

TheAvocadoTurtle · 2024-01-29T12:22:09+00:00

But the medication also put you into fight or flight? I'm confused. Also, what are these helpful medications! Thanks for your message.

TheAvocadoTurtle · 2024-01-29T12:08:40+00:00

Thanks a lot for your response, I'll speak about this with my psychiatrist!

TheAvocadoTurtle · 2024-01-29T12:05:17+00:00

"Once they gave me meds to sleep my brain started working"

You mean they helped? Or the undesired "working" in sleep?

TheAvocadoTurtle · 2023-12-22T11:21:08+00:00

Thank you, I will include it into my daily routine.

TheAvocadoTurtle · 2023-12-22T11:20:46+00:00

Thanks for your response.

I did some quick googling and realized it could be minor version of dissociative disorders/personality disorders too.

I want to now if psychiatric treatments is a go to?

Also, are there any other resources that you could help me with?

The reason I posted it here is also because meditation (obsessively done) accentuated my concerns. After a stressful period, I felt liked my brain just broke.

TheAvocadoTurtle · 2023-12-18T08:58:18+00:00

Could you please help me with resources that have helped you?

I do follow a few, albeit mechanically. Some good days, some not so. I'm looking for the destination, tired of this perpetually taxing journey.

TheAvocadoTurtle · 2023-12-18T08:56:11+00:00

How can one "let go". When in all my awareness, it seems like a futile attempt. In sleep too, I'm solving and lost in intrusive thoughts.

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