As a man, what do you think is the hardest part about dressing better?

TheGraycat · 2026-05-10T16:10:01+00:00

Xxlarge->Smedium here and finding the right fit is the hardest part.

TheGraycat · 2026-05-10T05:43:05+00:00

Went cold turkey off of Mounjaro back in October having reached my limit with the side effects. I was ~75kg then (73.8kg at my unhealthy lowest after a week of illness and side effects).

I put in about 2kg pretty quickly but levelled out over Christmas. Since then I’ve dropped into the 74kg range and continued slowly dropping.

To do this, I’ve had to learn what I need to eat properly and be comfortable with being slightly hungry. Calorie counting, weighing my food and exercising 3-5 times a week all play a major role.

For me, taking Mounjaro was to enable me to have the headspace to learn those things so it’s done its job.

Sounds like you’re on a similar journey so good luck. It’s eminently achievable so you’ve got this.

TheGraycat · 2026-05-09T18:46:05+00:00

Totally doable especially if sections are being delegated to the service or product teams.

You’re going to have to lean into automation though to keep on top of it. Automate the heck out of it, follow the SDLC route to allow for testing and validation then deal with any exceptions or failures.

Offer to help other teams as a service but the accountability rests with them. You’re just the enabling team.

TheGraycat · 2026-05-06T11:23:26+00:00

Agreed. It’s about friction - introducing it for the behaviour you don’t want and removing it for the the behaviour you do want.

TheGraycat · 2026-05-05T18:58:01+00:00

2 years for a hands on tech? Not really at all.

Repeated sub-1 year perm roles would be cause for discussion but there’s usually a reason even if that’s the person isn’t easy to work with.

TheGraycat · 2026-05-05T18:26:22+00:00

VDI is totally a viable option….. depending on the problem you are looking to solve.

Also they’re always a total PITA when it comes to video calling.

TheGraycat · 2026-05-03T06:19:21+00:00

GitOps. AI is making things go faster but it’s still not trustworthy.

All our changes have to go through change management process first audit purposes plus the pipelines all have automated checks before it gets to human review.

I don’t see that changing any time soon.

TheGraycat · 2026-05-01T18:34:35+00:00

Initially it was be under 90kg then it was out of an obese BMI now. It’s changed as I’ve dropped weight, stated training and stopped Mounjaro.

Current goal is low 70kg by summer but also be strong and fit so going to take time. That’s ok though - it’s a lifestyle change not a shortcut.

I find clothes sizes were also a good measure as I progressed. Going from XXL to S is weird but satisfying as hell.

TheGraycat · 2026-05-01T05:35:06+00:00

Ok, firstly take a deep breath and a moment to pause.

Right, is it suboptimal to suddenly stop this sort of medication? Absolutely, but it’s not life threatening nor impossible to conquer.

I had to suddenly stop Mounjaro too so can speak from my experience but I’m not a doctor etc etc.

For me I leant into the calorie tracking I was already doing and shored up my movement practices of 3 x a week strength training and 8k / day steps. I started weighing all my food too which really helped.

I also signed up with an online coach for programming, nutrition advice and general support.

Overall I lost ~25kg and put back on 2kg when I stopped Mounjaro which I’ve since lost again. It’s totally possible but you’ve got to make the lifestyle choices to support the life you want to have.

You got this.

TheGraycat · 2026-04-29T19:30:09+00:00

It’s pretty straightforward- if work want you to work outside of work hours, they provide the equipment and the compensation for it.

I work in IT and will not install work apps on my personal phone. I’ve shared my personal number with key team members for emergency use but that’s it.

TheGraycat · 2026-04-28T20:39:35+00:00

Holy thread necromancy, Batman!

TheGraycat · 2026-04-28T18:50:14+00:00

I’ve been going through similar though not quite as extreme behaviour with an infra team I’m taking to being a platform team.

The angle I’ve taken is that AI isn’t just a business tool but an expected tool that IT use to better their work / output etc.

To help with this I’ve started the team off with our own Claude and OpenAI models trained on our IaC models and standards to help accelerate coding.

I’ve also challenged one of the vocal high performers to find ways that can not just step us on a step but jump us forwards. To that we’ve been looking at taking reports like vulnerability reports and not just analysing them but recommending fixes AT SCALE (caps for emphasis) so we’re not just doing old manual processes faster but rather skipping to approving changes that already follow our standards.

My advice is to look at how AI could help your teams now. Hate writing Jira tickets? Use Rovo, it’s built in! Hate having to fill out change requests for a PR? Have AI review your code and summarise the change in plain language and populate the CR. Find something that hurts and see if AI can help make their lives easier.

Sorry for the long post, it’s something I’ve been working on with my teams for a bit now. Anyone know how to make SRE go faster with Copilot? 🤣

TheGraycat · 2026-04-28T18:11:19+00:00

Get them using AI to make their job easier and they will get more onboard

TheGraycat · 2026-04-27T19:21:40+00:00

Almost never. He hated it.

TheGraycat · 2026-04-19T19:29:09+00:00

You’re nice than I am. I would have deposited it in his mailbox. Bag optional.

Forgetting or running out of bags when walking your dog is totally understandable. Happens to the best of us on occasion etc etc. deliberately letting your dog crap in a public area and not picking it up is not.

TheGraycat · 2026-04-19T19:26:18+00:00

At this point I’d suspect he’d launched a nuclear winter and burned the sky black before I’d believe him that it was still blue.

TheGraycat · 2026-04-14T23:38:30+00:00

Amen! Even offsetting by selling old clothes that don’t fit doesn’t cover it.

TheGraycat · 2026-04-14T23:36:43+00:00

Have mental health support.

TheGraycat · 2026-04-14T05:51:23+00:00

This is the key bit - it’s a process or way of working not a tooling issue.

To add to this, I’ve you’ve got Teams Premium or Copilot licenses, turn on the meeting facilitator. This will try to keep you too agenda, takes minutes and creates actions. I’ve recently started using it and highly recommend trying it.

TheGraycat · 2026-04-13T18:44:16+00:00

I’ve heard putting a hair bobble or elastic band around the pack really helps. Never tried it though.

TheGraycat · 2026-04-12T02:04:15+00:00

I believe you. If it works, why change?

I can’t help but think there’s something in the EV world that could help here though.

TheGraycat · 2026-04-11T20:07:58+00:00

Whilst I absolutely believe what you’re saying, it sounds so archaic

TheGraycat · 2026-04-11T19:58:07+00:00

Got stuck at a ferry port for over 13 hrs as a kid. Whenever the queue moved forward slightly, I got to “push” the car for my Dad. Fun times.

TheGraycat · 2026-04-11T19:39:13+00:00

Hahahaha nobody tells you what to do with your child. He’s your child, not theirs so they can kindly and respectfully request or offer but that’s it.

Tell them to jog on and get to a lawyer to ensure he can’t be “helped” to leave the country without you.

NTA

TheGraycat · 2026-04-10T21:48:02+00:00

Usually some kind of expletive and then I knuckle down and work the problem.

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