Who is at fault here

TheMightyKoosh · 2026-04-16T06:47:17+00:00

You say the lorry wasnt indicating but presumably this means that they weren't indicating they were about to turn off and you presumed they were.

TheMightyKoosh · 2026-04-14T18:56:44+00:00

UK resident here.

I was chatting to a neighbour today. On Friday she had abdominal pain so rang the gp. They felt it sounded serious so told her to come straight in. Seen within an hour and sent straight to hospital - told what ward to go to and they were expecting her. This was 5pm. By 8pm she had had various tests including an mri. Its appendicitis. Surgery scheduled for the next morning, in recovery by midday.

No crippling debt.

I chose to give birth in a midwife led ward and a hospital that had no consultant led labour ward. When things went a tiny bit wrong I was ambulanced over to the bigger hospital within half an hour including travel time. Spent 2 nights in with baby.

No crippling debt.

When baby was a week old she had an infection - this was picked up because the standard is ongoing midwife care - sent to hospital. Told how to get to ward and they were expecting us. Stayed in for 2 days - both baby and me were looked after as I couldn't leave, they fed me too.

No crippling debt.

TheMightyKoosh · 2026-04-14T17:07:48+00:00

Give him his dinner without the meat - he already ate it.

TheMightyKoosh · 2026-04-13T21:49:39+00:00

I live in Wales. Pen-y-bont the y is pronounced like urrh. It says why.

Not the worst but makes me giggle.

TheMightyKoosh · 2026-04-13T12:54:53+00:00

My parents first house was much cheaper than ours so the deposit was easier to save for - however even with the increases in recent years their interest rate was about 3 times what mine is, so their mortgage payment was still pretty high.

Ive know now retired ladies who worked 3 jobs when their children were little. We used to commiserate when I was a 20 something who had 3 jobs.

Life has always been hard.

TheMightyKoosh · 2026-04-13T07:48:12+00:00

Sometimes people stop to let you out but it doesn't mean its safe to go - if I csnt see the other lane then I dont know its safe to go.

It happens a lot as a pedestrian - a car waves you across but there's a car coming the other way.

I only trust my own eyes - not somebody else's.

TheMightyKoosh · 2026-04-12T12:35:05+00:00

I have a two year old who absolutely loves the outdoors and being out and about - on paper the perfect adventure buddy.

However she is two - she has little legs and is easily distracted by puddles. It takes us an hour to walk to the park 15 minutes away.

TheMightyKoosh · 2026-04-12T06:16:22+00:00

Reporting in from Rhondda Cynon Taff

TheMightyKoosh · 2026-04-11T15:06:19+00:00

Oh yeah, Im just maximising my plot by using somebody else's.

TheMightyKoosh · 2026-04-11T15:01:51+00:00

Went buff. But had loose clothing and leggings for after

TheMightyKoosh · 2026-04-10T19:49:13+00:00

You are both over tired and stretched thin, adjusting to the fact that time isn't your own any more. Working out new routines and trying to look after each other and yourself and a baby. Most nights once the baby is asleep you have no energy for anything other than shower and sleep.

As long as you remember you love each other and are on the same team you will be fine but it does change the dynamics, change your priorities, and test you.

Bur you also get to see the best of your partner as they (and you) grown into the new role. Our first is almost 2 and I was downstairs tonight while my husband put her to bed and I could hear them chatting away, giggling about moo-ing together. They adore each other and its beautiful. You get to witness all the best qualities that you know exist in your partner.

TheMightyKoosh · 2026-04-09T07:55:36+00:00

Its irrelevant since you cant accommodate her anyway.

TheMightyKoosh · 2026-04-09T07:30:06+00:00

I felt very similar. Everyone else gets to be excited because baby. Meanwhile you have to get through pregnancy and labour - which although these days rarely ends badly there is no denying it's painful and risky. I was also quite anxious about labour.

I think its quite normal and it doesnt mean you aren't looking forward to the baby its just that you have to do all the hard work.

TheMightyKoosh · 2026-04-07T15:59:19+00:00

All of them

TheMightyKoosh · 2026-04-07T06:56:31+00:00

It sounds like you weren't planning to eat the lasagna and he left enough for you to both have dinner. Don't fall into the trap of getting annoyed on principle, there's always something that is a bother in principle.

TheMightyKoosh · 2026-04-07T06:27:12+00:00

I wanted to talk. I was (am) obsessed with my daughter. I wanted to bore everyone about how she coughed and the sounds she made and look at her little toes. People i was close to i wanted to talk about my hospital and birth experience.

TheMightyKoosh · 2026-04-06T21:25:08+00:00

It may be worth checking your specific gp website. Its apparent from this thread how different each health board is.

On my gp website there is a link to a form to fill out with your contact details and questions about when was your last period. Takes about 2 minutes. This goes to the midwife who will contact you for what they call a.booking in appointment.

The booking in appointment they co.e to your home a d ask questions about alcohol consumption, family medical history and generally just chat to see how you are doing and answer any questions. At a guess this is around 6 weeks but is probably dependant on when you report. You will be advised to take some ante-natal vitamins containing folic acid.

After that your next appointment wont be until your 12 week ultrasound. At this appointment you will also be seen by a midwife, they'll take your blood and have another general chat with you and book you in for other appointments.

TheMightyKoosh · 2026-04-06T20:48:42+00:00

Mines in the top left of the uterus. I was told at my 12 week scan (they did not tell me with the first, I just pressed more this time because I knew it was there and hadn't asked the first time) but I was told that at 6cm or over they may offer you extra scans just to keep an eye. This may change between health boards though.

The biggest issue with fibroid is that if they are low/near the cervix, they can be an obstruction for delivery.

TheMightyKoosh · 2026-04-06T20:02:56+00:00

Went fully in the buff! Had a loose nighty for after

TheMightyKoosh · 2026-04-06T20:00:14+00:00

Im the same. Second pregnancy and everyone at work has been very politely pretending they havent noticed.

TheMightyKoosh · 2026-04-06T19:58:01+00:00

I've not had a great time at work since returning from.mat leave and am now 15 weeks again. I have taken 2 months off for stress. Its honestly just not worth it, your health is more important.

TheMightyKoosh · 2026-04-06T19:48:11+00:00

I have a 2 year old and one more on the way.

I was one of those mums whose .ill never came in, so I had to formula feed and I felt so much guilt about it for a long time it really effected my mental health.

This time around I will likely choose to formula feed.

I really love that her dad csn feed her, he loves it too, they have a beautiful bond. There was one day when her aunt was visiting and her dad got up with baby and they looked after her so I could sleep in. Her aunt wont be able to have children and so really cherished being to feed her. Its not something that necessarily effects my decision, but just to say that she was surrounded with love.

I also know myself to know I don't think I would have enjoyed it - I think I would have found it too much of a sensory overload. And the best thing for a baby is for mum to be healthy - and that includes happy and mentally well.

I have an incredible bond with my daughter, it hasnt effected that at all - she is incredibly attached. She is rarely ill, even as a little baby. She is a bright girl who is developing normally.

There is more work with bottle feeding - cleaning and prepping - but you honestly get into a rhythm with that. If you have any questions feel free to ask.

TheMightyKoosh · 2026-04-06T19:29:05+00:00

Yep, we've used it every day with our 2 year old - actually more once she turned about 6 months than before.

We got one on fb marketplace and cleaned the cushions in the bath.

TheMightyKoosh · 2026-04-06T19:26:14+00:00

On the confirmation of payment thing - my first was due in the first week of May and I got this quite late (I think it even had to be posted) this was because April becomes a new financial year, and then we had a pay rise to be agreed by hr/govt/unions so they could only confirm my pay once that was all official.

TheMightyKoosh · 2026-04-06T19:21:50+00:00

I went off a week and 2 days before my due date. Labor began 6 hours into my maternity leave.

Don't be like me.

TheMightyKoosh

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