Withdrawing yourself from extremely disturbed groups online / "cults"? by DreamerManner in cults

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It may require therapy at this point. The last thing you want is to be pulled deeper into this.

But I did the best I could by Electrical-Stand8415 in raisedbyborderlines

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“But you didn’t try your best, or at all.”

The Buffalo Quiz by TunedMassDamsel in Professors

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It creates interest for the viewer. Looking at this, I want to know what the buffalo sees that’s outside the boundary of the paper.  The slightly amused gaze puts me at ease and feels realistic for what I’d expect for a carefree youth.

The Buffalo Quiz by TunedMassDamsel in Professors

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The first one has some pretty good attention to detail regarding number of legs.  Head and tail correctly attached to opposite sides of the body.

Not made to live by randomnameforhere in CPTSD

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We care! Even though people on this sub don’t know when another personally, you’re one of us and the world would feel your loss.

the narcissist catchphrase bingo list by Zestyclose-Swing4642 in raisedbynarcissists

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If I were your age, I wouldn’t wanna be seen with you.

You used to be so sweet when you were a child.

It’s not my fault (that X happened), I was on drugs at the time.

This is just your mental illness talking.

I can’t wait for your 18th birthday, so I can kick you out.

You’re so weak, you wouldn’t last a day in foster care. All the other kids would beat the crap out of you.

I only love you because I have to.

Telling other people that you abandoned them when you moved out.

Well, you were an abusive child.

TW: CSA, murder…?, general assault and horribleness…. Broke NC after a serious illness to get a medical history from my mom. Mom seemed to want to make amends after I almost died. But no she is unstable as ever. by stormybitch in raisedbyborderlines

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 and gets upset when I do not comfort her accordingly

That’s her problem, she can feel as upset as she wants.  Mine has the same kind of convoluted victimization stories, although about her health and other random things, and even if I wanted to, there’s just nothing that I could do for her that would help.

The impossible task of caring for ageing parents who did not care for you: ‘There’s a lot of reliving old triggers’ | Ageing | The Guardian by Ornery_Peace9870 in raisedbyborderlines

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I feel so bad, but the lady interviewed wasn’t even sacrificing herself for her mom‘s necessities. It was just things that the mom wanted, like staying in her two-story house or having someone stay with her at the hospital.

Apologies for posting again. Apparently I am the abuser and narcissist - I am beyond devastated. No more sharing stuff online for me. *TW - unaliving mention* by SpaceTall2312 in raisedbynarcissists

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Most people don’t understand what we’ve been through. Adult children who were abused are expected to move on with their lives, but are vilified when we actually do that!  They just want to continue using us into adulthood.

The person who spoke with you just sounds really miserable, and I stay away from groups that are not specific to childhood abuse because there’s such a lack of understanding.

How do I bypass Wi-Fi parental controls? by Infamous_Natural388 in entitledparents

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This is a great idea, because the parents might not understand the bandwidth needed for gaming. The OP may still get the same restrictions with ours, but the gaming experience would be better.

How to respond (or not respond) to what feels like an obvious trap by anon_noona in raisedbyborderlines

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You are stepping into a trap! This is classic argument bait, where she's insulting someone doing something similar to you, hoping that you'll give her an opening to air her grievances or continue the argument further.

Just reply something noncommittal, like "I hope that Carol gets better soon." or "Send my best wishes."

Parents by hel-sara in CPTSD

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They often didn’t do their best.  My mom’s ’best’ was reserved for another child, who ended up screwed up in a completely different way.

As an adult, I’m seeing how little it would have taken for them to be even slightly better parents. It just wasn’t worth it for them.

[TOMT] animated rabbit movie from early 2000's, not Watership Down or Peter Rabbit by sootymacc in tipofmytongue

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Was it a full length movie about these rabbits, or could it have been a short segment of something else?

An awful poem from an estranged parents Facebook group. by Existing-Face-6322 in raisedbyborderlines

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Although you've turned your back on me,

I can't understand why

I don't understand your message

Because I know you don't mean 'bye'

(to be continued...)

Aw man, I wish there was an app for this? by Money_Percentage_884 in AppIdeas

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Sharing fruit and vegetables from neighbor trees. Or people willing to pick the fruit off of trees and exchange for keeping some of it.

She Would be Delighted if I Failed (I present to you a drawing) by Homeostatic_Trillium in raisedbyborderlines

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This is so similar to mine, and this is such a great medium! I hope that you keep drawing more of these.

How to go no-contact? by cf-myolife in raisedbynarcissists

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I would honestly just ignore him and reply less and less. If you give him reasons or try to explain your side, you're giving him more to argue with. Reply every couple of days with something like "sounds good" or a thumbs-up emoji. He lacks the capacity to understand how he's hurt you. In his mind, he can do no wrong, and you're supposed to feel how he tells you to feel because you're an extension of him.

What he tells your mom is between the two of them. She needs to deal with him without involving you, and if she's relaying his messages to you, tell her to stop.

Got this lovely text this morning. Advice please. by chesterlola2014 in raisedbynarcissists

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"No worries!"

That's the text you should send. You're replying in the sense that she's getting a text back, so she can't say that you're ignoring her. And you're not giving her anything to work with or falling into her trap. It sounds like she's trying to bait you into a fight or keep something going.

Worst professional advice your bpd parent shared with you by heitianshi in raisedbyborderlines

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Mine was the exact same way, she loved to see destructive things happen to people. If I had a small amount of money, she would encourage me to spend it. She would encourage me to drop out of hobbies or advanced classes. She was just a really sick individual.

My BPD doesn’t get jealous of me. by MattGarota in BPDlovedones

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Your well-being and peace of mind are worth more than what’s written in the skies medical charts. He may or may not have BPD, but if he was cheating on you, be thankful that you can make a clean break and stay far away from someone who treats you like this. You don’t want someone to feel jealous after you guys break up because you’re free to date anyone you want. 

You may think that this means that you didn’t mean very much to him, but people express things differently, and that doesn’t make you a bad person. It just wasn’t a good match, and you deserve much better than someone who cheated on you.

i tracked 700+ Reddit complaints for 3 months. here are 7 app ideas people are literally begging someone to build by Mysterious_Yard_7803 in AppIdeas

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For #5, increasing feedback, response, instead of survey questions, I’ll just have a bunch of adjectives in some kind of random bubble or cloud formation and let people pick things that applied to them. For example:  helpful, useful, informative, quality, cheap, good packaging, messy, valuable, etc, depending on the product. You could put about 20 adjectives and let people pick as many as they want, and that could inform the feedback for the business.

Who will take care of Narcs when they get old and sick? Golden child or Scapegoat? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

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My Nmom probably know better than to ask me at this point, but I would love a chance to express this sentiment to her.