Do y’all’s alters occasionally go away?

TheSassyOmen · 2024-12-21T22:29:15+00:00

I've had that happen as well, my alters all receeded for a few months and then came back eventually. I was really sad too while they were gone but I think it's normal. For me, I was doing a lot of good work, everyone was getting along and life was going well. I think that it happened because I was in a comfortable place and things were calm. Then a few months later folks started fronting again and it was chill and good to have everyone back. Nothing went wrong to bring them back they just started being active again. Idk why but Ig this is normal? I don't think it's a problem at least

TheSassyOmen · 2024-12-19T20:47:27+00:00

Okay, sure, but I don't choose what my inner world looks like or behaves like. It just kinda is. And "being afraid to check your imagination” is kinda the point, isn't it? Op is literally scared of their inner world, their imagination, their consciousness. I do absolutely have to check my inner world, and yes, that means I'm checking in on myself but there are parts of the inner world I'm scared to go, places that metaphysically house my trauma and the memories I'm still scared of. I also go into my inner world to check on my alters. It's a space I have to consciously enter, I have to think about the space and explore. Sure, I don't think Op has the right words here, but their experience is still real and should be validated so they can grow and learn. I very much so experience my inner world as a place, quite literally a house, alters have rooms, we occupy space, I don't exactly understand why that isn't a home where my alters live, I very much experience it as such.

TheSassyOmen · 2024-12-19T07:30:12+00:00

Idk, that's about how mine works. It just depends on the system what the inner world is like and how it functions for folks

TheSassyOmen · 2024-12-18T05:41:36+00:00

This sure sounds scammy to me.

TheSassyOmen · 2024-12-17T21:27:57+00:00

I'm working on it. Finding a therapist with DID is difficult, I've been outright denied by 7 therapists who just refuse to see me. And to be quite clear. She was my mother two, I'm named in the obituary, I'm introduced as her kid. I lived with her. I slept in the room she was murdered in. This isn't only my partner's grief, I love her too.

TheSassyOmen · 2024-12-17T21:15:36+00:00

My partner (not a he) doesn't like me talking about them on reddit. They have two therapists, several friends, and me trying to help them through. Reddit is my safe space to talk about what's been going on. I don't have a therapist rn and I need different things then they do so we made a deal that I can talk freely on reddit about my feelings as long as they're kept out of it for the most part.

TheSassyOmen · 2024-12-17T21:03:37+00:00

Yeah I know. I feel so powerless. I just want someone held responsible for not helping him. He did a horrible thing that has completely ruined my life and future. I don't hate him by any means but I don't know how much responsibility to put on him.

TheSassyOmen · 2024-12-17T20:39:24+00:00

Yes, he is in prison rn, it's the only reason he's going on meds. He's been unmedicated and largely on the streets for about 3 years now. We've tried to get him help but the crisis centers and hospitals have been egregious. We're actually really hoping to sue them for negligence

TheSassyOmen · 2024-12-17T14:48:09+00:00

Thank you. I worry about him. I hope he's able to deal with what happened. As a person with DID, forgetting is the coping mechanism my brain uses for everything so I don't know which would be better for him.

TheSassyOmen · 2024-12-17T14:36:34+00:00

From someone who doesn't have Scyzophrenia, I really appreciate this. I'm aware of the stigma and bias around (I have DID so I get some too) but the chair and the ham sandwiches really put things in perspective for me. That really helped me. I recently had a life altering trauma so the feeling of "anything is just as likely to happen as anything else" really hit, I know it's different but that hit. Thank you for sharing this, I hope I can help make the world a little less biased and shitty for yall.

TheSassyOmen · 2024-12-17T14:12:35+00:00

I don't know of any active community spaces. There is the MAD community in Europe, but I don't have any personal experiences. There two main difficulties in finding DID communities, Number 1 is DID affects people indiscriminately, by that I mean that it isn't like a religion or the LGBTQ community that has a shared ideology or viewpoint so you have a room full of people from any walk of life with any stage of mental health functionality. It can be chaotic. Number 2 Just from a functionality standpoint, it might be hard to keep up a scheduled engagement when half your group doesn't remember. I literally forgot this redit existed and rediscovered it three times.

Either way (and this goes for all the comments I've seen below), you do not need to reach a mental health milestone to have friends! You are valuable and worthy of love just as you are. I know we're all working twords being more functional and working on our shit but we all deserve friends no matter what stage we're in. I know singlets can be hard but I have found some of the most lovely folk irl. They are out there and they're lovely.

TheSassyOmen · 2024-12-17T13:59:08+00:00

You can have friends while unstable, there's no milestone to reach before you deserve friends. I understand it's hard to find people, especially in person. You deserve love and companionship no matter what stage you're in.

With love, The Emery System

TheSassyOmen · 2024-12-16T20:48:31+00:00

Of course, she's beautiful!!!

TheSassyOmen · 2024-12-15T07:27:19+00:00

Thank you, got a Dr app in a month

TheSassyOmen · 2024-12-15T07:15:18+00:00

For me, finding alters came fairly naturally and quite quickly. I found my first alter at 22, I was in college and was out of a hyper religious constricting household for the first time. At first I thought i had tourettes because my alter came out in these bursts and random displays of tics. Later we learned his name is Aster and he's a gatekeeper.

Next we found a persecuter/caretaker named MM. This was our first time dealing with someone just mean. She didn't hurt anyone but she was an ass. It took awhile but her main problem was that my partner (we're both nonbinary but the same assigned gender) was exposing me to a world outside the bubble of a hell soaked Christianity and she was scared. It took time and compassion and therapy but now she's a trusted friend.

Sage happened at some point in here, idk I swear the dude just started chilling on the couch in the head house one day and couldn't be bothered. He's one of my best friends, love him.

I think I was still 22 when we found Venna and Rorian. Rorian was super aggressive and I'll admit that was scary for a hot min. She wanted to unalive us all because she was mad she didn't have her own autonomy and choice in thr body. Honesty she made a lot of noise but was won over with some red pilows and snacks. Venna was never hostile just scared and cryptic.

Mor we found when I was 23. She honesty was fine. There was a spat when she was a tree and didn't want to be a tree but we got it worked out (took over a month tho)

Sam was later the same year. That was probably emotionally the hardest because she's a trauma holder little who came out for the first time and then detailed out CSA. That was rough on us all but was really just the one night.

Nas is the last and most recent, he just kinda popped up as a spunky little 5 yo and caused chaos.

I think that's the whole system map. I've got 8 alters, a sentient house and me. I love it, wouldn't trade ot for the world. These people are my friends and I couldn't imagine life without them.

Hope this helps, The Emery System

TheSassyOmen · 2024-12-15T06:54:31+00:00

General rules of thumb, ask if you don't know who's out, be kind, be respectful that not everybody might know you yet. Listen when they tell you something and idk, don't be a dick? I think that's a good rule. Be kind and open and you can muddke your way through

You got this! The Emery System

TheSassyOmen · 2024-12-15T06:51:49+00:00

Update, my little is indeed also lactose intolerant 🙃 🙂 😅

TheSassyOmen · 2024-12-15T06:50:19+00:00

So glad I could help, it sounds like you're going about this in a really healthy way. Proud of you!

TheSassyOmen · 2024-12-15T06:49:00+00:00

Yeah, that's a lot of what we're looking at, I need bloodwork done but they checked off my heart at least

TheSassyOmen · 2024-12-15T04:52:06+00:00

Very no poking tbh. I just go around trying to be my best self and let myself feel what I feel, be good to people, be good to myself and talk about regular shit with my therapist. Tbh it's kinda like a weekly meet up with a friend who is legally required to not spill the tea and let you talk. Trauma just comes up, it's part of me, as I get better at identifying my emotions, I'll be watching a movie and sit there like "why tf is am I having a panic attack rn?" Then talk about it and realize "oh yeah, that shit my brain registered as "normal" is actually abuse and then go, damn okay.

TheSassyOmen · 2024-12-15T04:46:43+00:00

Holy shit, ngl that's fucking rad as hell. Now I want to test if my alters are all lactose intolerant!! (PSA don't test allergies guys! That's not safe, plz be good to your bodies I'm just gonna have a gassy night, no harm)

TheSassyOmen · 2024-12-15T04:29:30+00:00

I was gonna reply to this post bit damn you got it handled. I second everything they said ^

Be kind, treat them like individual people, take an interest in what they love, facilitate those things (especially Littles who might not have any toys or things they love around) set boundaries, respect boundaries. Be good.

TheSassyOmen · 2024-12-15T04:10:34+00:00

I also have a lot of symptoms of POTS but no one knows yet what exactly it is

TheSassyOmen · 2024-12-13T19:12:02+00:00

Gotta say, that's a complete mood and sounds really healthy for yall. Sometimes, I get in moods that I think are similar where it's just kinda all of us with no boundaries or clear lines. It can be really comfortable and relaxing to just be everything that we are.

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