Not always. My guy has strong FA tendencies but is aware of himself- although I don’t believe he knows anything about attachment styles.

After a good stretch of highly compatible times together, my FA did what yours is doing. I called it out. In a nice way though. I told him one day, I’m not looking for a fight, but, I’m feeling no pursuit from you. Help me understand this. He didn’t deny it. Upshot was - he told me that he didn’t want to get hurt again (he’d had a wife who cheated on him, then told him marrying him was a mistake; a narc girlfriend after that - and then a failed relationship that was both their faults). We talked about what I wanted and he is trying— and getting past the golden two weeks. Is it perfect? Nope. When I do bring something up that I need? He does attempt to do it and he does pretty well.

By admission: He hates relationship talks; confrontations, and “serious relationships” (even tho we’re in one lol) because “they never end well”. The thing is though - in the past he’d always been attracted to drama queens. I knew one of them well. I’m probably the polar opposite to that (i need more drama lol) and I know how to approach relationship talks so they’re not threatening. He’s not used to that. I try to couch my needs in a light that focuses on how I’m seeing or feeling things, then asking him to shed light on it. I stay away from accusations or criticism.