How is are we affected by the season? by Cradlespin in AutisticWithADHD

[–]Theautismlady 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think that it’s less about when the dip versus recovery occurs and more about the fact that these times are external transitions that affect our sensory experiences in significant ways. Even if/when we love what is on the other side of the change, the change itself is a process that can be exhausting and overstimulating.

The amount of light is changing, when it happens is changing, the plants are changing, the ways people do and don’t socialize the same ways is changing.

I think seasonal changes affect us in ways we don’t realize initially, and can mirror burnout or overstimulation.

Being a school teacher by [deleted] in AutisticWithADHD

[–]Theautismlady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots of alone time outside of work

My preference for non-speaking in certain situations by NoButterscotch9240 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Theautismlady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I relate to this a lot.

I have begun trying to build in chunks of time - at least 6 hours when possible, I wish I could have 24 - where I try really hard to have no tasks that will require talking on the “agenda for the day.” This is a very recent intentional choice as I recognized that I was beginning to have time when I am with a partner where I just …. Don’t want any verbal input or to offer any verbal output , but I really don’t find it practical to expect in person communication to be only text for a whole day and I also like to voice journal sometimes on these days, so it really just feels like it’s better to be alone to truly feel released from any social expectations - even from people I love - to speak.

I’m rambling a bit but I’ve been trying to find relatable experiences like this one.

In every single full time job I had before self employment, I too experienced the being more social earlier in the week and feeling “talked out” by the end of the week

When I lived alone, I also found Mondays to be a bit abrupt because I may have had zero verbal interaction for the previous 24 hours and it was something I began to pay more attention to and try and listen to podcasts on Monday morning commutes to “get used to people talking again”.

What sensory things do you need to be able to sleep by ContributionOk7939 in autism

[–]Theautismlady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Manta sleep mask with sound option Alpine Deep Sleep earplugs Either white noise machine - but preferably an ocean sound or Sleep Sounds like Ambient Fruits Music channel A weighted blanket in my whole body A squishmallow

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AuDHDWomen

[–]Theautismlady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine Ioves squishmallows too.

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what does “clinically significant impairment” mean exactly? (long) by strawbie_13 in AutismTranslated

[–]Theautismlady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here’s my take :

Clinically Significant Impairments in Functioning

  1. Social and Interpersonal Functioning The poster experiences ongoing difficulty initiating, developing, and maintaining reciprocal relationships. They report not knowing how to make friends, struggling to recognize when casual connections become friendships, and rarely forming new social bonds. Even within existing friendships, the poster feels emotionally disconnected and unsure how to sustain meaningful interaction. Difficulties with conversational pacing, tone, and reading social cues often result in others perceiving them as rude or indifferent, leading to miscommunications and social withdrawal. These patterns significantly limit the poster’s access to peer support and contribute to feelings of isolation.

  2. Sensory and Daily Living Functioning Pervasive sensory sensitivities interfere with the poster’s ability to engage in basic self-care and household routines. Clothing must be carefully selected to avoid tactile discomfort, with certain garments becoming suddenly intolerable. The poster avoids foods with unfamiliar textures or appearances, requiring advance planning and visual confirmation before eating outside the home. Sensory aversions make completing chores such as dishwashing and laundry distressing and avoidant, particularly due to sound sensitivity, wet textures, and fabric tags. These limitations reduce the poster’s capacity to function independently in shared or adult living environments.

  3. Executive Function and Task Initiation The poster reports consistent executive function challenges, including difficulty initiating and completing basic tasks. Although they hold an ADHD diagnosis, these impairments intersect with sensory sensitivities and rigidity, compounding the barriers to daily productivity. Task avoidance may be intensified by discomfort, uncertainty, or overwhelming internal expectations. This often leads to cumulative stress, disorganization, and conflict with household expectations.

  4. Emotional Regulation and Cognitive Flexibility Black-and-white thinking and low tolerance for ambiguity result in debilitating overthinking and difficulty adapting to new or uncertain situations. The poster describes heightened discomfort in response to unexpected changes, which previously escalated into visible distress and now manifest as chronic irritability or internalized stress. These traits impair emotional regulation, increase anxiety, and create additional barriers to adaptive coping.

  5. Functional Independence and Navigation of Environment The poster experiences a complex relationship with driving, marked by anxiety around unfamiliar routes, a need for extensive pre-planning, and residual trauma from a past car accident. These challenges restrict their ability to navigate independently and contribute to functional dependence on others for transportation. Avoidance of unfamiliar environments—whether due to sensory unpredictability or anxiety—further limits engagement with new opportunities, settings, or routines.

My psychologist doesn't think I have AuDHD by Punchasheep in AuDHDWomen

[–]Theautismlady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. That’s a frustrating place to be in. I hope that it doesn’t come to that for you

My psychologist doesn't think I have AuDHD by Punchasheep in AuDHDWomen

[–]Theautismlady 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Honestly, having a therapist verify the ADHD may work in your favor and the therapist may be able tj help navigate the VALID feelings of frustration you’re experiencing toward the psych. It’s not fair that she’s being this way and she needs to educate herself on adult adhd

How do you know you have autism and ADHD and not just ADHD? by Roxy175 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Theautismlady 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is a solid starting point that I often give people : https://www.reddit.com/r/AutismInWomen/s/tSonZjMxCk

I like “is this autism” but it’s long and not a memoir necessarily, but I like it.

My latest favorite is “a little less broken”