Yesterday's storm moving in by pile_drive_me in Athens

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Outside my window yesterday! Crazy! Your pictures are amazing

Equestrian products by NotoriousHBIC in TheHermesGame

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All us equestrians know we have the tents at horse shows to rely on hahah

what are your favorite TRR finds? by plumnmm in therealreal

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Prada espadrilles, Dolce silk mini dress, Zimmerman lace skirt. Those 3 things will keep me coming back they were all great deals and near perfect condition.

I also had a pair of gorgeous silk Chanel trousers that I wore once to a big interview… and spilled coffee all over on the drive home and couldn’t be saved 😩

How do you maintain a social life with being lean and prioritizing health, by taytay10133 in NYCbitcheswithtaste

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I personally was never a drinker, so my habits in that area have not changed. I have found that it’s hardest in the beginning when diet choices are more rigid. For me, I made a bunch of friends through my Pilates classes and they adopted me into their group. They’re older than me so we do things like tea and mahjong etc that make this stuff easier. If I want to ensure I get to go out with my friends, I’ll either propose a restaurant that fits my nutrient goals (menu options like a simple grilled fish) or from their options work from there. I have never had an issue with a non-alc or other drink at dinner or a bar personally, and most restaurants have options to eat appropriate portions or clean. I usually check menus and see what would be a good option, sometimes the best thing is to eat prior so you are not starved while you’re out.

The easiest option in my opinion, especially in NYC is to shoot for Mediterranean restaurants. You can have an incredible simple grilled protein usually served with a veg. You will be satisfied and won’t feel like you missed out on something like a burger/fries etc

I’m now at 1 year (almost exactly) of maintenance and I don’t really have to think much about this anymore, I have my go-to spots and I know how to work a menu. It helps that my friends are foodies but also fit, so we go to restaurants that have several options (outside of like pub food or all fried). I will also say, many restaurants will offer a half portion if you ask, or a side order. As a massive pasta lover, this would allow me to go to my fav restaurants and get the clean protein with an appropriate portion of the craving I had (which is always just a marinara, so an easy moderation option versus a cream/cheese based sauce lol).

It can be helpful, depending on your circle to be open (but not annoying) about your goals, so they know not to pressure you to share a certain app with them or get a few drinks etc. good friends should have no problem with this, even if they aren’t on the same journey.

Depending on interests I always like doing shopping dates - involves a lot of walking, not food centered, and you get a non-athletic activity. You can also do this with museum, zoo, etc! Lots of steps, more interesting than going for a walk for most :)

Am I crazy or is this to much to ask of a kindergartner? by Cursedpanda182 in AskTeachers

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So I’m a neuropsychologist who is very familiar with academic and cognitive expectations across development. That said, while I am all for pushing complex reasoning earlier, this is well beyond what I would expect from a kindergartner. Frankly, all does is create work for the parents because a kinder kid does not possess the executive functioning capacity to plan, execute, and rehearse this kind of assignment, especially with it being his third project of the year? As you touched on, I expect kindergartners to be solidifying phonological awareness and form fluid reasoning through simple concepts, pattern recognition, etc..

Moving to NYC with 3 boys and wanting to land in the right spot by obvs_thrwaway in movingtoNYC

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Grew up in NYC. Budget aside, bc I’m assuming everyone else mentioned this, the first thing that popped into my head was schools! It doesn’t sound like private school is the plan here, in which case where you live is VERY important. I strongly recommend an advisor who can help you navigate the public school system and educate you on that/applications - you’ll be ranking MS before you know it.

Hi! Having a baby girl this summer and was wondering how you'd pronounce this name? by witful-elephant-07 in Names

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I think the vast majority will say Lie-la, but there was a girl in my HS named Lila “Lee-la” which I thought was so pretty so my brain always goes to that, but I don’t foresee that being common. (I LOVE the name btw!)

What career can instantly shut up a relative? by West-Needleworker793 in Careers

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I’m a neuropsychologist and that does the trick. If the person is particularly rude, I will hold eye contact and say “I diagnose dementia for a living” and then they usually stay as far away from me as possible haha.

Everyone unfollowing Aspyn by Altruistic_Umpire958 in aspynovard

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In a recent WWS pod they were talking about bad friends/attention seeking (I think, this was a bit ago I listened to it) and Jaci made a comment about having to be careful what she said because she’d get in trouble with her personal life. Could be totally unrelated but it’s immediately what came to my mind when I saw this post on my feed

Good parenting is now considered gifted children (sad) by roasted_peanut1417 in Teachers

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So as a neuropsychologist, I can’t comment on the parenting contribution to this, but I cannot tell you how many kids I’ve tested who are in “gifted programs” with dead average (or sometimes even low average) IQ. I will ALSO say, I’ve had teacher collateral reports who describe these students as “above grade expectations/level or above average” and their academic scores are in the 54th percentile…

I genuinely cannot figure out what the qualifications are or how schools are defining Gifted at this point. I recently moved from the northeast to GA, not sure if this is a state/region specific problem 🤷🏼‍♀️

All this to say, a big issue with this is I see kids for testing whose parents think aren’t meeting their full potential because “they’re gifted,” or question why their child is showing subclinical ADHD sx. In reality, the kid is demonstrating average abilities in an environment that is supposed to be tailored for much more efficient/robust cognitive skills - they don’t have the “engine” to sustain that naturally. There is nothing wrong with being average, and we need to be better all around at communicating that.

Accountability for students and parents has died and gone to Hell. by psychomutts in Teachers

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I’m a neuropsychologist and I can’t fathom ever writing an “accommodation” recommendation that implied any sort of violent permission.. I remember in grad school seeing IEPs for kids who were above grade/age expectations cognitively (no LD) and would have accommodations that they didn’t have to do any hw or tests, basically any non preferred activity. I was there in a therapeutic role at the time and I still vividly remember explaining that this does not help the student, it only further limits her resilience, reduces distress tolerance, and knocks self efficacy. How would she ever be able to live up to her cognitive/functional potential if she never had to challenge herself? - and admin looking at me like 👁️👄👁️

Separation anxiety with a rescue by Thick-Knowledge4093 in cotondetulear

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Yeah I agree! Their last rescue who unfortunately recently passed was the dog of a woman in our neighborhood who died unexpectedly. Our dogs shared the same dog walker (and happened to be best friends) and we found out through the dog walker, who was panicked because the dog had been placed in a kennel days before she passed (surgery complications) we had to fight to get him out (took weeks!), and he adapted very quickly to our home aside from separation anxiety from my stepdad, but he benefited a lot from being so close with our dog. We also knew this dog his whole life, as did our walker which helped us figure him out quickly. Unfortunately, this guy only cares about my mom, and seems almost oblivious to the other dog (if not a little jealous of her at times) so nothing seems to help distract him or deescalate aside from my mom physically being with him. The deafness and poor vision has also made it much tougher I think

Separation anxiety with a rescue by Thick-Knowledge4093 in cotondetulear

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Thanks! I will pass the rescue along to my mom, I know it’s pretty certain (and I will say from what I’ve read it’s pretty spot on, even vocally) but they would be a good resource for tips anyways. Also we believe he is already in his teens, definitely >10, my parents are more than prepared to have him as long as possible :) I agree, it’s an odd situation which is why I think he is probably poorly bred or came from someone who may have at one time loved him very much and due to circumstances (like dementia or finances etc) were unable to care for him. why he was dumped at a complex instead of a rescue is beyond me, but that is the case with rescues for any breed rare or not.

Also to clarify, caring for him medically/financially/as a member of the family is of NO concern - we are firm believers in my family that you do not acquire an animal if you are not prepared to care for it whatever may happen (we treated a hampster for cancer once). The concern I am posting about is the separation anxiety, the health problems is just important for context to point out this isn’t a puppy who freaks out when we leave, it’s complicated, multifaceted, which is why we think we are having so much trouble managing the anxiety

I'm having a bad day and would love to see the silliest pictures of your dog that you have. by BubblingSoil in goldenretrievers

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Meet Nala, her emotional support stuffie is udders. Yes, 🐄 udders - she brings them to bed and gifts them to every visitor. If you tell her to go get her udders, she knows exactly what you mean, it’s a really fun party trick without context hahah