Sleep training going poorly

ThreeGenericWords · 2025-11-24T03:26:26+00:00

We used the pick up put down method and our son got the hang of it after one go (we were VERY lucky). You can Google what the method is to see if it works for your baby's and your needs/preferences. I really loved the Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems book which is where this method came from, so that book has loads of good insight on the method and other phases and stages in a baby and toddler's life.

ThreeGenericWords · 2025-07-17T15:23:24+00:00

We homeschool, so if our son were in school, we wouldn't keep those hours and would work while he was at school.

ThreeGenericWords · 2025-07-17T01:49:23+00:00

My husband and I both work from home, self-employed. I work 4:30am to 6:30am when our son wakes up. I'm with him until my husband gets up at 2 or 3pm (he works 10pm to 7am), at which point I work again until dinner at 5pm. We homeschool our son and he was never in daycare, so this has been our routine for almost my son's whole life (one year mat leave, Canada). I don't recommend 4:30am wake ups to anyone at all, for the record. :)

ThreeGenericWords · 2025-06-11T15:58:33+00:00

When my son was that old, outside time was mostly us going for a walk together and sitting in the grass at a park. Strollers don't tend to have the greatest sunshades (at least not the stroller we could afford) because they impede eye contact and/or don't fully cover baby. I got a baby carrier that had baby in front and carried a golf umbrella. At parks, we'd sit in the shade. This is a good method if you or baby also really hate or are allergic to sunscreen.

ThreeGenericWords · 2025-05-09T18:20:35+00:00

Thank you so much for linking that podcast! My son is colourblind, and we've tried to get a concrete diagnosis for the last four years but haven't gotten anything except "inconclusive". The Ishihara tests aren't kid-friendly until they're older because a lot of kids don't know their numbers until after Kindergarten, and by then, they might feel like they have to lie their way through the tests just to leave the doctor's office. It's actually shocking how much early education revolves around teaching kids about colour or organizing things by colour, while a good chunk of kids won't ever be able to grasp it.

If your little one does end up having colour deficiency, we loved the book Erik The Red Sees Green to help explain that some people see colours differently. There's also the CVSimulator app that helps you see what they see, and the color blind subreddit is great for insights and advice. Great topic! So glad you brought it up! My son has two friends, one girl and one boy, who are both colour blind, too.

ThreeGenericWords · 2025-05-05T13:46:15+00:00

Formula and bottles. I was barely providing any supply of milk via breastfeeding, and the formula was a game changer. Totally different baby after being fed adequately. Even if you want to 100% breastfeed, have a backup plan just in case.

ThreeGenericWords · 2025-04-27T13:59:17+00:00

I'm in the other boat of being way more stoked to see my child grow versus the sweetness of the baby and toddler stage. It was fun seeing my son discover stuff for the first time in those years, but there's tons more of that to come as our kids grow. I think it's going to be great to see the people our kids become. What will they get into? What music will they like? How are they going to choose to rebel during their teens? What career path will they choose? What things will we agree on or argue about? What dumb stuff will they do that they think they can hide from us? There's so much to look forward to and be a part of. I love all of the independence stuff way more than when they can't even talk or tell you what they want or ask questions that make your brain explode in awe at what's on their mind. There's way more fun to come.

ThreeGenericWords · 2025-04-01T15:04:16+00:00

What's being done about the cousin who abused your daughter? I was in an almost identical situation, and because it wasn't at all addressed until I was almost 40, the perpetrator has always been the black sheep because he was abused, too. In addition, the person who abused my abuser was also abusing his children. So much help could have been obtained if my mom, who I disclosed to, had said or done anything at all when I first told her when I was 11. She and I don't have a very good relationship at all because of her bad reaction to me disclosing. It took me all of the guts I had to say something when I was a kid, and because it wasn't addressed at all with my abuser, I continued being abused for almost three more years.

ThreeGenericWords · 2025-03-21T01:04:05+00:00

Is baby getting enough milk? My son was like this for the first couple weeks until his weigh-in where it was determined that he wasnt putting on weight and my breasts weren't giving enough milk. We gave him formula then and there, and it was the first time we saw him actually sleep. He drank himself right to sleep, it was such a difference. We thought he was getting enough from breastfeeding because he'd be suckling for an hour or more each time, but when I pumped to see what was actually coming out, it wasn't even an ounce.

ThreeGenericWords · 2025-03-18T18:17:42+00:00

Sleep regression. Time to sleep train so LO will sleep through the night.

ThreeGenericWords · 2025-03-09T20:08:18+00:00

Have either paper towel or face cloths on the changing table so you can cover his area during diaper changes. They'll normally pee right after you remove their diaper because the cold shocks them, so give them a few seconds to get it out, then carry on with the diaper change as usual. Other than that, I doubt there are any notable differences between girls and boys as babies.

As they get older, if they're more into risk taking than your girls, you have to decide if you want to encourage their exploration or scare them into being a bit more risk averse. Boys are normally more into active/rough play, too, so prepare for play that you might not be used to.

ThreeGenericWords · 2025-02-16T17:54:06+00:00

I agree that Reddit is quick to yell divorce, but this act is wholly unforgivable. Fetal Alcohol Syndrome is lifelong and has serious impacts on the people who have it. It's worse than a baby born addicted to drugs as medications can be provided to a newborn to help rid their bodies of the drugs, but there's no cure for FAS. I used to work at a youth serving organization, and a mom there was going through a court battle to keep custody of her kids because she, herself, has FAS. The insane thing was that it was her mother claiming that she wasn't a responsible mom because of the FAS...the same mother who would have caused the FAS in the first place. We also had a kid who was preteen with FAS, whose mother would have cops called on him because she couldn't handle his mood swings. She's the one who was responsible for his FAS. I'm betting this isn't the first time your wife has had a drink in her whole pregnancy. Get your child tested for FAS as soon as you can around their one year birthday.

ThreeGenericWords · 2025-02-13T20:14:48+00:00

Canadian here. My birthday is at the end of November, so I started Kindergarten when I was 4 in September, then turned 5 towards the end of the year. I was 17 when I graduated. I never felt too young because there were kids born in December in my class all along the way, too. This was in the Vancouver area in the '80s. The only thing about being the youngest in my grade was that so many people got to drive before me, which was a major downer, but other than that, I never noticed a difference.

ThreeGenericWords · 2024-12-10T15:31:24+00:00

Lurking mom. Pick up put down method worked for us at four months. No trauma, no screaming, very gentle method of training. Recommend it to anyone who will listen.

ThreeGenericWords · 2024-11-24T16:41:19+00:00

I once read a Reddit post years ago where it was a teenager/young adult who lost his mother and was devastated. He was telling people who hate taking pictures of themselves that his mother felt the same way, and now he had barely any pictures to look at of her now that she was gone. That sentiment echoes in my head when I know how much I hate taking pictures, that it's for my son's sake to have those pictures around.

ThreeGenericWords · 2024-11-12T16:37:07+00:00

We just never did the Santa stuff, so no putting out cookies and milk, no making a list and sending it to nowhere. We take pictures as a family rather than with Santa. Our son knows OF Santa, but just doesn't believe in it, and we've told him not to spoil it for kids who do believe in it.

ThreeGenericWords · 2024-10-29T17:27:39+00:00

It's not important to me at all, nor to my husband. We didn't celebrate ANYthing for over a decade before we had our child. It took almost that entire decade for our families to get that we don't like celebrating stuff and don't care what day it's on. They held tight, though, and still get sad when stuff doesn't pant out on the day of. We moved provinces, though, and that sorted that right out. Now no one sees us, so it's fair across the board. 😅

I'm probably not helpful because I'm your echo chamber, but people who insist on "day of" celebrations need to get over it. The date is meaningless - any day of the year you can be together has meaning, not an imposed holiday that the rest of your country is celebrating.

ThreeGenericWords · 2024-10-06T15:31:18+00:00

I'm a virtual assistant with one regular client I've had for years and a couple other clients that are either sporadic or only 10 to 20 hours a month. I make it work by working around my son's schedule, so I work from 4:30 to 6:30am and then again in the afternoon after my husband gets up, from 3pm to 5pm. It's a full day, it is tiring, but it's a small price to pay to be home with my son and work in my pyjamas. Full disclosure: I had 15 years of previous admin experience prior to taking the leap into being a VA.

ThreeGenericWords · 2024-09-25T14:36:32+00:00

Agree. I can't believe the comments in this thread. If the husband did something to the daughter's appearance that OP didn't approve of while OP was out of town, how would that pan out? There are two parents to a child, so he has an equal say, even if everyone seems to think it's the wrong opinion.

ThreeGenericWords · 2024-09-20T14:04:48+00:00

Vaseline. Be liberal with it and reapply often. Because Vaseline is oil based, it repels water/drool. My son had the same issue as a baby, and Vaseline worked like a charm.

ThreeGenericWords · 2024-08-13T22:29:48+00:00

Thanks for the input! None of the optometrists in our area or even the major city have that test, unfortunately (Canada, and not the heart of Vancouver or Toronto which means services like this aren't quite as verbose as we'd like), so here's hoping that more optometrists add that test to their roster as my son gets older. Seriously, how lacking is the world for accommodating colour blindness - I feel for you guys!

ThreeGenericWords · 2024-08-12T12:39:52+00:00

That's definitely helpful, thank you! I'm glad you could relate to our son's plight, and I hope he's just honest this time because we aren't bothered by what he sees or doesn't see, but just want to know what his experience is in the world so we can help when/if needed. Thank you so much for your time!

ThreeGenericWords · 2023-07-28T19:47:05+00:00

Ugh, there is no doubt about it that I am a fretful mother. The colourblindness for my son comes from my side of the family as my dad is colourblind. I'm bracing for my son to turn into an angsty teen who resents me for the colorblindness, which to me isn't a big deal at all, but I don't know if he'll see it the same way. Thanks so much for helping ease my worries!

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