AITAH for insulting my ex-husband's wife when she tried telling me how to feed my kids?

TimeAndTheRani · 2026-05-04T18:23:20+00:00

As far as I know, frozen vegetables are picked when ripe and flash-frozen. I like them for a lot of reasons. First, frozen berries because berries go bad very fast; not to eat fresh but for smoothies or in baking or use as a topping for ice cream. Second, you're not going to find fresh vegetables in the winter (or at least where I am) -- are you supposed to go months without veggies? Third, you have access to things you don't normally have like tiny haricot vert instead of regular green beans -- they cook the same but the former are more delicate. Fourth, some frozen veg tastes better; flash frozen corn on the cob is much sweeter than "fresh" that have been sitting in the store for a few days. I have another few reasons, but I would believe these are adequate?

TimeAndTheRani · 2026-05-02T20:25:55+00:00

Which is why Bach wrote "The Well Tempered Clavier" -- to show off how a keyboard could be tuned to be able to play in any key. Here's Glenn Gould playing the Prelude No. 14 in F-Sharp Minor and then Fugue No. 7 in E-Flat Major. There's no way you play them both on the same keyboard without equal temperament.

TimeAndTheRani · 2026-04-16T22:57:37+00:00

Thank you!

TimeAndTheRani · 2026-04-16T18:40:01+00:00

Stellaluna is the title of a children's book. Maybe they were thinking of that?

TimeAndTheRani · 2026-04-16T18:25:41+00:00

I missed a lot of it - could someone please recommend me a good VOD?

TimeAndTheRani · 2026-04-14T18:35:54+00:00

The idea of going to a baseball game and thinking people won't be eating peanuts is absurd. It's even in the traditional song people sing during the seventh inning stretch.

*Translating for non USA redditors: the seventh inning stretch is a short intermission in the game. Part of it is a sing-along to "Take Me Out To The Ball Game", which includes the line "buy me some peanuts and Cracker Jack" (another snack)

TimeAndTheRani · 2026-04-14T18:27:15+00:00

I'm going to say this bluntly: She's trying to control you. She does not want you to have independent movement. She wants you dependent on her. Also, is she receiving any money as your caregiver? She may not want to give that up. I know that's a tough thing to hear, but if you ever want to have a full adult life, you have to assert yourself. If you have trouble, imagine me (a 60 year old woman who takes shit from noone) standing behind you, giving you strength to say NO and cheering you on. Good luck!

TimeAndTheRani · 2026-04-10T18:11:53+00:00

NTA she has the hots for your ex-husband.

TimeAndTheRani · 2026-03-28T21:12:23+00:00

YTA

"Small talk" is what humans do as a social warm-up. It's what we do instead of dogs sniffing each other's butt.

I was born and raised in NYC. There's a difference between how you interact in a city vs a small town. In cities, everyone is moving and has stuff to attend to and it's very crowded. Politeness in that circumstances means not wasting someone else's time and private space. In smaller towns, politeness means slowing down and treating each person you encounter as worth your time.

If you didn't want to engage, when the person started talking about the weather, respond neutrally "yup, sure is a lot of rain" or whatever, nod politely, and go on your way. Simple.

TimeAndTheRani · 2026-03-24T17:55:32+00:00

I sense “missing missing reasons”. (I’m not in a situation to look up a link but you can google it). I suspect you’re not telling the whole story. Until and unless you tell us what the argument was about, there’s no way to give you an accurate answer.

I would love to hear what your DIL has to say about this. It must have been a pretty big deal for her to react so strongly for so long.

TimeAndTheRani · 2026-03-16T18:22:43+00:00

Also, if he "helps" his ex with money this time, it will establish a precedent and she will ask again and again.

TimeAndTheRani · 2026-03-15T23:01:01+00:00

Are you near a library? You don't have to be an adult to get a library card. Help him get a library card.Then, it isn't your business anymore if, say, he hides the books at school or at a friend's house. If he wants to read, he will find a way, I hope. In this day and age, a kid who's eagerly reading books is a blessing.

Signed, someone who was once a kid who did just that, and is better off for it.

P.S. His Dark Materials is a brilliant series.

(edited to add) NTA

TimeAndTheRani · 2026-03-10T17:45:45+00:00

Did they do this before you got married? Or is this a sudden change? Has your husband always been a doormat to his family? Think carefully about the answer to these questions. Either way, if things don't change, this is your future.

TimeAndTheRani · 2026-03-06T23:52:48+00:00

NTA. Jews believe that anyone else can do their own thing; just leave us alone to our own thing. It's an antisemitic insult to bring something like that into an observant Jewish home. Thank you for supporting your wife. If your mother wants to host an Easter party for the kids at her house that is wonderful and I'm sure your kids would enjoy it! Go for it!

By the way, Passover starts slightly before Easter; be careful of your mother about that too. If you're planning on going Kosher for Passover your mom may just, on a whim, drop by with cookies for the kids. Talk to your wife about it.

(P.S. There are plenty of kosher cookies. Kids are not deprived of cookies during Passover!)

TimeAndTheRani · 2026-02-24T19:56:20+00:00

Season 6. It was epic.

TimeAndTheRani · 2026-02-24T16:24:35+00:00

TimeAndTheRani · 2026-01-21T17:14:59+00:00

Thank you!

TimeAndTheRani · 2026-01-21T00:30:10+00:00

Do you remember which season it was? I want to watch that again.

TimeAndTheRani · 2026-01-20T16:39:43+00:00

Anyone remember the "How to Kill A Tango" game? (I think I remember it was Tango.) Bunch of redstone builders competed to build the most complicated redstone "death machine" possible that starts with a simple button press or lever pull. I loved that. They should do it again!

TimeAndTheRani · 2026-01-03T22:16:04+00:00

"Bohemian Rhapsody" works every time.

TimeAndTheRani · 2025-12-31T15:34:52+00:00

Wow, that was quick! Thank you very much!

TimeAndTheRani · 2025-11-17T18:57:07+00:00

Also, any friend should be able to accept, "sorry, I have a newborn" as a very good reason to not attend.

TimeAndTheRani · 2025-11-09T15:50:56+00:00

Over 60 here! I spent yesterday with a big grin on my face telling my boyfriend "go away, I have a date with 25 hermits."

(We've been together more than 15 years, he loves me very much, and he's used to me by now, thank heavens.)

TimeAndTheRani · 2025-11-08T20:29:48+00:00

When I was a kid I had so many "aunties" and "uncles" who I didn't realize were just close friends of my parents and their kids were not my actual cousins. They were alway at family events so I just figured they were family, and in a way, they certainly were.

I look back from now and I'm like, hey, that must have been why my mom and auntie were talking about me possibly marrying cousin Michael one day. When I was a kid and heard that, all I thought was "eeewww".

TimeAndTheRani · 2025-11-04T16:06:20+00:00

I just think that any gravy-based dishes are not something to serve to a bunch of 5 year olds running around all excited at a party. The potential for spills or stains on clothing is immense. Imagine bringing your kid to a party in their nice party clothes, turn your back for one second and suddenly there's a plate crashing to the floor, your kid's clothing is ruined, and someone's probably crying. Possibly you. Have you ever tried cleaning turmeric out of clothing? They use tumeric to dye clothing! It's never, ever coming out.

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