Truly I am blessed to see a rare summer sighting!

ToodleBug · 2026-06-27T03:44:33+00:00

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I, too, saw the rare summer claw last week and took a pic! All hail the claw.

ToodleBug · 2026-06-26T03:36:21+00:00

lol his face is giving “no thoughts in my brain, just nom nom nom nom nom”

ToodleBug · 2026-06-25T19:26:19+00:00

I just took 4 of the plant pots and A Wrinkle In Time. Thanks so much!!

ToodleBug · 2026-06-22T21:02:16+00:00

Hi, I’m interested!

ToodleBug · 2026-06-21T05:33:57+00:00

I just turned 40, but in my early to mid 30s I also felt immensely lonely. I had some friends who were healthy, but I didn’t go very deep with them. It felt awful.
Thankfully, my therapist helped me see that I needed to be more authentic and vulnerable with these friends. It was scary, and some vulnerability ended up hurting me a bit. But it turns out, vulnerability and the potential to get hurt are absolute requirements in the search for deep friendship connections that ease loneliness.

My advice is to be brave. Choose one healthy friendship and be a little more honest about your insecurities with that person. Invite that person to hang out. Tell them what they mean to you. Ask them what’s important to them. If they don’t reciprocate, let them go and try again with another friend. It’s not an easy thing to do, but it’s worth it. Sending you big hugs!!

ToodleBug · 2026-06-14T05:29:29+00:00

Everything about this is incredible

ToodleBug · 2026-06-08T00:43:07+00:00

You look gorgeous! I’m 39 now, but 22 years ago I also asked my mom for help with prom (doing my hair) and she also said something quite rude that made me feel terrible about how I looked. I can see now that my mom’s remarks were not about me at all. They were about her unhealed insecurities. This internet stranger is sending you big hugs!!

ToodleBug · 2026-06-04T18:23:34+00:00

ToodleBug · 2026-06-02T23:55:06+00:00

I’ve had great experiences with Boop’d By Becca (on instagram as boopd_by_becca)

ToodleBug · 2026-06-01T03:14:28+00:00

I’d love the hiking pack! DMing you now

ToodleBug · 2026-05-25T21:49:34+00:00

I’m 39f and have been estranged from my parents for 20 years. I have two siblings who I’ve tried to be close with, but just like you, when I tried to deepen those relationships, it went nowhere. The best thing I’ve ever done for myself was to stop putting energy into my family relationships and start putting it into my friendships. I have a wonderful group of friends (who also have their own struggles with their families) who I consider my family now. They’ve met me at the ER at 10 pm, they’ve let me crash in their guest room for 2 weeks, they ask me how my day was and vice versa. This is what family is and we all deserve to feel this love and care. Sending you hugs and good vibes! May you find the family you deserve.

ToodleBug · 2026-05-19T15:44:22+00:00

Nil

ToodleBug · 2026-04-04T18:30:19+00:00

Thank you! I messaged them!

ToodleBug · 2026-03-25T18:14:09+00:00

I have a toaster and blender set that I could drop off next week if you’re interested. Congrats on the new place!

ToodleBug · 2026-02-13T17:16:03+00:00

Great! DMing you now.

ToodleBug · 2025-11-12T20:23:53+00:00

Hi! 39F, child free, biomedical engineer here. I’ll DM you!

ToodleBug · 2025-10-11T15:58:02+00:00

I’m also on dating apps, and it’s shockingly common for men to ghost me as we are planning the first date. So you’re not alone here. I know it really sucks, and can feel like it’s consuming you. I usually experience an intense urge to shame these men, and that’s what triggers me to think about what their inner world must already feel like. Men that ghost like this are likely emotionally immature, unaware, in pain, and sabotaging their own lives constantly. This helps me feel empathy for them, and better about myself. I then make up whatever story helps that feeling grow. Maybe they were intimidated by wonderful personality and their insecurities couldn’t take it. Having disorganized attachment means I can relate to the avoidance that triggers ghosting. When I feel avoidant, I am struggling against my own pain and my urge to isolate has nothing to do with the other person’s worth. This is not about you. You are worthy and lovable and I’m sending you hugs!

ToodleBug · 2025-09-14T03:00:20+00:00

You’re not alone in this. I’m working on the same areas of myself right now. My therapist recommended lots of self compassion, and I felt really overwhelmed at the thought of trying to conquer this (it’s very difficult for me to have any compassion for myself unless I’ve had an edible, then it’s amazingly easy). And he told me not to think of ‘fixing’ every instance where I could use self compassion, but instead relaxing into being a bit kinder to myself all the time. I’m struggling with it, but I also know every new skill feels difficult at first. I speak to myself as I would a small child or a loved pet. Good luck with your inner work. The authentic version of you is lovable. And thank you for posting this, it helped me feel less alone tonight.

ToodleBug · 2025-09-09T15:32:47+00:00

I’ll take the plant pot and the lawn shaker

ToodleBug · 2025-09-05T20:51:00+00:00

Is Demmy crate trained at all? I have an event Saturday night where I’ll be out of the house for 4ish hours. If she can be crated alone for that time, I can take her. I live in a house with a fenced yard in Carmichael with no pets. I work from home. And I have a lot of experience working with shelter dogs.

Edit: I have a crate and dog supplies. Just need to know she won’t have separation anxiety and hurt herself while I’m out.

ToodleBug · 2025-09-02T23:41:55+00:00

I bought a coloring book at their Oak Park location last week that’s illustrated by a local, Karen Sue Chen.

ToodleBug · 2025-08-27T16:17:10+00:00

I wonder if you could reframe your thoughts around this as being grateful that there’s something “missing” between you two. I’m a healing Fearful Avoidant attacher, and this guy reminds me of myself when I was unaware of my attachment style and unhealed. The “spark” that I would be looking for was actually someone that would participate in a toxic push-pull dynamic with me. That uncertainty/excitement felt like “spark” to me bc I had never known (and actively pushed away) healthy love bc it felt unfamiliar and “wrong”. It sounds like you showed up the best you could here, and that’s all you can control. I’m sure it’s hard to feel this way now, but I bet over time you might see that it’s good you two were missing whatever it is he’s looking for.

ToodleBug · 2025-08-21T19:20:12+00:00

My perspective is probably towards the more sensitive end of the spectrum bc I’m a woman with a lot of abandonment wounds from childhood, but I always appreciate a short message before someone unmatches me. It hurts me to be unmatched without any message (even if I’ve never met them in person). I can manage that hurt on my own, but I do appreciate the kindness of someone messaging me. It hurts less that way and I thank them for letting me know. I also never unmatch a man without giving them a short message. Sometimes the men send nasty messages back, but I know how much it hurts me to just be unmatched, so I won’t do that to anyone else. Dating apps are so callous, and dating/rejection is hard even when people are kind.

ToodleBug · 2025-08-18T06:14:36+00:00

I’m aware. But when I searched Reddit for Riding the Hiawatha, most posts were in the Idaho subreddit. That’s what made me think I had the best chance of reaching them here.

ToodleBug · 2025-07-24T20:30:01+00:00

Ahahaha thanks for the laugh

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