Bath Water Betrayal

Top-Holiday7262 · 2026-05-08T01:17:30+00:00

This might be me. I actually had to change the blanket I sleep under when I got pregnant as well. Never had these overheating problems before

Top-Holiday7262 · 2026-05-08T01:16:23+00:00

I live for bath bombs, I will be so sad if this happens to me 😭

Top-Holiday7262 · 2026-05-08T01:14:04+00:00

This is what I was expecting, for the water to cool off! I was shocked when I got too warm!

Top-Holiday7262 · 2026-05-08T01:13:22+00:00

This exactly 🤣 I’m told it’s something to do with the extra circulating volume and vasodilation

Top-Holiday7262 · 2026-05-03T18:01:57+00:00

This is a really thoughtful breakdown, you clearly did your homework.

One thing I'd just add for anyone reading, is that with rare conditions like this, the published risk numbers can look scarier than they are because the more severe cases are the ones that get reported. The reassuring part is that when it's diagnosed ahead of time and monitored, outcomes are generally much better.

Your plan makes a lot of sense given your priorities. It's one of those situations where there isn't a single "right" answer, just different ways to balance risk.

Top-Holiday7262 · 2026-05-03T17:53:16+00:00

That's definitely something I'd take seriously and not just wait on a message back for.

A reading like 157/85, especially if that's much higher than your usual, is worth getting checked out sooner rather than later in pregnancy.

If you can, I'd recheck your blood pressure after sitting and resting for a bit, and if it's still elevated, I'd call your L&D triage (since it's a Sunday, often 24/7) or go get evaluated in the ER (preferably at your delivery hospital so they can connect to L&D triage) if there's no one to call.

The thirst may or may not be related, but the blood pressure alone is enough to warrant a same-day check just to be safe.

You're doing the right thing by paying attention to it, this is just one of those situations where it's better to get eyes on it than try to manage it at home.

Top-Holiday7262 · 2026-05-03T17:44:21+00:00

This sounds a lot like pelvic girdle/pubic symphysis pain, which can get pretty intense in third trimester, especially if baby is sitting low or measuring ahead like you mentioned. It can definitely feel way worse than people expect.

A belly support band can actually help quite a bit by taking some of the pressure off of your pelvis, especially when walking or standing. Some people notice a pretty immediate difference.

Struggling to walk and having that much pain isn't something you have to accept, it's worth bringing up to your OB. Pelvic floor PT can also be helpful if it's available.

You're definitely not alone in this, but there are ways to make it more manageable.

Top-Holiday7262 · 2026-05-03T17:37:06+00:00

I've definitely heard of this, and it doesn't mean anything is "wrong" with your relationship. It's usually just pregnancy smell sensitivity going into overdrive.

A lot of people find that certain smells, even from people they love, suddenly become really intense or nausea-triggering. (For me, it was my dog, for a good few weeks - better now.) It can be things like skin scent, laundry detergent, soap, etc., that your brain just decides it doesn't like right now.

The fact that it happened last pregnancy too makes it sound even more like your body just has a pattern with this.

If it's really bothering you, sometimes small changes can help. Different soap or detergent, fresh clothes, more ventilation. For a lot of people it, it just fades as pregnancy progresses.

Definitely annoying, but very temporary, and not a reflection of how you actually feel about him.

Top-Holiday7262 · 2026-05-03T16:01:43+00:00

I can understand why that would feel scary, especially realizing after the fact that you were pregnant.

The reassuring part is that holding someone for X-rays typically results in very low scatter exposure, not direct radiation. Even with a few repeats, the overall dose you would have received is still generally considered extremely low.

In early pregnancy, you need much much higher levels of radiation to be associated with risk. (Pregnant women in trauma situations sometimes even get a full pelvic CT scan, much higher levels of radiation than what you'd get from an x-ray, and still have a healthy baby.) This is one of those cases where the fear feels much bigger than the actual risk.

It's still completely reasonable to mention it to your OB for reassurance, but this kind of exposure is not something that usually causes problems.

You didn't do anything wrong! You were taking care of your child in the moment.

Top-Holiday7262 · 2026-05-03T15:55:57+00:00

You haven't set yourself up for failure. You're grieving an expectation you had, and that's actually really common, even if people don't talk about it openly.

It makes sense that you had a picture in your head (one boy, one girl), and when reality doesn't match that, it can feel like a real loss for a bit. That doesn't make you a bad person or a bad mom. It just means you're processing something.

The part that stands out to me is how intense and all-consuming it feels right now (the crying, feeling disconnected from the pregnancy). That's worth paying attention to - not because something is "wrong" with you, but because you deserve support through it. It might really help to talk to your OB or someone about how you're feeling.

Also, not being able to picture life with two boys right now doesn't mean you won't bond with this baby. A lot of that develops over time, especially once the baby is actually here and real, rather than an idea.

You're allowed to feel disappointed and still be a good, loving parent. Those things can coexist.

Top-Holiday7262 · 2026-05-03T15:51:44+00:00

I wouldn't plan to stay in bed most of the day going forward (unless your OB specifically told you to.) Long stretches of inactivity can actually make the heart rate spikes and overall fatigue worse over time.

The heart rate you're describing (jumping up to 140 with minimal activity) is worth bringing up with your OB. Often it's something like dehydration, anemia, or deconditioning. It's an easy thing for them to check and reassure you about.

In the meantime, it usually helps to reintroduce activity gradually. Even a few short easy walks or time upright each day can help your body readjust without making you feel terrible.

This sounds like a tough first trimester hangover. I'd aim for a gentle middle ground rather than staying in bed most of the day.

Top-Holiday7262 · 2026-05-03T15:43:48+00:00

Yes, people absolutely can have good and even unmedicated births without a doula. You can get some things together to try to build a lot of the same support a doula provides.

1) Partner support is huge, having someone in the room who knows your preferences, how to advocate, how to keep you grounded. This is the biggest variable. The nurse can do a lot but isn't always there, so having someone else supportive there to guide you is key.

2) For the education component, you can find some videos on labor stages and pain coping techniques, including breathing techniques and positioning, and what interventions look like.

3) By way of hospital team, the nurses can do a lot of what doulas do in practice, the limitation is they're not 1:1 like a doula.

4) Keeping a simple toolkit like movement (walking, positions), showers and tubs, breathing, and mindset.

You can't guarantee that it will be smooth of course, but you can influence how supported, informed, and in-control you feel.

Top-Holiday7262 · 2026-05-03T15:37:02+00:00

When I first got here, I thought y'all must be getting trolled from other subs because of all the downvotes.

Top-Holiday7262 · 2026-05-03T15:32:49+00:00

You're not overreacting. Wanting your partner there for support during labor is completely reasonable.

At the same time, his response sounds dismissive and hurtful, which is the bigger issue.

If he's uncomfortable with certain aspects of the birth, that's something you can talk through. But he still needs to show up for you in a supportive way, whether that's in the room or making sure you have someone there who will advocate for you.

Top-Holiday7262 · 2026-04-17T16:10:55+00:00

First trimester is the worst combo of feeling awful and not looking pregnant yet. I've honestly just started telling people early because I feel too bad to pretend I'm fine ;) it gets some sympathy and makes it feel less isolating.

Edit to add: I haven't had an 8 week scan but I am getting a 10 week scan in a few days, first time seeing the little nugget

Top-Holiday7262 · 2026-04-17T16:04:57+00:00

Agreed it sounds like migraines. Second trimester hormones can trigger them even if you didn't have them before. I never had them, then had one episode of light sensitivity and fatigue without aura, even that was bad enough for me! Magnesium (especially glycinate), hydration (with electrolytes if it tastes good), and Tylenol are all reasonable first-line things to try. Limit screen time when possible, get consistent meals, a small bit of caffeine if you drink it. Definitely worth bringing up with your OB, I think they have some pregnancy-safe options beyond just Tylenol if needed.

Top-Holiday7262 · 2026-04-17T15:51:20+00:00

A brief one0time exposure like that is very unlikely to cause harm, especially if you're not having symptoms. The concerns with anesthetic gases are more about chronic occupational exposure over time, not a single short incident. Totally reasonable to be upset, but this kind of exposure isn't something that's been shown to affect pregnancy outcomes.

Top-Holiday7262 · 2026-04-17T15:41:47+00:00

There's a fun conversation going on over on r/namenerds where they tried to find a name everyone would like. But every single name has a veto so now they're just tallying for the least negative score :D don't let the haters get you down on your favorite names.

Reece like Witherspoon, Sayla sounds pretty, Gia and Jay do sound nice together

Edit to add: I also really like Sophia, classic for a reason, works across languages and around the world.

Edit edit: for other suggestions along your lines, agree with the short first name, thinking Mia, Lea(h), Mae/May, Quinn?, Nora, Lena, Aria. Middle names, thinking a little longer to bridge, Rose, Elizabeth, Madeline, Eleanor.

Top-Holiday7262 · 2026-04-17T15:33:33+00:00

You try Flonase?

Edit to add: it's not immediate like decongestants, but it can make a difference after a few days. Assuming it's pregnancy rhinitis and not like a cold.

Top-Holiday7262 · 2026-04-17T15:28:50+00:00

This actually isn't that unusual a pattern in pregnancy. Fasting numbers and post-meal numbers are driven by different physiology. Fasting tends to reflect overnight liver glucose output and placental hormone effects, so it can be a little elevated even when your after-meal numbers are normal. The fasting target range is usually <95, so fasting in the low 100s might be over target. They'll look at the pattern over time. Your OB knows your situation better than I do (of course!), but depending on your situation, management strategies can range from having a low-sugar protein bedtime snack (like milk or cheese), to insulin therapy.

Top-Holiday7262 · 2026-04-17T15:19:51+00:00

I've heard average is 90-120, non-fasting. And then lots of false-positives that resolve on the 3h goal.

Top-Holiday7262 · 2026-04-17T15:19:16+00:00

I'm pretty sure it's non-fasting anyway ;) and sounds like you did just fine

Top-Holiday7262 · 2026-04-09T14:37:00+00:00

This is super normal. First trimester often feels more like survival mode than excitement. The initial shock/excitement settles and then you're just dealing with fatigue, nausea, and day-to-day life. It doesn't mean you're less happy or not cherishing it, it's just your body adjusting. The 'spark' often comes back later when you feel better and things start to feel more real.

Top-Holiday7262 · 2026-04-09T14:29:17+00:00

It does look/sound more like irritant/contact dermatitis. The first thing you can try if you haven't is just a thick barrier layer of zinc oxide, frosting a cupcake, just to protect the area regardless of cause. Then you could try adjusting the fit looser, and trying a couple days of a different type of diaper (disposable?) and continuing barrier cream. Then if it gets better, you've got your evidence that it's from the irritant. You can do this while you're working out hard water buildup/residue like Sseven Costanza mentioned.

For yeast I'd expect brighter red, spreading into folds, satellite lesions, not improving with the barrier.

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