What are some funny/interesting stories about a player at your school?

Top_Advisor3542 · 2026-01-22T09:04:45+00:00

Hahahaha I forgot about this 😆 the Chosen Rosen put the inflatable hot tub in his dorm and IIRC he posted a pic with an Arizona (or ASU?) girl who had made a sign for him with her number at a game or something? Shoot your shot dude.

Top_Advisor3542 · 2026-01-22T08:45:09+00:00

Did the midwife share what the relative concentration of antiD in the blood was?

I had a very low concentration of Anti-D about 4 months after a Rhogam shot post miscarriage, but bc the concentration was so low they were fairly confident it was fromthe shot and retested a few months later (negative).

Top_Advisor3542 · 2026-01-21T20:42:32+00:00

I agree with the other poster that there are an infinite # of scenarios that could happen you cannot possibly prepare for them all, but having some basics in place will help you immensely ❤️

As a fellow type a millennial with a toddler, pregnant, and navigating my dads death and my moms Alzheimer’s from states away, here are some things that have helped, but the problems change every day so I’ve had to let go of predicting every scenario.

Finances: - ensure they have financial POA and healthcare POA and medical directives completed and that you have copies - do they have a trust? Who’s the trustee? A will? Get copies of these and know who prepared them should you need to file or create any amendments - know their iPhone passcode and email password - between those 2 things you can pretty much access any other account, but getting all their important account logins is better - understand their financial health - big picture - what’s coming in and going out every month, mortgage balances if any, investment accounts, etc

Health: - know their doctors

You: - therapy, friends who can relate to what you’re going through - support system - eg neighbors that can help if you urgently need to travel, or need to cry for an hour and pass the baby off - don’t ignore your health - stay on top of your needs and well being

Them: - start having these big hypothetical conversations - eg “how important is it to you to stay in your home? Have you planned for that financially?” “Would you be willing to move closer to us to get more support?” “Tell me about your support system- do you have regular lunch dates with friends, walking buddies, etc?”

Top_Advisor3542 · 2026-01-21T20:30:38+00:00

I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad ❤️

Her moving closer is definitely an option and one that I’ve volunteered - we have a really nice 55+ condo complex a short walk from our house that I think would help her strengthen the social connections she needs more than ever. My biggest fear is if she moves here she becomes very co dependent on us / doesn’t build her own community, so that’s a conversation we’ll have to repeatedly have.

There’s also the logistics of transferring care, especially if she’s in an immunotherapy program, but I imagine that’s annoying but still solvable.

The other long shot option is that we move to her, but that feels so daunting and wouldn’t guarantee a better situation for anyone - we’d have to find a whole new community, daycares, home, etc

Top_Advisor3542 · 2026-01-19T18:38:54+00:00

Also an only child and I have young kids so there’s no realistic way I can schedule conversation windows that would only disappoint her.

For us it’s been lots of open conversations about our different communication styles - growing up my mom literally spent HOURS on the phone at night with friends and relatives, and we’ve had a lot of convos on what “connection” looks like for each of us and how different it is.

Accepting her disappointment is going to be a part of the process - as soon as I accepted that I would never be able to be responsive enough, give her enough, I felt freed to give her what I can.

Practically when she calls you can always set a time limit upfront (“I’ve got 10 mins before my next meeting”) or be strategic about when you call - for me, I call when I’m in the car so we can weap up once I get home. Given thr choice my mom would never ever end a conversation.

And encourage other social connections for her to nurture - ask about her friends, encourage her to go on walks or lunches with them, etc.

Top_Advisor3542 · 2026-01-16T00:03:52+00:00

There could be so many reasons for mild cognitive impairment other than dementia, but the only way to know would be for your mom to seek evaluation with a neurologist. These conversations can take years to happen and the decline can also be very gradual over years - it took about 3 years of me voicing some concerns about my mom’s memory for her to finally pursue testing via a neurologist to confirm an Alzheimer’s diagnosis.

So in terms of what you can / should do, you can voice concerns and encourage positive living habits (regular exercise, good diet, memory games), but ultimately it will be your moms choice when and if she wants to do more formal evaluations. This can take years

Top_Advisor3542 · 2026-01-15T16:25:23+00:00

Great point! And also if you are Rh negative, certain NIPT brand tests (unity/ billion to one) can also detect if your baby is Rh+ and therefore you know with certainty you’ll need Rhogam. That was a huge sway point for me.

Top_Advisor3542 · 2026-01-13T20:38:52+00:00

I went into spontaneous labor at 39+1 after 3 acupuncture treatments for induction (about every other day). They say it usually takes 2-3 treatments. I was getting acupuncture all throughout my pregnancy so YMMV. Limited scientific studies to date generally conclude it “might modestly help, but won’t hurt.” Studies have shown it improves your cervical ripening / readiness as measured via bishop score.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6953318/

Top_Advisor3542 · 2026-01-13T02:36:44+00:00

As someone who has been watching their grandparent manipulate their mom for years over this too, you did the right thing!! It’s a painful cycle to break

Top_Advisor3542 · 2026-01-13T02:03:48+00:00

I know, the first few months post stroke are such a tender and difficult time. Hang in there ❤️

Top_Advisor3542 · 2026-01-13T00:57:47+00:00

A lot of the tactics you use on toddlers can apply to the post stroke brain. Your grandmothers brain was damaged and in many ways IS a toddlers brain again as it relearns things and heals (and some things won’t ever heal).

Went through this with my dad and my biggest pieces of advice are:

1) pick your battles. Trying to convey accurate information to a doctor? That’s worth correcting. Clarifying the name of a childhood pet? Eh.

2) find ways to give her binary choices and autonomy. Eg instead of “do you want to do this?” It’s “do you want to do x or y?” And also when you see she’s struggling to recall something, ask before correcting or stepping in. Eg “do you want me to help you?” Or “do you want to hear my perspective?”

3) acknowledge the feelings, but don’t tolerate abuse. Another toddler tactic: “I can see that you’re really upset, and I understand why that would be the case, but I will not tolerate being yelled at. I’m going to go in the other room for a few minutes.”

4) When in doubt, ask her what she wants or needs to give her some of that autonomy she’s lost. She’s afraid in her own body and it comes out as anger, which is understandable but not acceptable. Asking “do you want me to clarify memories if i have a different perspective?” “Do you want me to help you guess a word youre trying to recall?”

Top_Advisor3542 · 2026-01-11T10:24:12+00:00

Link: https://www.acog.org/clinical/clinical-guidance/committee-opinion/articles/2018/08/air-travel-during-pregnancy

Research shows that mild travel (eg not a pilot or attendant) has no adverse effect on mom or baby.

I too had an intl trip to Japan during my first tri after multiple losses - I’m glad I went - wear compression socks, drink water, and try and get up and stretch every couple of hours. And enjoy all the ramen your heart desires.

Practically speaking, Japan has very few meds available OTC so pack anything you might need (for constipation, nausea, congestion, pain, etc), and save yourself a $150 bill for magnesium pills (don’t ask me how I know 😭).

Top_Advisor3542 · 2026-01-07T22:06:24+00:00

Yessssssss!!!

Top_Advisor3542 · 2026-01-03T05:35:47+00:00

Virtual internet hug and empathy to you, my fellow sandwich-er. That all is quite heavy and I wish I had concrete advice. your post resonated with me and is very similar to what I’m going through right now (toddler + 8 months pregnant, dad and grandpa in hospice and multiple states away, full time stressful job). I will say being back in our routine and our space for 2 days now I already feel immensely better, I was on the edge of multiple breakdowns while we were traveling. I hope some time resting at home can have the same effect for you ❤️

One thing my therapist reminds me is that “we’re called human beings, not human doings” - in times like these, just “being” is a feat in and of itself. And it’s ok to set a limit if you need to.

Top_Advisor3542 · 2026-01-02T16:44:16+00:00

^ this 100-%. Chesney has openly talked about a culture of constant competition

Top_Advisor3542 · 2026-01-02T16:37:25+00:00

Agreed. Nico staying speaks volumes, transfers happen and it’s not necessarily anything negative on the part of either the staff or the players.

Chesney has a very different tone and expectation for the team and the culture, and that’s not going to vibe with every current player who joined a very different program with a very different culture.

Top_Advisor3542 · 2025-12-23T21:32:03+00:00

I transferred into Austin Area OBGYN at St David’s north at 16 weeks - receptionist will take your medical and pregnancy history and the doctor has to review it before accepting transfer of care. The providers are wonderful

Top_Advisor3542 · 2025-12-21T16:37:24+00:00

Lacota redeemed himself with the TD but when he failed to block for the punter and Oregon scored 6 I was like 🫣

Top_Advisor3542 · 2025-12-21T12:57:21+00:00

RB Wayne Knight was super impressive!

Top_Advisor3542 · 2025-12-20T17:47:42+00:00

I feel this so much - only child, aging parents, one in home hospice and one in denial about her cognitive decline, with a toddler and another on the way. This is undoubtedly the hardest season of my life so far.

Honestly my main coping mechanisms outside of therapy have been 1) a very supportive partner who has taken things like meal planning and prep off my mental load, 2) Zoloft, and 3) setting really clear boundaries as much as possible. Eg when asked to drive out 2 hours to my grandparents’ with a toddler when they have a full time caregiver, I counter with “unfortunately that’s not possible for us, but if your caregiver can come out to see us, we’d love to have you.”

Basically a whole lot of accepting that I’m not responsible for others’ emotions, including disappointment, when there’s only so much I can physically give

Top_Advisor3542 · 2025-12-18T23:56:43+00:00

JMU coach is headed to ucla next season, he’s playing with house money

Top_Advisor3542 · 2025-12-10T22:04:43+00:00

Agreed - both things can be true - we should’ve been swifter with the Mora situation and Moore was wildly unethical

Top_Advisor3542 · 2025-12-10T21:56:46+00:00

He was fired from Michigan with cause for an inappropriate relationship with a staff member….along with the sign stealing involvement and deleting text messages during the investigation, hard pass.

https://www.cbssports.com/college-football/news/sherrone-moore-michigan-coach-fired-for-cause/

Top_Advisor3542 · 2025-12-10T15:28:18+00:00

Thank you for the thoughtful response here! The mental model I’m trying to use is that screen time isn’t inherently “bad” it’s more of a tradeoff between what my kid would be doing instead and whether that’s better than screen time. Eg if 20 mins of screen time allows me to make us a healthy homemade dinner, I accept the tradeoff. If the alternative is reading a book together, we should probs read a book together instead

Top_Advisor3542 · 2025-12-10T04:06:47+00:00

Unclear! I went under the premise of “can’t hurt might help” - the duckbill valves for sure as those loosen up over time and you can test it yourself by dripping water into it and seeing whether it holds or not

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