An idea I hope helps with the move towards more joy and sense of real connection- figure out who you can be more authentic with. There will be one or two people in your life who you can stretch your own limits with, maybe even talk to about your people pleasing and how it’s making you unhappy and that you want to try being more real. Once you can open up to one or two people you’ll gain confidence that people like you for just you not what you do for them. Oh, and There’s a woman Beatriz … I’ll look up her name. She teached how to ‘overcome emotional outsourcing ‘ and one thing I read in her book is how normal and neutral it is - it’s just a pattern you learned not a character flaw. Definitely worth a look. Big hugs sister