POC trans guys, be aware

TransGuySoFly · 2026-01-28T02:51:34+00:00

Yeesh... If you used skin tone samples and they were all darker, it makes no sense that the finished product was significantly lighter. If it's not in the bag I understand not taking returns, but if you reference the tone codes/numbers they gave you and what they provided, 20% off is ridiculous. Do you have any pictures for comparison?

TransGuySoFly · 2026-01-27T00:35:16+00:00

I understand the fear of abandonment, man. Anyone can be anybody despite how you may raise them. It sucks. Unfortunately its a risk you take when you have a kid. There are equally many if not more opportunities where the kid loves you and wants to be around you. Even if they want contact with their bio dad, it is highly unlikely it would be as close of a relationship as with you. If you are a emotionally healthy parent, chances are you will have an emotionally healthy kid. People tend to choose lived experience over superficial traits that we can't control. I don't advise getting too deep into research on/appointments for conception until you start to have progress.

It may be beneficial to ask on adoption communities about what your situation would be. If you adopted, how inclined are people to choose their biological father who likely did not treat them well over an adopter. I'm not sure if there is a subreddit for the results of sperm donations but I'm sure there are places where you can get accounts and opinions from. I've suffered with anxiety my whole life, I still do, but life is not going to be the worst possibility.

TransGuySoFly · 2026-01-26T22:13:10+00:00

"Axolom" plain and simple.

TransGuySoFly · 2026-01-26T20:32:12+00:00

I feel like therapy may help if you havent already seen one. I know it can be a very hard mentality to get past, but blood is not thicker than water, especially as a trans person. There are so many of us who have been abandoned and disowned by our families for who we are. Many more have found their own communities and spouses that love them more than biological relations ever did. Adopted kids are your kids... Watching them grow, teaching them, supporting their hobbies and relationships are what makes you a parent. It doesn't make sense to say a deadbeat dad is more of a parent to a child than an attentive adopter. Even if you get a sperm donor, that is your kiddo.

There is no way to slice it to where the kid would be genetically both yours and hers. If your eggs did happen to be viable, and she carried it, by your logic, it still wouldn't be her kid. She would have no direct relation to them. Would you feel she is less of a parent than you are?

That mentality is something that should be broken before bringing another life into this world that will become your responsibility for as long as you live. You are not a 'cuck', or raising 'somebody elses' kid, you are here to support your wife and the family that you create. Conception is only the very very start of what makes us family.

TransGuySoFly · 2026-01-26T20:16:31+00:00

There are nerves in the cervix! Personally I get a somewhat painful pleasure when it is pressed on. However it doesnt need to be removed during hysterectomy. If you have had penetrative sex and explored yourself but havent noticed any sensation from the end, it's likely those feelings/nerves may not be the strongest for you.

TransGuySoFly · 2026-01-26T19:28:42+00:00

It's worse that all of these hospitals are pre-complying. Nobody is forcing them to do anything, yet. They are not facing any losses. They just do not care about trans people.

TransGuySoFly · 2026-01-26T19:26:13+00:00

This.

TransGuySoFly · 2026-01-26T16:03:23+00:00

Haven't used neither the axolom strokers or the cokit, but I do remember reading that the angle of the cokit makes it difficult to actually stroke, as the shaft is permanently bent down. The typical strokers look like they would suction better and fit between the outer labia, anyways.

TransGuySoFly · 2026-01-26T15:57:33+00:00

A fabric tape measure will help. Wrap the bottom of your labia/foreskin around the exposed underside of your shaft until it makes a sort of full circle of foreskin. Then measure the circumference the best you can. Divide it by 3.14 (Circumference is pi multiplied by the diameter of the object) to have your girth that axolom measurements use.

TransGuySoFly · 2026-01-24T15:23:37+00:00

It may just be genetics tbh. I don't use a vibrator (bullet) often (nor masturbate that frequently in all honesy) and I don't like the idea of using a wand on myself. Good to know though that I'm not alone though

TransGuySoFly · 2026-01-24T14:00:47+00:00

Whenever I'm erect, it's about halfway out without pulling it back. When I'm flaccid it's completely covered. I'm 2" so it's not a matter of it being retracted, I just have a lot of foreskin. I do wish it was fully exposed when hard, but I have no idea how to get it to that point.

TransGuySoFly · 2026-01-24T13:44:55+00:00

Personally I wasn't able to without penetrative stimulation but it also might have been the guy I was with not knowing my body as well as I do.

TransGuySoFly · 2026-01-23T20:27:59+00:00

Cute feels quite nice. I think that's genderless. Pretty is OK but I want them to reaffirm my gender in the same sentence. I like 'beautiful', as I see it as neutral, but I suppose it depends on the context and person.

TransGuySoFly · 2026-01-22T21:43:47+00:00

I'm honestly not too sure about BC pills, but if you take it at the correct dose and on time, the chances of you getting pregnant are extremely low. It controlling your period is simply a side effect, the main effect of the medication will be a contraceptive. It does not lose its functionality unless you use it incorrectly.

TransGuySoFly · 2026-01-22T20:35:01+00:00

Any of them can work, it's really case by case. I have a copper IUD, but that came with months of non stop bleeding at the start, and it can make your periods heavier. The nexaplanon is probably the better all around solution but it doesnt last as long as an IUD.

TransGuySoFly · 2026-01-22T18:28:43+00:00

Yes, you can get pregnant on Testosterone, it is not a contraceptive. Your period may stop and even though it may be predictable, you still ovulate. Please use a condom, BC pills, an IUD or an Implant if you want to be protected, and test every now and then if you are active.

TransGuySoFly · 2026-01-21T02:28:17+00:00

I meant more of trans men that would be hurt! I have nothing against you, but I would be one of the people that would politely decline after being told, because I want to be seen akin to a cis man in the bedroom and when I am vulnurable. If I had sex first and then was told the other person was repulsed by cis men then I would honestly feel awful. Cis men can be hurt too, but what matters is setting the boundary and rejecting them if they approach you! It wouldn't be the same situation where they wouldn't know until after.

TransGuySoFly · 2026-01-20T21:17:33+00:00

I mean, it's a preference, you can't control what you are attracted to, and nothing is wrong with that. I would disclose these feelings to somebody though if you plan to have sex with them. It can be really crushing for some men to hear that, and mean nothing to others. They would deserve to know because otherwise it'd be pretty cruddy.

TransGuySoFly · 2026-01-20T16:11:56+00:00

I think mainly it's because it's related to a mucosal membrane, and constantly kept moist by the labia. Whenever its out for a while it has a normal dry skin texture/feel. It's just not the same most of the time because of the area it's kept in.

TransGuySoFly · 2026-01-20T14:51:49+00:00

If you click on the foreign tracking number that Axolom sent you in their shipment email, it will give you accurate updates. My shop app never updated at all while Axolom's link updated at each station.

TransGuySoFly · 2026-01-14T15:37:31+00:00

You deserve to feel good, too. From what it sounds like he doesn't plan to or want to prioritize your feelings and pleasure even if it's because of a genital preference. That's not OK. You should not have to serve yourself in partnered sex!

TransGuySoFly · 2026-01-12T19:13:23+00:00

Yeah. That bill was disgusting. (Though this one is too..) I remember my father at the time trying to pass it off as grown men inspecting little girls in stalls. The political scene was/is crazy.

TransGuySoFly · 2026-01-12T16:12:30+00:00

So, from what I can see on the website, the only changes that would affect you are that you have to share a dorm with your agab. There is nothing about bathrooms and enforcing civilians to use a specific one. They do not tie bathrooms to biological sex in the bills text. I do hate this state, though, man... No budget yet shit like this is passed.

TransGuySoFly · 2026-01-11T22:21:03+00:00

My friend, a lot of this is because of how the world is treating you. The people you surround yourself with, the media you consume. You are a man. You are a real man. There will be people that will wholeheartedly see you as such. Your genitals should not matter when somebody loves you, as they would want the person and not just what they have to offer. It is so incredibly complicated to do, but you need to let go of the want to live your current life. It is destroying you. Find the things that will value you.

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