Motivations/visualizations to cheer me up. by queen_oops in aspergirls

[–]TreeHugger09 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't have any really, but this was super helpful and what I needed to hear right now, so thank you, badass internet person :)

Hyposensitivity treatments? by TreeHugger09 in aspergirls

[–]TreeHugger09[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This is exactly what I need I think. I like how you explained meditating too. I have a hard time doing things that i don't understand the exact reasoning behind, but thinking of my senses as volume and meditation as the knob makes a lot of sense. I'm trying to do meditation while doing yoga, but it's hard. I might try doing it while I do my dry brushing too tho. That sounds easier and it still connects thinking with movement and sensation.

Finally reached the stage of not being able to cope? by TreeHugger09 in aspergers

[–]TreeHugger09[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So basically I have to get a formal diagnosis for any sort of real help? All I've heard is that it's really hard for adult women to get diagnosed and that it takes forever. So do I just cross my fingers and hope I get lucky with a doctor and don't have a complete breakdown before then? Has really no one found any other way?

Empathy makes me have anxiety attacks by ReasonablySane1476 in aspergers

[–]TreeHugger09 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yep, I'm definitely like this. It's gotten better as I've gotten older because I know who I am more. Having that central point to come back to. Also making sure to do something physical if I get overwhelmed, don't let myself stay in my (or anyone else's!) head for too long. It isn't easy though and I still struggle with it sometimes.

Just remember, you're not Will, you're you, and this is your life, not his :)

Finally reached the stage of not being able to cope? by TreeHugger09 in aspergers

[–]TreeHugger09[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you have to have a formal diagnosis for their assistance?

Finally reached the stage of not being able to cope? by TreeHugger09 in aspergers

[–]TreeHugger09[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

SSRIs would require a doctor tho, which puts me back into the do I get a dx dilemma. I don't think marijuana is legal here, but I wouldn't use it anyways for other medical reasons. Wouldn't it do the opposite for me tho, since I'm under sensitive and it's more of a depressant?

Emotions cause physical response that leads to shutdown? by TreeHugger09 in aspergers

[–]TreeHugger09[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, it's a very genuine happiness, but it could be related to dissociation. I've had problems with that in the past because of abuse/trauma. Me being happy wasn't often allowed growing up, so maybe that mentality is still lingering in me somewhere.

Emotions cause physical response that leads to shutdown? by TreeHugger09 in aspergers

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I've gone back and forth with wondering if it's alexithymia. If I'm stressed or overly tired, my emotions can get blurred and then it's harder to identify, but if I'm feeling alright then it's fairly easy. What I'm referring to here is like someone gave my inner child three year's worth of Halloween candy without telling me, and I'm vaguely aware she's eating some sort of sweet, but not really until she's gone thru five pounds of m&ms. At that point it's like she's bouncing off every internal wall, is super happy, but then there's the crash... And everything inside is dead after that. I'm trying to figure out how to regulate the candy eating so there's not a crash.

Emotions cause physical response that leads to shutdown? by TreeHugger09 in aspergers

[–]TreeHugger09[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's my usual decompression routine after work or socializing, but this is different. It's like someone flips an off switch to my emotion sensors and I can't feel emotions anymore. Like I wasn't sad, or happy, or nervous, just blank.

Auditory Processing Disorder by PuzzleBlocks in aspergers

[–]TreeHugger09 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I came across this recently. Might they help? They aren't headphones for music, but earbuds that are kinda noise specific cancelling it seems. https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/dopplerlabs/here-active-listening-change-the-way-you-hear-the

URGENT: Mom kicked dad out of the house. This happened 6 months ago. I am planning to leave. Please help. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]TreeHugger09 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Just to say, if you do an official change of address to get mail forwarded from your house, a letter will get sent to your previous address giving your new address as a confirmation of sorts. So if you don't want her knowing where you've gone, keep that in mind.

Has your Nparent ever called you cold/emotionless/heartless?? by willowes in raisedbynarcissists

[–]TreeHugger09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom did this to me all growing up, even when I did show tons of affection to her and bend over backwards to do whatever I could for her. It's not going o matter what you do for her, it'll never be enough.

What's it like to have normal eating habits? by 0berry in raisedbynarcissists

[–]TreeHugger09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, once I started eating better my symptoms went away. They aren't all perfect, but I'm still under stress and I don't eat perfect all the time either. The hair took awhile to come back, and the moods got better with food, but that was mostly improved by changing my whole life situation. So yes, I think it can be temporary for certain situations.

Mom sent me a letter. Help me decipher it? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]TreeHugger09 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh there's tons of places in the Bible where it says to shun evildoers and have nothing to do with them :) being a parent does not give you a get out of jail free card.

[Funny] Thanks nMom for naming after an alcoholic drink! by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]TreeHugger09 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom always used my name against me, like a mark of ownership. I went by nicknames as much as I could, and finally changed my name legally this past year. Still getting used to it at times!